now we've all made mistakes on a first date ordering that double cheeseburger only to
see that your date is ordering the salad or maybe you went in for a kiss right after the
guy tells you a really personal story about his mother or maybe showing up to the bowling alley
in such a tight skirt that you start watering up to the Lane and you look kind of like a
penguin but a beautiful Penguin at that now all of these in my opinion are pretty clearly first
date mistakes but honestly if I were to make a video about all the first aid mistakes that
are out there certainly that I've personally made and I've seen over the decade of being
a dating coach that list it could literally wrap around the Earth's surface 10 times so
instead of listing out every single mistake that one can make I'm going to be talking
more about first date Miss strategies all right mistakes in strategy and these will
give you some mental Frameworks that you can use for your next date keep watching
hey there Adam Littleton from low strategies.com where we help successful single women get out
there and attract long lasting love and do it with a proven strategy and here are a few mistakes that
you want to avoid when you go out there and meet men on first dates number one is try to control
him with your masculine energy now look masculine and feminine energy are kind of two halves of the
whole and both men and women need both of these energies but if you're looking for a
more masculine man then we need to lean into your feminine energy when you go on a date lean back
let him take the lead for example let's say you met a guy and he plans a date at like a pool hall
where you go and play pool and let's say that's not necessarily your idea for a good day that's
definitely not your cup of tea well instead of going ahead and booking something completely else
and telling him that is it date idea is so stupid and now you're gonna go to paint night with some
other guy that you met on Tinder instead of doing that all right let's just go with the flow and let
him try to impress you go to that pool hall you might be pleasantly surprised you gotta think of
it this way you as the female on the date you are the qualifier you lean back you're like that Queen
sitting on your throne deciding if he's right for you let him take you to that pool hall go
with the flow see if you're pleasantly surprised see if it's a great time and if it's not that we
say next and we move on to the next rather than trying to always control the situation and then
pushing away the good masculine men they're not going to stick around for that type of energy
learn to start receiving men's energy and by the way if you're receiving my energy from this video
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subscribe for more videos just like this number two is pretending like you're not interested in
him there is so much bad dating advice out there about being cold and having that RBF or resting
[ __ ] face and showing a guy that you are not interested in him so that you can somehow build
a connection with him here are love strategies we teach a very different approach I want you to
go on these dates and show a genuine interest in your guy ask thoughtful questions ask open-ended
questions use active listening show that you care and most guys kind of tend to talk about
themselves a little bit on a first date and that's usually because they're trying to impress a woman
they think that that's the right thing to do so when he's doing that especially on a first date
just show that interest in him and he in time will start to show interest in you and you can also
show interest with your body language as well for starters smile psychologists have found that when
you smile on a first date especially a genuine smile not like a pasted one like whatever that can
said really positive expectations for the rest of the day also maintain eye contact if you struggle
with making a constant eye contact with someone you're attracted to look at the bridge of his
nose it'll kind of take some pressure off of you and it'll appear like you're making eye contact
also lean in towards him give him that energy and show him that you're engaged and finally
don't forget that you can break that touch barrier and touch his arm lightly whenever and wherever it
is appropriate and if you want more more on this I have a special training at lovesstrategies.com
where I walk you through step by step how to show interest in a guy while also keeping the mystery
alive it's really interesting training check it out at lovestrategies.com the third biggest
mistake is to not have any interesting stories to share so uh tell me what do you like to do for fun
um well I um don't like to do anything um fun in my life I'm actually really lame
now look I get it most people don't have crazy exciting lives we don't have a lot going on
that's okay dating is all about positioning you don't have to have the most insane life
to still be impressive if you want to stand out and make a great first date impression
you want to be authentic but also sell yourself a little bit have some stories some interesting
things to talk about when you go on a date think about what is at least a little bit unique or a
little bit interesting about you in particular do you have an interesting hobby or maybe polar
opposite Hobbies like for example like you like to knit but you also are really into hiking whatever
it is those would be kind of opposite hobbies are interests anything that you can talk about
where you can bring a fun story to a date and if you don't have a lot of stories that's okay have
one good story that you can bring to a date and talk about even if you have to kind of like force
your way into telling that story it shows that you have something to talk about in the little
love steps we call this having a unique concise identity and this is one of the first exercises
we do is really help you define your identity or redefine your identity because ultimately when
you're dating it's all about positioning it's all about marketing now the fourth biggest mistake is
just detaching yourself from the date I mean this covers a very broad spectrum anywhere from just
texting while you're on the date with him or even just thinking about other guys or thinking about
work or other things going on we've all been there I get it when you're really busy or maybe you're
just going on a date but you really like someone else I get it but you're on a day with someone be
present and be active in the conversation but also be active on the date I mean if it's dinner I mean
eat it's maybe not like a double cheeseburger but if you have mini golf pick up that club and give
it a swing uh even if you've never done it before just get involved and be active you showed up
you're there with the guy be active and be engaged this is going to communicate to them that you're
actually interested in being there the fifth biggest mistake is just treating a date like it's
an interview too many of us especially the most accomplished of my clients take First Dates way
too seriously which overwhelms us with pressure seriously guys it's a first date it's not a job
interview and dating is supposed to be fun if it's not fun then we're doing it wrong it's time to let
loose a little bit and just kind of live it up and when you let loose and laugh and you start
to actually enjoy yourself even if the guy's not perfect even if he's not going to be the man that
you end up with you just kind of let loose a little bit that is where your heart starts to
really expand find some things that you really love about dating maybe it's getting dressed up
maybe it's enjoying a delicious meal maybe it's a glass of wine maybe it's just meeting someone
new or just all the possibilities in the air making memories just focus on the things that
you enjoy about dating and you know maybe put aside the things that you don't enjoy so much
so when you bring that energy to a date oh my God that's where it gets magnetic mistake number six
is to not let him pay for the bill ladies here's a PSA for all of you if a man offers to pay the
check say thank you and let him I get it you make your own income you are in an independent single
woman who doesn't need a man for anything I get it 100 but allowing him to pay allows him to step
into that masculine role and leaning back and letting him is you stepping into your feminine
and by the way being in that feminine energy that is the more powerful energy throughout the dating
process you are sitting back qualifying so let him pay and ultimately this allows him to step
into that masculine and making him get into that kind of provide her energy and this makes him want
to ultimately take care of you even though I know you don't need to be taken care of but he wants
to take care of you and he wants to provide for you and he wants to protect you and this builds
a rock solid tension that you can just cut with a knife and the final number seven biggest mistake
is just not making it clear that you had a great time with him if you enjoyed the night
with him and he took you out make it clear send him that text saying thank you so much I had an
amazing time with you don't be shy we want him to know that you had a good time and you would
of course be open to a second date if he wants to and if he doesn't then you know what it's his loss