hey what's up it's me Jessica J and this is my friend Paola P that's really her
name though I don't make this shit up so we were just wondering if you've ever
sat and thought to yourself what do I do if she's pulling away well I'm glad you asked
because today we're gonna talk about the four ways you can get her coming back to
you so that you could get her coming on you later and to make sure you never
miss out on another one of my videos or another girl who's pulling away from you
don't forget to hit the subscribe button right here the reason it's so important
to know what to do when a girl is pulling away is like pretty fucking
obvious right because you want to know cuz you like wanna be married and
live happily ever after like forever ever the truth is um we're not
even gonna really go over signs that she is pulling away you kind of just know
when someone's pulling away right yeah you like feel it in your dick like
that's where you feel it yeah like we feel it in our hearts you feel it on
your penis so we're just gonna go over really quick some ways you might feel
her pulling away I would say like I text less oh for sure less emojis less emojis
yes that's what you did another one is I
won't text back as fast yeah you can definitely tell this she's not nearly as
much effort as there used to be not nearly as much you can always tell me a
text always the attacks always be a text I'm
old-school I love phone calls love me some face time but texts secret still
though you talk on the phone she's busy oh I'm always fucking busy and it's not
so much everyone gets busy it's more that she never finds if it's not working
out this time she doesn't suggest another time to meet up yes yeah she
just doesn't want you anymore let's be real yeah but you can't get her back
do you really believe that you could get her back I know someone who could get me
back if they fucking wanted to okay so step number one is distancing
mm-hmm when I say distancing I mean you at least have to spend 30 days and not
speaking to this girl 30 days yeah Wow Wow
this is why 30 days it's perfect because right now she has a current perception
of you that is not working out the perception she has of you right now is
the reason she's like 9 online live so 30 days imagine if a guy stuck you mean
she just you just did it like I'm a guy stop hugging you for 30 days what would
you do I'd be like okay well that's exactly that's over I guess no and
that's the exact reaction you want you want her to be like well I guess this
guy's out on my leg now oh well the reason you need to distance yourself is
because she does have this perception of you
right and the only way to change that and you need to change it is to create
this divine and it needs to be a significant enough distance that she has
a reaction pehle pee head right here whoa which
brings me to step number 2 which is something I call the force fumble this
is where you come in and you enforce a new perception of yourself in her
perceptions if you don't know what football is okay without American
football here um the force Tom will do you know divorce formal is a fumble the
ball on purpose is gonna do this you know what no I'm gonna know so horse
fumble is when somebody is running with the ball and somebody comes out and like
ball and then it's open season for anybody to grab the ball this is what
you're gonna do with her perception of you as a guy she can pull away from so
right now she's running the ball this guy is somebody who shouldn't put his
pain in my vagine and then you come in and it's the 30 days no speaking and
she's like what happens where are you what changed and then you come back
after 30 days and you have to make this exchange about me first you second I'm
talking about man me first chick you second what you're doing is you're
retaking the lead you're forcing her to fumble this perception of you and you're
creating a new perception of yourself which is a man
where's no problem grabbing her balls and taking them back to keep them
yourself so for example you're gonna come in here to beg
hey there that just takes out this chick Walker with the Chihuahua - they made me
think of you huh and she'll be like oh hi nice to hear from you it's been a
while exactly that's point she's confused to
structure who they think he is like what the fuck just pick up where you left off
I haven't been chilling here expecting you to hit me up sooner but that's fine
that's fine that's fine but that's the reaction you want you want her to be
like what the f which brings me to step number three which is the realignment
what you're gonna do is you're gonna make these conversations go in your
favor where we started with me first her
second that's how you're gonna speak from now on if you let her get to a
point where she's pulling away from you that's because she has the lead she is
the one who is controlling this interaction she's the one who's taking
her balls and running away from them where before you might have been like
hey like do you wanna hear whenever you're not busy
no I'm I got a lot going on I'll let you know I will let you know what I want to
see you and none of that do you wanna like grab coffee sometime like so you
really like oh they always love to take grab a coffee so done oh yeah I'm just
really busy so let me look at my schedule and it's like I'll have to
figure it out you see good at spinning six years if you have my speed to spark
around the program which I will probably put up right here I talk about this
concept of me first you second we're not gonna put yourself in a position of
whatever you want I'll do it for you if you're busy I'll wait forever which
brings me to step number four now that your interactions are framed
with you leading the relationship leading the conversation leading all the
interactions what you're gonna do is you're gonna lead her to a place of
desire that means reforming that connection it's not all about her she's
not on a pedestal y'all aren't even playing fields now then getting her to
feel good about you like me girl pretty cute in back oh my god
song you gotta get her laughing right well wouldn't you fuck like any duty
made you laugh look at anybody remember that fuck you so hard but really women
just want to feel something emotional from you and that's why a lot of guys
who make a girl laugh can get her into bed because it's knowing how to I don't
want to say manipulate no it's knowing how to create that chemistry it's all
about chemistry so on the time care and you can create that mutual bond okay
we're both laughing it's the same thing look how awesome we are we got the same
things in common with hmmm try and yeah cuz I'm making you laugh yeah I realize
I have the D to make you what's gonna say P but it doesn't even just stop at
making her laugh because at the end of the day she needs to feel wanted she
needs to feel wanted from you this is why I give this four step sequence in my
speech or spark arousal program for the guys stuck in the friend zone because
the guys second the friendzone you know they're the ones that fall into the
category of friends and family as well so you need to make her feel wanted
that's why it's so important to eventually spark arousal which is why if
you haven't jumped on yet you can click here to put in your email and to get the
video on my speak to spark arousal program so those are the four steps if
she's pulling away from you and a reel her back in to yeah thanks for watching
guys this is Paola P you can check her out at her YouTube channel right here
right there thanks for watching once get will see you guys next time