Oh look, it's another video about the topic everyone wants to know about
- text messages.
Today, we're going to talk about how long you should wait to text a guy back.
I'm going to tell you how long is the perfect time to build maximum
attraction with any man. Stay tuned.
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How long should you wait to text a guy back?
That is an answer that a lot of you seem to want to hear.
So I thought I'd do a video today and I've seen other coaches do this
and one thing that I really hate that gets put across is this idea of
the perfect time.
Perfect number of minutes, perfect number of hours, perfect number
of days. Guys, there is no perfect time and any coach that tells you that
is leading you down the wrong path.
Here's the way to think about this question. You see, first of all,
if I'm honest with you, I hate the question and the reason I hate
it is because it pushes us down this vibe where dating is becoming
more and more gamey and more and more weird and strategic rather
than forming real connections with real people.
But number two, the odd part about this question is in the time you've
already been watching this video, you could have texted the poor bloke back
already. So why are we asking the question?
Well, there is a good reason for it and I can see where it comes from
because we all know that if you text someone back straight away
constantly, especially when they're not doing the same for you,
it seems really unattractive, right? It does. But there's also this issue of
okay, let's always wait 20 minutes to text the guy back, which is just weird.
It's just weird and it's making dating this game rather than what what it
should be, which is forming authentic connections with real people.
So where's the balance? What I want to give you is a way to think about
this question. That means you will always know the exact time to
respond to a man and have it happened completely naturally. In other words,
sometimes you get to find yourself texting him back straight away,
and other times you're not. But I don't want this to be a strategy because
as soon as it becomes a strategy, again, you're coming from the
wrong place. Here's what this question is really about.
When you're asking me, "Mark, how long should I wait to text the guy back?"
What you're really asking me is this, how high should I prioritize this man?
Because when you're considering if you should take someone back
straight away and get straight onto that text versus leave it, you're saying,
"should I make it a priority now or should I do it later?"
It's all about priorities. But here's the thing. If you have no other priorities,
you're going to spend all your time thinking about how long you should
wait to text a guy back. So the first thing you have to do guys is you've
got to have other priorities. So if you feel like you don't, if you feel like
there's not enough going on in your life or you're not doing enough with
yourself or things you want to do, then that's the first thing you want
to do to answer this question - it's find other priorities that you love
and get involved with them.
Now, number two, prioritize those things.
Do them and put your phone on airplane mode when you do.
You can tell guys that you're doing this as well, and what's going to
happen is this. When you're prioritizing other things, he's not
going to expect a response from you. He's going to know you're off
doing things and that's going to be a healthy and attractive thing for
him to look on that you're doing. And then maybe later in the night
you don't have much else going on. So you put your phone back into
normal mode and you're replying straight away, it's going to create
this natural balance where sometimes you're prioritizing
other things and sometimes, you're prioritizing him.
And the final thing that you want to think about is how is this man
prioritizing me? Because remember, what you don't want to do is keep
prioritizing someone who isn't giving you the same investment back.
Investment for investment, no investment for no investment.
So if he's not prioritizing you at all, and he's constantly doing his other things,
then you didn't prioritize him at all and you constantly do your other
things. Whereas if he's making an effort to get back to you,
if he's apologizing when he is a bit sloppy, if he's putting in the
time and effort to text you between things that he's doing, then you're
also going to put in the time and effort to text him between things
that you're doing. So guys, think less about the amount of time and the
strategy in terms of texting a guy back and think more about how
highly am I gonna prioritize this guy versus the other amazing
priorities in my life.
Think of the question in that way, and you'll always know exactly
when and how long you should take to text the guy back without
playing any weird games or strategies at all.
So ladies, thanks so much for watching! I really hope this answers
that simple but important question in terms of texting, texting someone
back, and how you prioritize that person in your life.
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personally myself. Thanks so much for watching guys.
I shall see you in the next video very, very soon.