7 steps to save your relationship
No.1, Make the time.
One of the biggest signs that your relationship is suffering, is when you and your loved one,
just don’t spend any time together.
To save your relationship, you need to actively carve out that time to spend with the other
person.
Change your plans, so you can meet your significant other for a drink in the evening, or drive
to her or his office for an impromptu lunch date.
Even just calling to catch up when you’re apart, for the day will cheer you both up,
and give your relationship a boost.
No.2, Stop playing games.
Many experts will tell you to play power games to win back the love in your relationship,
or to reignite the spark.
Don't do it.
If you purposely ignore your partner, or intentionally act cold and distant, you are playing a game.
And while this sort of behavior may lead to increased attention from a partner for a short
while, it will not have a long-lasting effect on your relationship.
If you frequently act rude or mean, ignore your partner, or act cold and distant, your
partner will eventually lose interest in you.
No.3, Do something special together.
Perhaps you two have a favorite restaurant you haven’t visited in ages, or you can
return to the place where you first fell in love?
Being in a physical space where you have powerful memories of strong attachment can reignite
passion.
Or, you can try something you’ve never tried before.
The excitement of something new produces serotonin, and dopamine in our brains.
It doesn’t have to be something extraordinary; even sitting on a park bench watching the
children play as you hold hands, can be magical if love exists.
The important thing is that you stop talking about taking that vacation, or trying that
new spot, and follow through on your intention to reconnect together.
No.4, You need to focus more on your partner's happiness than your own.
True love means loving someone so much, that the only way you can be happy is by making
your partner happy.
If you want your relationship to work, you need to have this kind of love.
This love may seem one-sided to you.
But it's not.
When you focus on your lover's happiness, your lover should be focusing on yours.
You have to be each other's best friends, confidants, advisors and biggest fans.
No.5, Forgive each other.
To forgive is to detach from the bitterness, anger, and animosity holding you back from
progress with your partner.
Forgo the negative emotions keeping you from true forgiveness.
Remind yourself that whatever happened, and that there is no reason to drag the past into
your future.
Lingering on hurtful memories only perpetuates them.
Be mindful that forgiveness is a process, not a result, so perform small, daily acts
that are reflective of your intent to pardon.
No.6, Take the initiative.
A lot of relationships break down, because neither party is willing to be proactive and
take the lead.
As this pattern continues, it becomes harder to reach out, and you and your significant
other drift farther apart.
By taking the initiative to buy concert tickets, start a conversation, or make a fun dinner,
you can stop this cycle, and pull your relationship out of its rut.
No.7, Set boundaries.
A relationship is a two-way street.
Tell your partner honestly what you would like them to do, or not do, then be prepared
to accept the boundaries they set for you too.
Setting boundaries in a relationship is critical, and yet it can often feel scary and overwhelming.
Sometimes we worry that our partner will get mad, or we feel guilty for saying no.
Don’t let this stop you.
Instead remind yourself that your needs, and feelings matter in this relationship, and
by making yourself and your needs a priority, you are working to better your relationship and yourself