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one of the most common complaints
parents have about their kids
is that they are bad
kids are constantly being labeled bad
when they don't get good grades they
don't listen to us they don't finish
their chores the list is endless we
believe that it's our job as parents to
fix our kids as if they are toys or
puppets that are broken
and need fixing
what if i told you
that your kids are not bad but something
else
some bad kids are just screaming for
attention pleading for us to understand
them they're saying to us help me i'm
struggling here and some kids they're
not being bad they're just being kids
forgetful or tired disorganized stressed
and some kids are being bad
because they just don't know
any other way
it's time
for us parents
to wake up to our own bad behavior maybe
it's not our kids fault at all maybe
it's us the parent who is so fearful so
controlling so anxious that the kid has
no choice but to follow our bad behavior
this is what i teach in conscious
parenting that it's almost never the kid
who's being bad and almost always the
parent who's co-creating the kids
behavior
no parent likes to hear this of course
but in order to raise our children
consciously
we need to make a shift in how we look
at them
i really believe that it's only when we
parents stop focusing on our kids bad
behavior and instead focus on our own
inner brokenness that we will start
understanding them better
instead of expecting our kids to be
perfect we understand them for their
humanity we connect to them for who it
is they are and not for who it is we
think they should be
the work begins and ends with us parents
understanding and healing our own
inner brokenness
remember your child
is not broken
they are whole they are complete they
are worthy
when you stop looking at them through
the lens of your own inner brokenness
it's only then that you will see them
for their glory
suddenly your children will appear
before you as they always were
whole complete and worthy
it is only when we parents give our
children unconditional love and worth
that we allow them to be their authentic
selves and free them to live their own
destiny hi i'm dr shifali if you want to
learn how to be a more conscious parent
then i invite you to join me on this
upcoming masterclass with mindvalley i
hope to see you there