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in life there will be times they'll have
to be around and deal with difficult
people thankfully dr. Irene Strauss
cohan's have helpful advice regarding
this dr. Irene Strauss Cohan is a
psychologist an avid blogger and a
professor at Barry University advising
in the Department of counseling her main
area of interest is helping people build
foundations in their relationships and
keep them strong she's passionate about
improving people's sense of self and
helping them be the best version they
can be dr. Strauss makes it a point that
there is no real difference between a
difficult person and someone who needs
help because most of the time they're
one and the same
she says you aren't going to be
unpleasant or hurtful to people unless
you feel that way inside about yourself
I don't know if those people
specifically need love and care some of
those people may not be in the space to
accept the love no matter how loving and
caring the other person is dealing with
a difficult person can prove more
challenging if it happens to be a family
member and especially if you live with
them it isn't easy to be around people
that seem to always bring your mood down
dr. Strauss observed adding there is not
one easy answer to this dr. Strauss
suggests to manage yourself and your
anxiety around that person try to
understand them through their upbringing
and story ultimately try to accept them
for who they are if you can understand a
person you can better manage emotions
around them without feeling so reactive
dr. Strauss also suggests to pay
attention to your own behaviors and
triggers perhaps there's something you
do that allows the person to negatively
influence and bring you down she reveals
I've gotten to the point where I can be
around some difficult people without
feeling the need to be so reactive fix
them to make them happier or want to
avoid them it was hard for me to be
around difficult people in my own family
because I wanted to see people happy all
the time
once I accepted that I wasn't
responsible for their happiness I eased
up a bit dr. Strauss admits that people
can influence each other and growing up
in an environment that is constantly
negative can affect how you see and
relate to the world but if you create a
life balance it is less likely to happen
dr. Strauss adds when it comes to
families we can't really choose
I think we all have a negative family
member or difficult person that most of
us try to avoid I don't think that one
person can ruin your positive
disposition entirely when around
negative or even highly positive people
I remember that all of that derives from
their anxiety for some people's
negativity comes from being a highly
anxious person and for others being
positive may help them reduce it all of
the negative is usually exaggerated from
an anxious person if you can manage your
own anxiety and look at the facts of
whatever the person is negative about it
won't bother you as much it's easy to
spot a typical person according to dr.
Strauss they tend to make everything
about themselves have few friends and
are hypersensitive it's normal to have a
disagreement with anyone so that isn't
always an indication also if you find
everyone difficult to deal with you
should probably take a look in the
mirror one of the keys to dealing with
difficult people is making sure you make
time for self-care find something you
enjoy and do it and this can be
different for everyone
relentless positivity isn't necessarily
though as dr. Strauss describes some
situations suck and that needs to be
acknowledged I think if people could
accept their situations as is and be
more factual about them then after they
will be able to see the light at the end
of the tunnel for example getting a flat
tire on the way to an important meeting
isn't a fun situation but if you
acknowledge it manage yourself to
de-stress
and find a way to fix the tire and then
reschedule your meeting it will help you
later to see the positive of the
situation after the fact you can say
okay that wasn't so bad and at least no
one was hurt and everything worked out
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