Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely loves, and this video is actually part of a special relaunch
of my unity membership program that I'm putting on this week where I'm answering actually
questions from my unity members, from those members themselves.
So we're going to roll a question, this is from Alex, who is a member of unity.
There's a guy I really like and he doesn't seem to be showing very much interest.
Can I pursue him?
Should I tell him how I feel?
So here's the really quick and dirty answer to your question.
No.
Seriously, no.
Don't tell him how you feel... yet.
Basically what I'm saying is don't make strong sexual advances until he's started making
some advances towards you.
Make him invest a little bit into you to be able to win you over him.
Don't chase after him.
The reality is that men are natural pursuers.
When we want something, most of the time we'll go for it, so long as we think that it's within
our reach.
So what does this actually mean?
Don't straight up tell a guy that you want him.
However, go up, be flirtatious with a guy, be social, and feel free to talk to anyone
at a party.
Don't be the one who is always making advancements towards him, but certainly be open to his
advancements toward you.
Certainly don't go around asking dudes for their numbers, but certainly give them your
number when they ask for it.
But whatever you do, don't chase him harder than he is chasing you.
Now, I know some of you will be like, you know what Adam?
None of this advice matters.
If I go up and tell a guy that I want him, then I can have him like that.
Sure, that might be true, but there's a little bit of a flaw in that thinking.
Sure, you might be able to get him in the short term and you'll certainly be able to
get him to have sex with you, but beyond that he's probably going lose interest.
And that's because we as humans value what it is that we put effort into.
If he didn't have to put any effort into getting you, at first he might be like pumped that
he's going to get laid, but then shortly thereafter he's going to be thinking to himself "Well,
onto the next one."
So with that said, the message of this video, and my message to you, is to not stop you.
I don't want to stop you from going out there, being social, meeting a ton of people, and
dating, and, of course, accepting those advancements from the guys that are attracted to you and
you are attracted to them.
Instead what I'm telling you is to stop chasing a pipe dream of some guy that isn't really
that into you from the start.
Because if he's not into you right now, once he starts hooking up with you and once he
does hook up with you, he's not going to want anything to do with you.
And it has nothing to do with you as a person, it's just not a match.
So focus your energy on the guys who are putting their energy into you and really give them
a shot.
And this advice is very consistent with the advice I give in unity.
Unity all comes down to three things.
First off, finding clarity.
Clarity and what exactly it is that you want, the type of guy you want, being consistent
about going out and finding that type of guy, and then, finally, being confident that you
deserve that guy, and those are the three pillars of unity.
And that's what I'm creating this video for is, of course, part of the relaunch for unity.
And as a member of unity you can be able to get your questions answered, questions just
like this.
You can be able to join the monthly call where I can answer your questions personally on
the phone.
And, of course, you can get early access to YouTube videos just like this.
All of this really cool stuff they get as part of unity, and you can check that out
right here.
It's part of the relaunch, so I'm really excited and I'm really proud of this.
We've put a lot of work into this over the past year.
So definitely check it out and I will speak to you soon.
Of course, before you go, head on over to SexyConfidence.com, there's a ton of free
stuff there as well that you can check out.
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Thank you so much for watching and I'll speak to you soon.
Bye bye.