Heya playa, let me know if this has ever happened to you before.
You meet someone that you think is really really cool and you want to take things to
a deeper level.
So you struggle to find the answer to the question, ah, how do I ask them out on a date?
That's where me and Mandi come in.
Now the reason I'm making this video is because one of my subscribers who usually comments
on my videos said bam, I know exactly where this question is stemming from because I've
been in that situation before.
Hey guys, Mandiicakes here letting you know what I think a person needs to bring when
they ask somebody out.
First let's answer the question.
What holds guys back from asking girls out?
My theory is that some guys fear rejection.
You don't want to create an awkward situation with a girl so you end up waiting to see whether
or not she likes you.
And in the guys mind this action is justified because he's playing it safe.
He doesn't want to push too hard.
First things first, you gotta ask yourself this.
What's the worst that can happen?
Realistically it's not going to escalate to physical violence and the girl is probably
not gonna hate you for being honest.
You don't feel the need to apologize for being hungry, you don't feel the need to apologize
for being tired, so why would you feel the need to apologize for liking someone?
Eliminate that fear right now.
No matter what the girl says it should not prevent you from moving on with your life.
Rejection is a mother fucker.
Unfortunately that is just a chance we take in any situation.
Rejection is a bitch no matter where you look at it.
So what's a better way to approach, directly or indirectly?
I think that answer depends on your character.
If you're the kind of guy who wants to walk up to a girl and say "Hey, you and me should
go out", you're definitely gonna get a reaction from her.
And being indirect is cool too as long as you're congruent with what you say.
So when asking a girl out on a date, make sure the plans are something you want to do.
Don't force yourself to do something just to try to please the girl.
You know, the aim is you like this person, you ask them out.
Just take comfort in knowing that maybe, just maybe they'll enjoy their time and a night
with you.
So, generally what kind of qualities is a girl looking for in a guy worth dating?
First of all have character, have charm and have confidence.
That's the key word there, confidence.
Confidence is so important here.
Why would you go up to a girl and ask her out on a date if you don't honestly believe
she'll say yes?
Be confident.
You know, it doesn't also hurt to be charming.
You know, a little joke here and there.
So what if you're a professional ant farmer and watch reruns of Matlock all day, does
that make you too boring for the girl?
Here's a tip, people like mystery.
If you give away too much of yourself on the first date why am I going to be inclined to
want to learn more on day 2?
And if you have weird hobbies like that that might take the person a little time to understand,
wait a little bit of time for them to understand.
But also be willing to show a little bit about yourself.
No one liked boring conversations such as "Hey, so how's your day going", "So what do
you do for work?".
Those are BORING ASS questions.
Keep it light, enjoy it.
You know, most people automatically jump and think of things too serious.
But you know what, that's life.
Keep things light.
So one quick run through here.
You meet a girl that you like and you want to ask her out.
What do you do?
Doing something like mailing the girl a card saying "Hey, you want to go out with me?"
is bound to get her to say "Wow, this guy's different".
Or if you're minus one card, set up a mini date with the girl.
It's a lot easier for a girl to commit herself to 20 minutes of just talking rather than
having to spend two hours in front of a mirror preparing her hair to go travel all the way
out to the opposite end of the world just to go on a fancy schmancy dinner with you.
That's a lot of commitment and girls don't want to commit that much on the first date.
A lot of guys want this monumental experience for the first date when the reality is all
the girl wants is to get to know you better.
I wouldn't buy anything, I would, you know show something that applied effort.
Whether you draw something, make a little joke or a note.
Now that is exactly how to be charming.
You see that?
Mandiicakes knows what's up.
Like this video if you agree with me and Mandi's tips and feel that you've gained the confidence
and knowledge to finally ask a girl out.
Leave a comment letting me know, what are some of the things that are holding you back
from asking the person you like out?
And subscribe to the channel if you want to see videos with more tips and probably more
faces than just this one.
As always guys, love and peace.
Do NOT be one of those guys who just don't take a hint.
They're the kind of guys who constantly send girls hundreds of messages on Facebook saying
"Hey, do you wanna hang out?" or "Hey, you should come over my house!".
There's no creativity, no originality, no fun in that statement.
Be really fun, that's all you need.