Getting married in Islam is something that is encouraged, and it's actually linked to the
worship of God. however, there are some surprisingly interesting facts to know about even before
getting to the point of marriage. Hey, what's happening guys? Welcome back to FTD Facts. My
name is Leroy Kenton, and in this episode, I'll be looking at 10 Surprising and Interesting Facts
About Dating in Islam. Stick around from 10 as we count down to number 1. Okay, so number 10 - it's
done for the sake of Allah. Islam teaches people to be truthful and real. The concept of love in Islam
is unique in the sense that, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of
Allah, or God. And Muslims cite Prophet Muhammad's following words, "Three qualities if found in a
person will help him have perfect faith: Having Allah and his messenger as the most beloved ones,
loving the person only for the sake of Allah, and hating getting back to disbelief, the way one hates
to be thrown into fire." There's also some rules for falling in love. According to Islam, when someone
has fallen in love with someone, he or she should consider that person as his or her spouse to be.
This is a very important point, and this is done so that the potential spouse can determine if he
or she can live with them for the rest of his or her life, among other considerations, of course. And,
if the answers are positive, then they should start to get to know each other and move from there. In
most Islamic cultures, the starting point happens through families. The man proposes to the woman,
and if all parties are okay at that point, then the bride to be and the groom to be, can start getting
to know each other on a deeper level. Number 8. Let's look at seeing your partner to be. Prophet
Muhammad recommended that two people who are in love see each other before the marriage. Now, this
also is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage,
and to be expected to have a successful marriage with love and affection, when they know little to
nothing, or just nothing at all about one another. Now, this ruling does not contradict the verse in
the Quran that says, "Believing men and women should lower their gaze." And that's found in Surah 24,
Verse 30. Also, another thing to note is that since dating in non-Muslim cultures may lead to
acts such as touching, and hugging, and kissing etc, Islam views this type of dating as forbidden or,
haram. But, this does not mean that the groom to be or the wife to be are not allowed to meet up and
talk to get to know each other. There are some parameters around this. Typically, they meet up
at the girl's house with her parents, and they talk over a meal or, they may meet up in another social
setting. And, according to Islam it is not forbidden or haram for a man and a woman to be together in
a place where other people can actually see them, and other people can come and go as they please.
Because with this, there is no chance of them committing sin. Number 6 brings us to consent in
marriage. One of the conditions of a valid marriage, is the consent of the two people getting married.
Now, the choice of a partner by a Muslim girl is subject to the approval
of her father or her guardian. And this is all done to protect her welfare and interests. And when it
comes to this, Prophet Muhammad had these words to say, "The widow and the divorced woman shall not be
married until she has consented to that. And the virgin shall not be married until her consent is
sought." There was even one case reported of the Prophet Muhammad nullifying a marriage
of a girl who was complaining about her father, who married her against her wishes. Alrighty, we've
come to halfway in this episode. We have 5 more facts about dating relating to Islam coming up.
But before we get into that, here is a video - 10 Worst Haram Things in Islam. It goes into a lot
more things that are forbidden in the religion of Islam, and it's pretty interesting, pretty eye
opening. I do recommend that you check it out. I'll link to it below in the video description section
where you can enjoy it after this episode. Alright, continuing now with number 5 - choosing
a partner. Muslims are encouraged to look for these particular qualities in a partner: "Muhsineen,"
which is those who do good to others. Then there is "Tawwabeen," which are those who turn to rightfulness,
and they seek God for guidance. The "Mutah-Hareen," are those who keep their bodies free from any filth,
and their minds away from dirty thoughts, as well as, they keep their conduct clean. "Muttaqeen," refers to
those who guard themselves against evil. "Sabireen," are those who have the capacity to endure hard
times, because not everything is going to be easy. Also, "Mutawakkileen," those who put their trust in
Allah and his laws. Another quality is, "Muqsiteen," which refer to those who act equitably and justly.
And finally, those who fight on God's path against tyranny, injustice, wrongdoings, aggression, and sin.
There's also facts about early marriage. So, to avoid the temptation of committing fornication, or
"zina," in Islam, Islam encourages marriage at a young age. Therefore, it is completely normal to start a
relationship at the age of puberty. But you see, this is not compulsory though. So, reaching the
age of puberty should not be considered as the only qualification for deciding when to start a
relationship. There are several other factors as well. Like the overall maturity of that person,
as well as their ability to make good judgment calls. Now, the prophet Muhammad was reported to
have said the following words, and I quote, "Oh youths, whosoever among you can marry, he should do so
because marriage protects your eyes from indulging in sin, by looking lustfully at others in privacy."
Also, there is to be no talks about intimate relations. In Islam, single people can't meet
each other for a date without a chaperone, as I mentioned earlier in this episode. However,
a lot of Muslims, they kind of stopped following this tradition. They meet other single Muslims, and they
date and they develop relationships without anyone supervising them. Either way, having
sex before marriage is a topic that Muslim men and women should avoid to reduce the temptations of it
actually happening. A lot of people have questions about this one when it comes to dating during
Ramadan. So, most people refrain from talking to their boyfriends or girlfriends during the
fasting period of the month of Ramadan, because it may cause them to break their fast through
intimate acts. So, this aspect of relationships and individual needs is, of course, a big debate within
Islamic circles. But, generally, Muslims believe that Ramadan is the best time to ask God for
forgiveness and to seek closeness to him. So, it is especially forbidden to have girlfriends and
boyfriends in a casual sense during the month of Ramadan. And finally, let's look at the conditions
of a valid marriage. So, it is recommended for a man to marry a woman who he really loves, because
the prophet Muhammad had said these following words, "There is nothing better for two who love
each other than marriage." And that's taken from the Hadith, "Sahih Al-Jami`." However, it's said that this
love should not be an overwhelming kind of love, and cause a person to forget other characteristics
which he should look for in the person that he wants to marry. Because Prophet Muhammad also
said these following words, "A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty,
and her commitment to religion. Choose the one who is religious. May your hands be rubbed with dust."
And that means, may you prosper. That's taken from the Hadiths, "Al-Bukhari," and "Muslim." Muslims generally
stress that the person that is religious, that is the number one thing, above beauty, above wealth.
That is the thing that Muslims should focus on when it comes to choosing a partner, above all
other things. Alright guys, so that ends this episode. This was a look at 10 Surprising Facts
about Dating in Islam. Hopefully, you found this video informative, entertaining, and maybe taught
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