hi my name is Matt Fran this is
ascension presents and today I want to
talk about the myth that porn is adult
entertainment you know a hundred years
ago in Great Britain if you said you
were going to a gentlemen's club it was
understood that you were going to an
upper-class establishment to gossip with
people of your social class to play
parlor games or whatever today if I say
to you I'm going to a gentlemen's club
like back for some reason because it's
creepy you know what I mean you know I'm
going to a low lip bar that smells like
urinal cakes and hopelessness
there is nothing masculine about
pornography
there's nothing gentlemanly about strip
clubs when I was about 17 years old my
friends and I would go to the big city
and after a couple of beers after a
couple of clubs one of us would make the
decision they'd be like hey why don't we
go to a strip club and we all went yeah
okay so we'd go to this strip club and
they didn't check our IDs I guess
business wasn't booming there was always
one of our friends who wouldn't come
with us I won't say his name but he said
now I'm good and and I always felt
threatened by this you know like I
wanted to say do you think you're better
than us and he should have said yeah
definitely you know but he always you
know he just he just it wasn't religious
reasons he just didn't think it was cool
and he was so right I remember going up
there sitting down being in the strip
club and thinking what would I do if I
saw my dad in here no I never did of
course but I'm like I wouldn't I
wouldn't respect him I wouldn't be like
oh hey that's my dad respect guys I told
you he was amazing I would want to die I
think you can relate to that right I'm
into thinking that like why is this okay
for me to do but it wouldn't be okay if
my dad did it and I wasn't religious at
all at the time but if I had have known
my dad or my uncle or some other man
that I respected was doing this I would
have been like wow super lame you know
actions speak louder than words even
when those words are five feet high neon
and say gentlemen's club you know now
someone might say well you know it's
good you know it's it's it's good it's
liberating to women and these sorts of
things this is a bloody joke and I think
it's a lie that we have to tell
ourselves in order to engage in shameful
behavior whenever you are doing
something that you know is wrong you
have to tell yourself that you're the
hero and those who are against you are
wrong you have to do it right it's like
we're saying I'm contributing to the
liberation of women by masturbating to
images of them being objectified no no
you're not fighting the patriarchy you
idiot you know like it's just not
masculine we have a real problem I think
just admitting when we're weak you know
maybe you're just like weak and don't
want to change like no no that can't be
it
the problem is the Catholic Church are a
bunch of prudes you see like this is
what we have to do to justify our
shameful behavior you've never done
something good and while you were doing
it felt the need to justify it it's not
like someone's in downtown Atlanta right
now feeding hope the homeless people in
a soup kitchen and saying I'm not
hurting anybody shut up we know you're
not hurting anybody
Gladys back on the meds no that's not
funny
but yeah it's like you you've never done
something that was good and felt the
need to justify it I think the fact that
we can't engage with pornography or
strip clubs without feeling the need to
be like no this is adults so either that
big huge sign there that says adult see
it's a gentlemen's club this is like the
height of defensive advertising the fact
that we cannot engage in these behaviors
without having to lie to ourselves or to
set off alarm bells that this is not a
manly thing and someone might say well
but they're willing to do it and to that
I would say no matter the level of
consent it is a manly thing to treat a
woman who has forgotten her dignity with
dignity nonetheless I'm Matt fried
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