Hey there.
Adam LoDolce from sexyconfidence.com, where I help the 21st Century woman create a love
life that she absolutely freaking loves.
In this video right now, I'm going to be talking about how is that you can let go of someone
that you truly love.
Keep watching.
Have you ever felt that the past is just haunting you?
Ever feel like you have this bag of rocks that you're carrying around with you every
single day you go on, this baggage that you can't seem to get rid of.
It makes sense, right?
Because if our relationships, when we're in a relationship, they really morph us into
a very different person.
So many times, when that relationship ends, it can be really difficult to move on.
You spend so much time with someone, and suddenly when it ends, it literally feels like you've
been cut in half.
Yeah!
It doesn't feel very good.
Here's the thing: you do have the power to make yourself whole again.
It just takes some focus.
Here's how you can do it.
First thing to keep in mind is to realize that change is just a natural part of life.
You got to accept it.
I'm definitely not the most religious person you'll meet, but if there were any type of
religion that I would listen to and read some of the teachings, it would be from Buddhism.
In Buddhism, there is this word called Dukkha, and it refers to all human suffering.
Much of that suffering, according to Buddhism, is due to the fact that people are afraid
of change.
The problem is that change is a constant in our lives.
We have happy times.
We have sad times.
Relatives die, relatives die, relationships begin and then they end.
Eventually, sadly, we all die.
The only way to truly embrace happiness in all phases in life is if you embrace change,
and realize that change is just a constant in our lives.
When you constantly fight it every single step of the way, you will always suffer.
Once you realize that change is constant, and that nothing will remain the same, ever,
you can suddenly release yourself from this pressure of trying to control everything.
You will have breakups, and you got to accept it.
You can't go on life assuming that the life you're living now will continue forever, so
the best way you can do this is to live in the present.
Next, you need to realize that just because it ended, doesn't mean that it was a failure
or, more importantly, that you are a failure.
There's only one way to fail in your love life.
It's not being a virgin, it's not getting dumped, and no, it's not getting divorced.
The only way to fail at love is to give up on finding love.
Don't allow yourself to become a failure at love because you've given up.
Realize that everything you've done in your life is just leading you up to where you are
right now, and they've been all incredible learning experiences.
Now, it's time to let go of that past, take something you can learning from them, and
then move forward with the right path and the right strategy.
Number three, the most practical part of all this advice is, please, remove the reminders
of that person from your life.
You don't need to see pictures of the dude with his new girlfriend on Facebook.
Don't need to analyze every single one of his tweets, and you definitely don't need
to wipe your tears with the sweatshirt he left at your house.
You need to do you.
Realize that your heart is, although it's bruised right now, it's incredibly resilient.
You are not what happens to you, you are what you choose to become.
You're strong.
You're beautiful, you're powerful, but you are only those things if you believe it.
It's time to close that chapter in your life and discover who it is that you really are.
When you're single, that's one of the best times to do that.
Oh, yeah, make sure you go out there, have a little fun, because you're single.
You deserve it.
Let me ask you, which one of these three things are you going to focus on if you're trying
to heal your broken heart right now?
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