hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about four signs you
have an attractive personality now let's begin number one mature responsibility do you take
your commitment seriously when you make a promise do you follow through we associate attractiveness
with traits like confidence and charisma but what about responsibility what about trustworthiness
these important traits fly under the radar but responsible people are some of the most attractive
partners so why is responsibility a desirable trait it tells your partner that they can depend
on you a responsible person makes good decisions a responsible person does the right thing whenever
they can they'll honor their commitments and they'll always follow through to a potential
partner responsibility means trust and trust may be the most important thing in a relationship
to create a deeper emotional connection partners must trust each other you and your partner have
to protect each other's secrets weaknesses and vulnerabilities so if you're a responsible person
your partner knows they can be open and honest with you because responsibility in many ways
demonstrates both integrity and respect not only are you a respectable person but you make sure
your partner feels the same level of respect and admiration there's another important reason why
responsibility is in attractive traits responsible people create stable and disciplined lifestyles
they tend to find more success in their careers because they've taken ownership
of their goals and aspirations responsible people also create stronger friendships
because their friends can trust and rely on them responsible people stay in control of their lives
that control breeds a unique type of independence and maturity which many partners find irresistible
maturity is another trait we commonly associate with attractiveness but maturity
and responsibility are almost always intertwined you can't really have one without the other
partners want to know that you're capable of making mature choices and that requires a level
of growth and responsibility responsibility is a sign of trust strength and maturity
all of those traits make your personality incredibly attractive
number two courageous kindness are you a kind person how do you know this can be a challenging
question to answer kindness like responsibility doesn't make a big scene it's not a show stopper
it doesn't turn any heads yet kindness may be the most sought after trait on this list
so why is kindness so widely desired the world is full of critical and judgmental people
people who want to bring you down people who want to make you feel insecure or undermine
your success everyone knows people like this they may be your friends your exes or just strangers
on the internet you know how bad it feels to interact with someone who isn't kind to you
they belittle you they silence you and they act like your feelings don't matter now a kind person
on the other hand makes someone feel heard you validate their feelings support their struggles
and you push them to improve so if you're a kind person you're always there when people need you
even if they didn't ask for your help of course kindness can mean a lot of different things
you may show kindness to a stranger on the street by empathizing with their misfortunes you may show
kindness to your best friend by simply listening to their problems no act of kindness is better or
worse than any other but only a select few people choose to be compassionate when it's not required
if you're a kind person you show empathy when no one is watching that's what separates one
kind action from a genuinely kind person if you do something altruistic to earn a reward that isn't
kindness yeah your behavior is helpful that's a good thing but a kind person doesn't think what's
in it for me or why should i help them if you're a kind person you're kind for the sake of being kind
real kindness requires more than just an altruistic spirit it requires courage and
perseverance in many situations it's not easy to be kind at least it doesn't feel that way
you may for example encounter someone who's being ridiculed it's easier to mind your own business
to walk away and focus on your own problems but kind people fight for those who need them
they're willing to show empathy when it's easy and when it's difficult that's what makes kind people
like you so attractive to potential partners you aren't just empathetic or a good listener
you're courageous you take action and you stand up for what's right you're doing something that
very few people ever do and that earns you the respect and affection of all kinds of people
number three infectious passion are you a passionate person passion has many definitions
to some passion means hours of hard work chasing your ambitions until you succeed to others passion
is an investment in your loved ones or your community passion may mean planning dates showing
physical affection or buying thoughtful gifts for a partner as different as these three definitions
sound they're all describing the same type of personality you are passionate and your passion is
attractive because you're not afraid to care about the things and people in your life whether you
care about your job your partner or a cause that matters to you you're willing to make personal
investments and those investments motivate you to work think and care about the people in your life
passionate people like you are some of the most inspiring people to spend time around
your dedication is infectious and encourages others to make similar investments in their lives
most of the world is ambivalent about most things a lot of people have interests and ideas
they can rattle off a list of things they'd like to do or want to be but how many people put in
the hard work to accomplish those dreams how many people are willing to make sacrifices for
something or someone that they love alright let's say you love to play guitar you tell everyone
how much you like to play music you say that you want to be a professional musician someday
but here's the problem despite how much you talk about playing the guitar
you hardly ever do it you like the idea of playing the guitar but you don't follow through you don't
take action without action an idea is just an idea it never materializes into anything real
but passionate people cross that boundary if you're a passionate person
you pursue your ideas and transform them into real life achievements you could say the same
thing about passion in your relationships you may talk about being a good partner and
in theory you want to make your partner feel loved heard and supported but how often do
you actually do those things i mean how often do you make sacrifices for the person you love
remember a passionate person is not afraid to make investments the passionate person shows that they
care if you aren't afraid to take action and show that you care you have an attractive personality
number four vulnerable confidence it's no secret that confidence is attractive it stands at the
top of most people's lists but let's dig a little deeper if you're a confident person
what makes your personality attractive why does self-assurance make you a more appealing partner
confidence has a powerful psychological impact like passion your confidence ripples outward
if you're confident in yourself you may notice that other people are more confident around you
you're able to find and embrace your strengths and that encourages your friends and partners to
follow in your footsteps they see your confidence in everything you do in the way you speak act and
carry yourself they're inspired by the fearless way you display your personality to the world
because it's hard to be yourself isn't it we hear one piece of advice all the time be yourself
but yourself is one of the scariest things you can be it's much easier to act like someone else
or to tone down your true personality that's an issue that many insecure people face they immerse
themselves in social situations but they're scared to let their real personality show they
display to others a muted version of themselves someone who's distant aloof and careless this
person may think they're playing it cool but in reality they're presenting a watered-down version
of who they really are and that makes them less attractive to the confident people who want to
see their real selves confident people on the other hand put their individuality on display
as a confident person you show the world exactly what kind of person you are because you're not
afraid to embrace your flaws you like who you are and you want other people to see your quirks
those quirks are usually the most lovable things about you so you frame them and advertise them to
the world confidence is also related to your sense of humor another attractive personality trait
if you don't have confidence you may hide your great sense of humor below the surface you may
not show people how funny or clever you really are because you're not confident in the things you say
on the other hand if you're a confident person you use your sense of humor to show others how fun you
can be you're not afraid to make jokes take social risks or make a fool out of yourself if you make
a mistake you can laugh at yourself instead of feeling embarrassed or insecure before other
people can laugh with you you have to be able to laugh at your own failures you have to confidently
accept yourself flaws and all if you can do that you have an attractive personality hey thank you
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