Hey guys it's Melissa welcome back to Melissa Talks. Today we're going to be talking about why
ENTPs, myself included, love INFJs. Let's get into it. So INFJs, if you watch all my videos,
are you upset with me? Please don't be upset with me. Please don't be upset with me. I love
you guys. I really really do. ENTPs love INFJs for many reasons. A lot of people talk about how
it's a magnetic connection. We just find each other. Some people have many duos of INFJs and
ENTPs within their life, but for some ENTPs it takes a lifetime to actually cross paths
with an INFJ. To explain why ENTPs love INFJs the easiest way is just to talk about the functions.
We share a lot of the functions. So both of us are intuition doms. ENTPs are Ne doms and INFJs are Ni
doms. Similar to the INTJ, both the ENTP and the INFJ are thinking outside of the box. They're
using their intuition. They're not just using what is right in front of them using their five
senses. They're thinking of what if. Meaning ENTPs and INFJs are going to get along because
we can talk about anything and everything. Having high Ne or Ni is extremely important for an ENTP
and INFJs have it as their dom function. There are differences between Ne and Ni,
but at the same time in a way they're very very similar. So we're gonna get along because we
can relate to each other. When we're thinking about things we're thinking outside of the box,
we're thinking about possibilities, anything and everything. So communicating between these two are
going to be extremely easy. This is a very natural pairing because our minds are very very similar in
our thought process. Now our second and third functions is where we overlap and this is where
we're going to be seeing each other within each other on a very mass scale. So ENTPs and INFJ's
share second and third functions. They're in a different order, but they're the exact same
functions. ENTPs have Ti then Fe. INFJs have Fe then Ti. ENTPs have Ti as their second function
which is introverted thinking, so we're just in our heads a lot thinking through things.
And INFJs have Fe as their second function. So when they're thinking about things using their Ni
they're thinking of things on behalf of the people around them, extroverted feeling. They're
considering the feelings and the values of the people around them and they're working towards
helping their community. As an ENTP we have Fe as our third function, so we're gonna get along.
Both of us have Fe pretty high up on our stack, therefore we're gonna be people people. Both of
us are gonna end up in professions where we're probably helping people, helping our community,
using our skill sets to actually help and improve the life of the people around us.
Both ENTPs and INFJs are people people, so we have a lot in common. And guess what?
Just like the INTJ they have Se as their weak function. ENTPs have Se as their eighth function,
which is very very very like literally is the last function within our stack, meaning we're both out
of touch with reality. And as ENTPs I love that about you guys, but it's nice to know that we're
not alone with our struggles. So INFJs we can kind of relate a lot with each other because
we're kind of a little bit out of touch with reality on some things, maybe a lot of things,
but it's okay. So just looking at the functions and just looking at our stack it makes sense for
us to like each other. We literally can see each other within each other, so when an ENTP crosses
paths with an INFJ we understand what the other person is doing. If they're struggling we know
how to help that person. We just understand that person without actually knowing that person. We
see each other within each other. We have a lot of the same functions. We have very similar motives
in life. We're just going about and using our skill sets differently. ENTPs are known for being
scatterbrained, not being able to stay focused, tangent left and right within a conversation,
so for a lot of people it's difficult to keep up with an ENTP's train of thought. While in a
conversation the ENTP is probably going to come off very rambly, very scatterbrained,
honestly probably doesn't make a lot of sense. But if an INFJ is in the ENTP's presence they're
probably staying very quiet just listening to the ENTP and they're able to follow the ENTP's train
of thought. This is why ENTPs naturally love INFJs because we don't have to explain ourselves to
INFJs. They just understand us. So when you start a conversation with an INFJ you don't have to give
background information. You can just start talking and they're going to be able to keep up with you
understand where your mind is going, connect all of the dots, and actually help you figure out
your problem. So it's nice when an ENTP crosses paths with an INFJ whether they're friends or
their actual siblings or their significant others. We can just understand each other
and I don't think a lot of people actually fully grasp how nice of a feeling and how satisfying of
a feeling that actually is for an ENTP. We're very lonely all throughout life even though
we're completely surrounded with people. It's very difficult for people to understand us, be able to
communicate well with us, and actually collaborate with us without us having to explain anything and
everything. It's just a natural pairing. We just get each other. Another reason I absolutely adore
INFJs is the fact that we're both very adaptable. They're an INFJ so they're an introvert. We're an
ENTP so we're an extrovert. But at the same time both of us are 50 50 with E and I, meaning we
have a lot of the same interests. So we can go out and explore in the world, be each other sidekick,
be each other's ride or die, and then when we're done with social stimulation we're probably both
done at the exact same time. And then we just look to each other and say let's just go home,
no complaints no problem. ENTPs and INFJs have similar social limits. Both of us love
to socialize, we like meeting new people, but we also like leaving the world alone and just being
completely isolated away. So I love having INFJs in my life because I can just talk with you guys,
I can just explore with you guys, I can just do anything with you guys, and it's honestly
amazing. There's no explanation needed. It's just an extremely good pairing. So I love INFJs. I am
so lucky that INFJs exist. Because as an ENTP we are very scattered, we have so many ideas,
so many thoughts, and it's extremely nice to have an INFJ friend, family member, or significant
other in our life, where we can just call up or just meet up with and we can just unload anything
and everything that's on our mind. And that INFJ is going to be able to figure out and actually
help us with our issues. There's no needing to explain our behavior, they just get our behavior,
they just get our potential problem, and they have insight on how to solve it. INFJs are known for
being counselors and therapists. There is a reason ENTPs should go to therapy, let me just tell you
that. There's a reason ENTPs actually enjoy going to therapy. There's a very high chance that your
therapist will most likely be an INFJ. So if an ENTP doesn't know an INFJ, I know this might be
random, but I highly suggest therapy. Because there's a significantly high chance if you go to
a therapist that therapist will be an INFJ. I have family within this field and let me just say it's
a very predominantly INFJ field. So if you are struggling and you don't know an INFJ in your real
life and you have the means to be able to seek out a therapist, if you are super scattered with your
thoughts, or you're just in a depressed state, or you just need someone to be able to talk to,
I'm suggesting therapy. Because most likely your therapist might be an INFJ. You're probably going
to solve your problem simply because you're going to actually find an individual that's going to be
able to actually keep up with your mind, figure out what you actually need to solve your problem,
they actually want to help they have the skill set to help. Think about their cognitive functions.
They're high Fe users. They literally care about people. They care about solving your problems. So
in the weirdest not weirdest but actually maybe this might come across a little weird way, if
an ENTP does not have an INFJ in their life go to therapy. Because most likely your therapist will
probably be an INFJ. So INFJs are honestly so much fun, they're my ride or die, we can do anything
and everything, we can talk about anything and everything, we can understand each other, we can
both go out in the world and adventure together, we're both capable of wearing masks and adapting
to the people around us. Because we're both high fe users we're very good at knowing what to do
in a situation. We're very good at knowing how to help a situation. So when an ENTP is partnered up
with an INFJ the opportunities and possibilities are literally endless. It's going to be a lot of
fun. There's going to be a lot of laughing. Tt's going to be very very wordy very very chatty when
an ENTP and an INFJ first meet each other. It's going to be like a big kaboom and you guys are not
going to shut up and just talk about anything and everything. It's a lot of fun when an ENTP first
crosses an INFJ's path. A light bulb in a way kind of goes off, we recognize each other, we recognize
that we can understand each other, and it just creates this endless opportunity for each other.
There's not many things between us that actually rub each other the wrong way. There's not a lot
of weak spots between these duos. This is a very strong duo. So I definitely suggest it if you're
interested in an INFJ give them a shot. See where the relationship goes. Even if it's a friendship
I highly recommend ENTPs and INFJs staying friends for a lifetime. It's very difficult for ENTPs
to find people that we actually trust in this world, so when you do cross paths with an INFJ
please keep that relationship alive. Both of you guys will benefit from it. ENTPs love INFJs. INFJs
love ENTPs. There's a reason so many people say we're soulmates for each other, but even though
we're soulmates that doesn't mean it's going to be a perfect pairing. There's definitely going to
be some difficulties. From an ENTP's perspective I'm just going to be straight up honest with you
INFJs. If you guys try to control me one more time by saying be a nicer person, smile, be friendly,
consider the people's emotions...I swear shut up. I know. INFJ you have Fe as your second
slot. We have it as a third slot. Clearly you're gonna care more about this than we do. Clearly
okay. But that doesn't mean you have to shove it down our throats. We don't have
to be on the same level of Fe as you okay. I know that was petty and you're probably like,
just be nice Melissa is that so difficult? Yes yes yes it is. So as an ENTP I don't like to be
told what to do. I am a nice person. I consider myself a nice person. I always say ENTPs care
about people. We have Fe as our third slot, we're people people. Regardless of how much we hole
ourselves away from society we like to be a part of society. Unfortunately it's like the worst
cold hard truth of ENTPs. So it kind of sucks when an INFJ forces Fe down an ENTP's throat.
You don't have to manipulate us with Fe. No one's twisting our arm with Fe. We actually consider
Fe. So it's just my own personal grievance with INFJs of they're constantly manipulating me in my
eyes of being nicer. But I am nice okay. There's other things to consider other than emotions okay.
Please keep that in mind INFJ. I know you guys have it as your second function, so you guys are
very headstrong and very aware of it. But guess what, we are considering Fe. Just not as much as
you which makes sense because you have it higher up on your stack than we do. So we don't have to
be tit for tat for caring for the people around us. We do it on our own levels. We already care,
so you don't need to force us to do anything more. We are actually already considering Fe. So it
just rubs me the wrong way when I find out that my INFJs in my life are secretly trying to manipulate
me through Fe. It just bothers me because I can see it, I'm aware of it, at times I appreciate it,
but the majority of times I'm just like stop stop. Because too much Fe is never a good
thing for an ENTP I'll just let you know. So I explained why I kind of struggle with INFJs,
but at the same time I don't struggle with them. I'm aware of their manipulation tactics,
I call them out on it, but I still love them and want them in my life. So yes it's just a little
simple struggle that we have between this dynamic. And probably INFJs their grievance with ENTPs is
the fact that we aren't as caring as we should. So it's gonna be this like lifelong struggle
between an ENTP and an INFJ of an INFJ is gonna want us to basically move Fe to our second slot.
And then ENTP is just gonna be like, look you can't change me INFJ. I'm confused on the
fact that you're trying to change me. So INFJs please be aware that you can't change people.
You can bring awareness to people, but you can't change people. So stop that behavior.
And if you're an INFJ please take a second to comment down below on what your grievance is
with ENTPs. It's probably gonna be Fe though. So with love I'm gonna end it here. As always I hope
you guys enjoyed this video. Don't forget to like and subscribe and I'll talk to y'all soon. Bye.