-Hi, and in this video, I'm going to share seven signs
a man is catching feelings for you.
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Hi, ladies. Mat Shaffer, your empowerment,
connection and relationship coach.
I'm a former attorney who's committed his life to supporting you
and creating the sort of fun, fulfilling, dynamic connections
and relationships with men that you are so worthy of.
This is one of my favorite topics to talk about.
These infallible signs, indicators that a man is developing deep feelings
for you, he's developing attachment, he's developing love for you.
We're going to dive into that.
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Let me know what have been your clearest indicators that a man is into you.
That a man is catching feelings.
I'd love for you to share some of your own.
Maybe let me know some that I didn't cover.
That's super fun,
and I love the conversation that happens down in the comments.
Without further ado, let's dive into how men develop feelings
and what it looks like.
Now men often describe falling in love as catching feelings
because for a lot of men, I know for myself included,
it can feel elusive to develop deep feelings for a partner,
for a woman in our lives.
Our walls are up.
We don't have a lot of emotional agency and a lot of times
we get caught up in just physical interaction.
It can be hard for us to develop that deep emotional connection with someone.
When we do, it's like we've caught something rare and elusive, and amazing.
Know that if a man is showing you any one of these seven signs,
he's really excited.
He's really excited and you are at the top of his mind.
You are a priority to him.
That's going to be a theme of all these tips.
Let's dive in.
The first sign that a man is catching feelings for you
is he is your biggest cheerleader.
What do I mean by that?
I mean that he is intensely curious around whatever it is
that you're passionate about and he wants to support you in that.
Whatever it is, whether it be sports, or your work,
or your hobbies, he's got your back.
He's got your back, he's all in, and he's willing to do whatever it takes
to help you move forward in whatever is important to you.
Now a great example of this in my own life is my girlfriend
is very passionate about her sewing.
She's a brilliant artist and she does wonderful work
with different fabrics and this beautiful sewing machine that she's got.
I'm 100% behind her in this and I actually invited her,
I said, "Let's do an accountability group for each other,"
where I can help hold her accountable
and support her in setting aside time for her sewing.
She can help hold me accountable to get back into a hobby
that I'm really passionate about, wood carving.
Believe it or not, I love wood carving.
Look at this beautiful family portrait that I created.
Ladies, if he is asking questions about your hobbies, about your passions,
about your interests, and he's volunteering to support you in any way,
he wants to go work your booth at the farmers market with you,
he wants to go to your recreational volleyball games,
whatever it is, it's a sign that he is most definitely catching feelings for you.
The second sign a man has fallen in love with you
is that he uses consistent connected non-verbal communication
and this can look a lot of different ways.
First off, it generally means he's going to be open body when y'all are together.
Meaning he's not going to be closed off.
He's not going to be turned to the side when he's around you.
He's going to be full-on facing you like this
and he's going to use sustained eye contact.
He's not going to be afraid to look you in the eye when he's speaking to you.
When you're speaking to him, he's going to be very present to you.
When the two of you lock gaze, he's not going to look away
because he is activated and inspired by the connection
that the two of you are sharing.
Another important way to indicate this nonverbal interest
is through casual physical contact.
He's going to want to be just casually touching you,
putting his hand on your waist,
resting his hand against your hand while you're sitting at a table.
You're going to just feel him leaning in like he wants to be closer to you,
he wants to being your space like you're this campfire
that he can't help but wanting to warm his hands and warm his body against.
If you feel these consistent, connected nonverbal indicators,
chances are he's extremely interested in you
and he's developing feelings for you.
Now, the third sign is he checks in with you often,
and this is a huge indicator that you are top of mind for him
and that you're a priority in his life and in his heart.
What does this look like?
This looks like him asking you questions throughout the day
wondering how your work is going right, checking in that way.
Giving you an update on what's going on in his life,
because he knows that you want to hear about that,
or he just wants to share that with you.
Remember, all men are little boys.
When a man is sharing things with you in an enthusiastic way,
in a childlike way about maybe a big victory he had at work
or something that happened in his life,
it's because he wants to share fun stuff with you to make you happy.
It's like a little boy coming home and wanting to present you
with something that he found that's exciting to him.
It could also look like sharing funny memes or videos that he found online,
something that reminds him of you, something that reminds him
of your sense of humor, or of an experience y'all shared it together.
I do this all the time with my girlfriend.
If I see a picture that reminds me of her or an experience we shared,
I'll send it to her
and then we get to have a beautiful little moment around that.
If a man is doing anything like that to you on a consistent ongoing basis,
it means that you're top of mind and you're in his heart.
The keyword here is consistency.
If a man is doing this regularly, it's a perfect indicator.
Don't just assume because he did it once that he's all in,
but any amount of times that he does it, is great,
but look for that consistency.
The fourth sign a man is catching feelings is that he sees you
as his partner in shine.
That's a little different from what I'm sure a lot of you have heard,
which is a partner in crime
which when someone is your partner in crime
basically means you got their back, no matter what happens.
Well, this is different.
When you're a partner in shine, it means that he sees you as his equal,
he sees you as his partner, and he wants to elevate you
so that the two of you can both shine your light as brightly as possible.
When a man sees you as his partner in shine,
it means he wants to hear about your good days,
and your bad days, because he wants to celebrate the good days with you
and then also support you when you have bad ones
to help you make feel better.
He's also going to open up to you about what he's going through,
his victories, and his hardships because he knows he can trust you,
and that you're an emotional sanctuary for him.
When a man sees you as his partner in shine,
he's going to feel empowered by your relationship
and inspired by your relationship to play a bigger game
and take bigger risks in his own personal
and professional life because he knows that you're there alongside him.
He knows that you have his back no matter what
and that you're his number one support and because he's got that support,
he can go out there and really go for it in this life.
This is a huge factor in my own life.
My relationship with my girlfriend really inspires me
to feel unstoppable in my work.
I have way less anxiety and fear in all aspects of my life
because I know that she's got my back.
Things I used to have resistance to in my work,
I don't have nearly as much anymore.
That's a beautiful byproduct of having a partner in shine.
If a man is showing up, and he is being courageous,
and he's letting you know how empowered he feels when he's around you,
and how it's inspiring him to take big leaps in his own life,
chances are he is really catching feelings for you.
The fifth sign a man is falling in love is he is excited to meet your people.
This can be anybody.
I mean friends, I mean family, co-workers, neighbors.
If it's a person that's important to you, it's a person that's important to him,
and he's going to want to meet them,
and he's going to want to ask questions about them.
He wants to meet your people for three very important reasons.
Number one, he knows it's going to help him integrate deeper into your life,
which is very important to him.
Two, it's going to help him understand you better.
I know, in my own experience, I'm so excited to meet more members
of my girlfriend's family and her inner circle
because I know with every person that I meet from her life,
it's going to help me understand her on a deeper level.
Third reason that he's going to be excited to meet your people
is because he knows it's going to make you happy.
When a man is emotionally invested in you,
when he's activated and inspired by you,
making you happy is a huge priority for him.
The sixth sign a man is catching feelings for you
is that he isn't solely focused and isn't trying to rush physical intimacy.
This is a big one because we all know for a lot of men,
there's a mad dash to sex.
If you get past that initial push,
and a man truly starts developing deeper feelings for you,
he's starting to see and understand
and appreciate you in a deeper way
and he's not just trying to rush to the finish line anymore.
He actually wants to enjoy the journey.
What does this look like?
He may wait longer to initiate physical intimacy and dates
or to escalate physical intimacy.
He might just be totally happy kissing you and making out with you
for hours without wanting to take things to another level.
Conversations in texting might become less sexual
and less about just wanting to see your body or to talk about physical stuff
and more just about funny stuff or emotional things
or experiences that you all have shared together.
If he's in this space, his compliments to you are going to be less focused
on just your physical beauty or your body
and more about aspects of your personality.
Like maybe your quirkiness or your sense of humor.
Basically, if he's in this emotionally attached space,
he's no longer just trying to leap across the finish line.
He's truly committed to just enjoying the journey with you,
enjoying the courtship and just savoring each step on that path.
The seventh and maybe the most important sign
that a man is catching feelings for you is that he cannot wait
to share you with his world.
He is excited to share you with his friends and his family
and the people that are important to him.
He's looking forward to introducing you to those people.
He isn't afraid to share you on social media,
to talk about you, to mention you.
This is a huge thing for me because I oftentimes in my life
and past relationships where I haven't been as emotionally activated,
I've had a lot of resistance around sharing a woman that I've been dating
with my friends and family because it just didn't feel 100% authentic.
In my current relationship, I'll be honest with you,
after my first date with my current girlfriend,
I texted my parents and I told them, "I'm declaring right now.
I'm declaring that I want to claim this woman,"
and I let them know that I had had on a wonderful date
with this extremely amazing woman
and that I knew that I wanted to claim her after the first date.
That's something that is uncharacteristic for me
because I was catching feelings in a different way
than I had in many of my past relationships.
If a man is talking about how much he's looking forward
to introducing you to the people in his life, he's making plans,
he's future building with you,
coordinating and setting things up or he's not afraid to talk to his parents
or FaceTime them with you when you're around,
that is probably the biggest sign that he's catching feelings for you
and he's getting emotional invested in you.
Enjoy that if he's doing that.
Ladies, if a man is exhibiting any one or more of these signs
consistently over time, chances are he's getting emotionally invested in you,
he's fallen in love, and he is catching feelings.
To recap, that first sign is he is your biggest cheerleader.
He is interested in what you're passionate about
and he wants to support you in it in any way that he can.
Number two, he uses consistent, connected nonverbal communication.
He is always demonstrating that he is open to connect with you.
He's using sustained eye contact.
He's engaging in casual physical connection with you
and he's constantly leaning in because you are that warm campfire
that he cannot be too close too.
Number three he checks in with you often.
He is texting you throughout the day.
He's asking you how you're doing.
He's giving you updates on how he's doing and it doesn't have to be every hour.
It doesn't have to be crazy, but just a couple of times during the day,
you get a little message from him or maybe a funny meme
or a video that he found on YouTube.
Just anything like that is going to demonstrate that you're in his mind
and in his heart.
Number four he sees you as his partner in shine.
You are not his partner in crime.
You are not helping him bury bodies.
That is not what this is about.
This is about you two helping each other shine your light
in the deepest possible way and he sees you as his equal.
He sees you as his partner.
He sees you as his queen, and he wants to have you on that journey
to help both of you shine your lights as brightly as possible.
Number five is he's excited to meet your people.
He is ecstatic to connect with your friends, your family,
your coworkers, anyone who's important to you is important to you him.
He's curious about them and he is looking forward to meeting them
and building relationships with them because as he does that,
he's going to get to know you better, he's going to get to integrate with you more,
integrate deeper into your life and he knows it's going to make you happy.
The sixth sign is he isn't solely focused on
and doesn't want to rush physical intimacy.
He's no longer a sex crazed gorilla.
He has taken his foot off the gas and he's really truly seeing
and appreciating you at a deeper level.
The text might be a little less sexual or explicit.
He's complimenting you on dimensions
and aspects of your personality or deeper elements of who you are.
He's not trying to rush and escalate physical intimacy
when y'all are out.
He'll kiss you for hours or look into your eyes.
It's not just a race to the finish line.
That seventh sign is he wants to share you with his world,
his friends, his family.
He's talking to the people in his life about you.
He's letting them know he's declaring that he wants to claim you
like I did with my girlfriend.
He's not hesitating or resistant to sharing you on his social media.
Sharing you out into the public sphere with the people around him.
This is a man who is proud of you.
He's proud of being with you and he wants to let everybody know,
"Hey, this is my woman.
This is the woman that I am falling for.
This is my partner and I want everyone to know about it."
I hope that you enjoyed these seven tips and I hope this inspires you
and gives you some comfort and security
around whether a man is falling for you or not,
because here's the thing, ladies, if he isn't falling for you,
it's also really important to know that.
We do not want to be spending our time and energy just wasting it
on a guy who's just not willing to meet us where we're at emotionally.
I'm I right? Get out there, ladies,
and use these tips to help vet men
and understand who's an activated emotional partner,
who's worthy of your time and attention?
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Don't forget to click that link in the comments and caption.
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Thank you so much for watching this video,
and I'll see you next time. Bye-bye.
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