is it possible that you're asking questions unconsciously that sabotage
your success stay tuned
this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym stop asking yourself this one question if you
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NLP legends Steve and Connirae Andreas created a concept called core question a
core question is a fundamental question that you ask yourself in a particular
situation or it could be an experience especially when it comes to something
you want it's a fundamental question that goes across contexts hence being
core and any changes in it will generalize over many contexts that's
what makes this so powerful you think about any situation and you go a little
bit deeper and you ask yourself what are you asking in this situation you will
find a core question and it does it doesn't mean it's a bad thing it doesn't
mean that you're always asking yourself something negative it could be a lot of
different questions especially if you look at the areas in your life where
you're very successful you're probably asking a very good core question so if
you're not experiencing the kind of success that you'd like to be
experiencing in a certain area of your life it's probably because you're not
asking a very good core question and the question you are asking yourself which
is most likely unconscious its crippling your potential the question that I most
often come across in my clients anything even in myself whatever
I'm struggling with something is am I good enough
this is often a core question of a lot of people it's a very dangerous question
because it's really not something that can be answered objectively or
mathematically it's purely subjective has to do with deserving this and
worthiness or unworthiness and there's only one of two answers that can come
out of this yes I am good enough or no I'm not good enough who can actually
judge whether or not you're good enough for something there's a practical
question that comes into play when you're talking about skill when you're
talking about playing for the NBA when you're talking about doing surgery there
gonna be a mi skilled enough and am i good enough in that way like do I
possess the skills do I have the training do I have the experience that's
not what a core question is a core question is that deeper question like am
I good enough like in a sense of deserving this and worthiness or
unworthiness and a lot of people ask themselves this question and it's
unfortunate because there is no one who can judge that not you not anyone else
what what is this standard in which you're judging that by anyway all of it
is purely subjective and if you simply stop asking yourself that question you
will simply be worthy as just as worthy as anyone else to have anything so it's
not it's not a valid question but so many people are asking themselves that
and it's crippling them so what's the key to
overcoming this well first you have to be aware of what question you're asking
so ask yourself what are you asking in a particular situation or experience
ask yourself what question are you asking and this may take some time to
unpack you might have to do some writing around it or get someone to help you and
coaching you through that once you find out what the question is then change the
question it's really that simple ask yourself better questions for
example instead of asking yourself whether or not you deserve something or
you're good enough or worthy enough ask yourself do I really want this ask
yourself do I is this something I want or is this something someone else wants
for me ask yourself does this really add value
to my life does getting this whatever it is that I want
does it add value to other people's lives these are much better questions
that you could be asking yourself and in these questions presuppose that you're
worthy these questions presuppose that you deserve this so it's not even a
question of whether or not you're good enough or deserve it or you're worthy of
it you already know that when you ask questions that presuppose that you're
worthy and that you're deserving you don't have to struggle with that fake
obstacle that false assumption that you might not be good enough or that you
might not be worthy do I actually want this will it add value is it worth
working toward is it something that maybe somebody else wants for me that
happens a lot people chase things because other people want them to have
whatever it is like their parents are their spouse asking yourself better
questions will train your mind to think generatively rather than getting caught
up in these sort of like existential and conceptual obstacles and frustrations if
you're asking yourself if you're good enough
at some point in your life probably at a very young age
someone communicated to you this false idea about worthiness ever since you've
been asking yourself that question am I good enough now you can lay that
question to rest ask better questions and retrain your mind to think
generatively
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