Hi ladies, Jaki Sabourin here CEO of engaged at any age in your executive
love coach and I created a training for you about how to detach from a
relationship when you're dating and I know that this is so hard to do to move
on to let go it's probably one of the hardest things that we do as humans to
learn to let go and so I really wanted to help you with this so I created this
training to give you three secrets to quickly detach when dating and so I just
want you to recognize you right now and I know that some of you you know if
you're in a relationship and and you're thinking about you know moving on it
would be good if you start to pinpoint why you're still attached to this guy in
the first place it's really important that you come to terms with and be
emotionally onto honest with yourself but why you're still together and so you
want to ask yourself things like are you happy with your partner are you or are
you settling and and you're staying with this person because maybe you're afraid
to be single you're afraid to be alone you don't really want to leave and go
out back into the dating world and so that's why you're staying and and
another thing is you know in all honesty sometimes I don't want you to throw in
the towel okay sometimes there's you can work through things and if the
relationship may have enough you know the qualities that you need that you
just need to work through it maybe you haven't had the skills and tools to do
that to stay in a relationship and so you get triggered and you want to break
up but I really want you to reach deeper get the support you need and and figure
out a way to work through your problems because here's the thing ladies all
relationships have problems okay problems are a fact of life life is a
series of self-help obstacles and it's our job to get better at overcoming the
obstacles so you're always gonna have obstacles you're the one who need to
scale up in this area because basically it's just solving problems relationships
all have problems and you just have to get better at solving them
that's exactly what I'm teaching in my bridge Scylla program how to solve your
relationship problems very quickly so that you can move on in dating and in
relationships and you probably heard me talk about it but I've opened the doors
to my bridge to love program so make sure you check out the links in the box
below before you before you click off the page because I really want to share
that with you because they teach these advanced adult life skills that you need
to have not only in dating but especially in relationships because
you're going to have problems and you need not to solve them and that's one of
the biggest things in the hallmark of my work is helping you to skill up
emotionally speaking to be a highly functional emotionally mature woman and
that's the skill set that I teach in my bridge love membership group so check
that out it's a really low price point I've made it affordable for everyone
because I want to introduce you to the work it's content rich it's you have so
much support I have an incredible team of love coaches that are waiting to
answer your questions 24/7 and our private Facebook group so please
take a look at that and I think that you're gonna be really excited about
getting some coaching from me so I can help you with this and detaching and
from a relationship is a really really hard thing to do so let's jump into the
first secret that I want to share with you so the secret number one to detach
when you're in a relationship is you need to recognize you have to take back
your power detachment allows you to take back your power okay
pain that you're going to experience is short-lived once you decide to detach
and move on and so it's gonna give you your power back but it's gonna be a
little bit painful because any time you remove that connection with a man it's
gonna be trigger a little pain in you trigger some fears some worries some
anxiety possibly and here's why because when you're in a relationship you do
create a cord it goes from you to the man that you're with as you're connected
energetically when you go to sever that cord that cords kind of like flailing
about out there and it's looking to connect to something and it causes you
pain because you're leaking energy you're leaking energy
imagine that record coming out of your heart and you're leaking energy out to
that court so it's always gonna be looking unconsciously you're gonna be
looking to plug into something but what you really need to do is to plug in to
yourself you have to take the courts coming out of your heart do you suffer
from this relationship and you need to plug it into your belly button
okay just visualize that cord coming down and plugging into yourself because
that's what you need to do that's the only way you can have a healthy
detachment so you can give yourself what you need so that you can process the
detachment in a healthy way and you can fill your own cup up from within and I
want you to know that a lot of the pain that you experience when you detach from
a relationship isn't really from detaching because you've already made up
your mind especially if you're the one who initiates it but maybe he initiates
it regardless the pain that you will experience is not from the detachment
it's from the resistance resistance create the pain the resistance to
letting go is what causes the suffering because sometimes you know we resist it
because we we are afraid that we're not gonna meet anybody else resistance to to
that is resisting the unknown essentially we don't really know what's
gonna happen and so that's why our mind wants to hold on to people and we over
stand relationships because we're more comfortable and then known and even if
you're not happy in the relationship at least you're comfortable because you
know what to expect you know you're you're comfortable in your
uncomfortableness but that's no way to live your life and so when you go to
detach resistance comes up because there's those fears of like what if I
don't need anybody else or what if this is the best there is for me and all
these doubt start to surface and that's where the resistance come in so you go
to do something you hit this invisible wall of limiting beliefs and you're like
cap out on that you can't get past it and so just be prepared for that it
knowledge is power if you know that there's going to be a natural amount of
resistance then embrace it just go wow what am I feeling I'm feeling resistance
right now there's a lot of fear coming up for me so just just notice that
resistance causes the suffering so this second secret is I want you to grieve
your loss you have to allow yourself to grieve grieve the loss that you have
experienced it it's real and it creates and it creates things are going to
surface things are gonna surface inside for you're gonna have memories you're
gonna regurgitate a few things you're gonna rehash a few things in your mind
it's going to feel uncomfortable it's gonna cost you a little bit of pain and
beginnings are happy and endings are sad it's just a part of life that when
something ends it's normal to feel sad about it regardless of the circumstances
whether you initiated it or not so you just need to remember that you have to
grieve the loss and the it's a grieving cycle right it's normal to go through a
cycle of great grief so I want you to just give yourself permission right now
to go ahead and grieve the loss and remember it's really important that the
grieving is a process but it needs to come full circle you can't just go on
indefinitely grieving that's putting your life on hold you're going totally
unconscious and sometimes we use that grief as it as an excuse to not live our
life to not move forward and it really hurts other people in that process so I
want you to really think of your feelings like food when you go through a
loss you have to ingest you ingest the lost you have to digest you have to
process what that meant for you and then you have to eliminate just like food you
have to eliminate what happens when you don't eliminate a steak after you've
eaten it becomes toxic right that's what feelings that are unprocessed and
released happening they create toxicity inside of you that makes you sick that's
what dis-ease is a disease disease and so you want to make sure you ingest
digest and eliminate your painful lost feelings so that you can move on and if
you don't you're going to start thinking about your feeling instead of feeling
your feelings and moving on you're gonna about thinking about them it's getting
getting it stuck in your thinking mind remember ladies when we're thinking
we're attracting x' we're creating we're always creating whether we're conscious
or not so if you're thinking about this loss but you're not feeling releasing it
you're creating more of what you don't like you're essentially saying bring me
more loss bring me more of what I don't want
you're spending so much time thinking about it that's why it's important to
really understand that feelings are like food we have to ingest digest and
eliminate so that we can move on okay now my final secret and make sure you
see at the very end I can share my free gift with you is this is a big one too
and it's really hard to do but it I'm gonna challenge you if you want to move
on and find your soulmate you have to agree to no contact no contact is so
hard to do but it's the only way to make a clean break yet clean break and you
have to understand that it's really important that you don't have any
contact so if you ever want to heal and move forward and smile again you've got
to make sure that you close all the doors to the past because no matter how
much you want your to your ex or you might consider oh maybe I made a mistake
if you open that door again you're starting the whole process over and
you're just delaying the inevitable a painful experience you're resisting
going through because you're too afraid to be on your own or you're too afraid
that you won't meet anybody or you just don't think you can live without them
and that's just codependency and you don't want to be codependent you want to
be interdependent your relationships you want to be whole not a half making
a-holes and so this is just gonna stall out your healing process and I really
don't recommend it so you don't want to have your heart breaking over and over
again do you ask yourself that it's worth it to make a clean break so thank
you for watching make sure you like share and subscribe to my page you never
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that I can make training that are relevant to what you're going through
now my freebie is my soul mate assessment just go to soul mate iq.com
and take my quick quiz it's just a quiz and it asks you a series of questions
and I'll send you your assessment basically it's a frequency at the
vibrating the ear vibrating out that I want to help you identify whether you're
a leader maybe you're in your masculine energy maybe you're an over giving or
maybe you are you're just too nice and that's could be a problem too because
your heart so big or maybe you're in victim mode but I'm gonna help you
clarify what that is send you your assessment along with the
feminine exercise to help you switch further into alignment so you can
fast-track your ability to attract your soulmate that's what I'm all about I'm
all about fast-tracking and I really believe it can happen and not only do I
believe it can happen I proven it can happen because the women in my programs
they are fast trackers they do their work they release men quickly they move
on quickly and they get into healthy relationships very very quickly so check
out my testimonials on my Jacqui saber and comm page if you want to read about
them and then check out that membership site that I should but shared with you
in the beginning of the video where there's a lot of testimonials on that
page and I also I have them here right here on YouTube so I hope this training
was helpful and just know that I'm sending you a lot of love if you're
going through a detachment phase in a relationship I know it's hard but my
heart goes out to you and I'm here for you okay just sending you lots of love
today bye bye