Stuck in A Rut How To Turn Your Life Around [0:00:00]
In today’s video, gents, we’re talking about how to get unstuck, how to get out of
a rut, how to get out of a hole.
If you feel like you’re spinning your tires, you don’t want to get out of bed in the
morning, you’re going to a job that’s sucking away your soul, how do you get out
of this cycle?
Guys, that’s what today’s video is all about.
[Music] First things first, finding that you are stuck
in life is normal.
This happens to everyone.
It’s happened to me multiple times in my life.
And the way you want to look at this is when you are stuck, what you’re finding is what’s
worked for you in the past is just not taking you to the point where you want to go to.
And, being stuck, you’re just simply between where you want to be and where you’re currently
at.
Step number two.
You need to shift the way that you’re looking at this.
So, let’s look at the hero in an amazing story.
What do we notice about the hero?
He’s got a journey, he has to go through obstacles, he has to go through training through
pain.
He will have failures and at the end he will triumph.
So, this is your story and guess what?
You’re in the low point, you’re going through the obstacles, you’re going through
the pain and this is what’s going to make the story amazing.
Next up, we need to identify why you’re stuck.
This is something you’ve got to be honest with yourself, you’ve got to reflect you’ve
got to think and if you find this too difficult, start talking with other people ask them their
opinion people that you trust and all of a sudden you’re going to start to realize,
hey, everyone is telling me it’s because I’m in this job or I’m in this relationship,
I understand that’s probably the root problem, I’ve got to change it.
So, the next step to becoming unstuck is to change up your hairstyle.
What I mean by this is change something.
Take action, wake up fifteen minutes earlier, start making your bed in the morning, eat
breakfast.
But, what you’re going to find is these small changes start to have an effect.
But, what if you were to wake up thirty minutes earlier and you started dedicating yourself
to picking up those skills.
So, you can get that programming job which right now you’re not qualified for, but
within six months or a year you can be.
And all of a sudden, you’re closer to home, you’re getting paid twice as much and you’re
no longer working that soul-sucking job.
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The next tip for getting unstuck is to keep track of the wins, to keep score.
Guys, having a score makes it fun.
For me, this is about going to the gym, this is about being active.
And when you’re keeping score you’re keeping track, you want to keep streaks going, you
want things to look good and you can look back and say you know what?
I’ve had a pretty good month.
And, guys, you can do this on a simple to-do list and going through and crossing it off,
it feels great.
And when you can gamify taking steps in the right direction, that’s a win.
Now, this next tip is really important and that is to take those wins and to break them
up into small digestible pieces.
You don’t want to try to go after a huge project which is going to take days.
No, because then you’re going to be like it’s way too much.
Instead, break it up into manageable small pieces.
For me, going to the gym, I don’t have to have a great workout, I simply need to put
my foot in the door, that counts.
So, give yourself those easy victories.
Build off of the small wins.
Next up, the process over the outcome.
So, this is important because sometimes you’re going to put in a lot of work and you’re
not going to really see results.
The results are nice, but what you need to pay attention to is what you can control.
The process is what you control, the effort that you put in on a daily or maybe you know
maybe twice a day maybe once a week you find what works for you, but taking that steady
progress, measure that, not the results.
Next up, gents, I want you to surround yourself with strangely optimistic people.
These are people that probably shouldn’t be so happy, but they are.
The 35-year old guy that’s had cancer twice considers himself lucky to be alive and is
just living life to the fullest.
Why is he so lucky?
I mean he’s had cancer twice.
That entrepreneur that’s staring his third business, already had one going to bankruptcy,
the other one failed.
Why does he think this third business is going to be better?
Guys, it’s contagious.
You want to be around people that are going to lift you up, not pull you down.
[0:05:10] And that last point dovetails right into this
next point which is to be grateful for what you do have.
Yeah, you’re 45 years old, you’re twenty five years into a career which you absolutely
hate, but guess what?
You’ve got another forty years that you’re probably going to be working being active
able to do things able to redefine who you are.
You’ve got time, you’re 25 years old, and, yes, you’ve gone through some health
issues, but guess what?
You can recover, you can build yourself back up and you’ve got – you’ve got fifty,
seventy years that you can actually devote to actually becoming the man you know yourself
to be.
And you realize what you have and you’re grateful for that, it’s a very powerful
position to put yourself in.
Now, this next one is going to be really easy and that’s to think about who you want to
be and to practice being that person for one minute.
And guess what?
If you practice being them for one minute, you were that person for a minute.
And then, practice being that good man that amazing presenter, practice being them for
an hour, then practice being them for a day.
When you practice becoming the man you know yourself to be, guess what?
You start to become that person.
Over time, you do become that person.
So, that last point leads to the deeper question of what does it mean to you to be a great
man.
What is it you want to be?
What do you want to get out of this one life that you’ve got?
But how to answer this, maybe go fast forward to your own funeral, ask what do you want
people to say about you?
What do you when they get up there and they talk about you, what are they going to say?
For me, I want them to say he was a loving father, he was a faithful husband, he was
an honorable man who loved his friends, took care of his friends, helped those around him,
helped his community, actually made a difference in this world.
And I’ve got this broken out and one thing I do find is I’ve got to have monetary means.
I’ve got make time for those I care about.
There are certain things I need to start doing and I practice doing that and that’s what
you’re looking to do to start taking steps in the right direction by defining where you
want to go.
Now, this next step to get out of a rut sounds a lot more difficult than it is and that is
to talk and engage with incredibly successful people.
Believe me, in so many different industries, these people are readily accessible.
They love talking about their craft.
You’re going to be actually drawn in by their passion, but you’re also going to
notice they are incredibly human.
They use the bathroom just like you.
They have issues just like you.
And when you realize the difference between you and amazing success is actually not much,
that should give you the strength because you have what it takes in here to become the
man you know yourself to be.
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That’s it, guys.
Take care.
I’ll see you in the next video.
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