i want to give me a little bit more about this whole idea of you know
weathermen wanna sleep around or whether they want a file of was a little bit of
both
and how about women article you defend that i was already the same
what are your thoughts on this okay so i've read a couple books
about it um... about
what attracts s and how why we stay in relationships and things like that
and it seems like it's not black and white right it so it's not all men once
were rather all-women one and the masters right although that weird more
drunk for that that side
uh... it seems like we're set up to be serial monogamous right
uh... so it seems like
every couple you're just your designed uh... eg
our were hardwired to fall to be attracted to somebody and a crazy good
sex for about two-and-a-half three years
and then that starts the faint wing away so consequently it's right around when
the kids are you know getting born incoming around us the book written by
an with newt gingrich or are
without her
now that there's a lot of things that go into why were attracted to people know
men are not naturally more physically uh... up the uh... attracted to women
there's certain things and everything that a guy's attracted to has to do it
procreation so what was amazing to me to find out that i thought i was making
decisions like i'm attracted to that person might like that person
consciously but what was really happening most of it was unconscious
right and you don't realize that so like for instance um...
he get on the number one indicator of a female's orgasm and number one indicator
were female had an orgasm is the symmetry of her partner space so they
could measure how symmetrical a guy's faces in the morse a magical a guy
spaces the higher likelihood of his partner calming
and these are studies i don't know how they do these studies with the figure
this stuff out andy also you've heard the studies about women can identify
amend her husband by smell so they did the studies with a gate twenty t-shirts
to women
and make it so well
their husband dot that's my husband's t-shirt so women to be attracted to
smell it has more to do so there's all these things at work or unconscious that
we don't even know but it basically comes down to his worst serial monogamy
as in wilmington turns out even in nature cheat
a lot
and they think that cheating helps evolution because you you gave somehow
make your kid stronger
uh... europe trip gene stronger uh... that's what i think what do you think
all ok that
three different take on all of this uh...
so this post us from the sky
tracking casanova he talks about how you know this report on
allowed in
monogamy and and he said the word serial monogamous yeah i would actually say
that that is a cultural
framework and that our culture has made us monogamous grew up against our
biological choices are are are biology dictates that we are polygamous
alright ok and women
and uh... we are granted polygamous all time
and uh... so i wrote this very
excellent book by uh... our friend actress right is there is that's uh...
through most of human history
uh... before we some of them had civilization
uh... we
moved about in small bands of hung together since i did
so that's a direct fifteen of us
sharing of everything
fluid cell terra
weapons um... you know whatever pray we met movement capture
and we also shirts acts
so we had sex with their vote in the group
and uh... that was beneficial for those small hunter gathers societies because
you know we know which one is your kid
everyone's has sex without one
so it's is in the interest of everyone in that group that care for the children
it maximizes opportunity for every child
to be ready to
childbearing age he seems to be seen as a better chance of making it
dad itself is so that the president of your order now mean
mean that the way it is right now we all and was when i was the what if there was
a massive passerby
and i say ninety nine percent of the war was wiped out there's fifteen people
again reinforces monogamous rules are that this kind of right sleep around i
mean
venture that you might want to have different rules
so it's so we're not to me is completely societal its summer recess invented and
that our natural state is good to be polygamous you asap and then he backs
that with incredible research at all
so as there is that that's the way it used to be and then once use your
populations group
and then we sort of some of them to agrarian societies where we have private
property
it begin important to distinguish what's mind what's your read so this is my land
that these are my crops now aren't you
this land of my crops in my wealth to my offspring something to keep track of who
sitting with my women
right and that became you know much more prevalent
which has a built-in on that's right
so whose research is that there's a there's scientific
this is behind so uh...
for example all the competition
to uh... procreate actually happens within the wall
for for human beings
of the theory is that
along the west that somewhat format
and the sperm from those local may compete with in her womb and the most
uh...
you know the strongest best firms left for license right
so that's the theory ok and
and uh... it's really interesting period and i think it poorly made sense and
that's the reason why monogamy dis hasn't worked
it hasn't worked well any culture
uh... tries to make monogamy right uh... you know it's ideal and first failed
everywhere
i mean the rate of cheating is through the roof a mecca for men and women manny
finally realize yes and he misses side is uh... where they have the threat of
death it ichi will put you to death
will public executed
people still cheap people still cheap ticket they can't get over it
now jacob argues against this and and and his theory is that
that we're somewhere and and and between monogamy and polygamy
i doubt that means
into your monogamous are polygamous when you're in between the two
uh... it does not that part of the things that right if there's more people
and i think there's more people
secondly he had this because the thing is jealous gusto it is the real thing
it's not manufactured
is not impose upon as by by society
and that because the film jealous
you must have this sense about having this woman
the you're one of the having this guide here and
and my response that i hope that that that that daily doses also cost as a
cultural osler and yeah the sword behavior because you fear in it's fear
that you're gonna lose out on something you're missing out on something like
this is my met someone else is getting
but if you never were told those ideas you wouldn't have those feelings yet and
it not my paragraph or two that is this is uh... the issue of nudity
and or or are you back
wearing clothes is a natural thing
frankly known to argue that right but
but let's say i decide to become a anew this right now
and i walk run naked public people with would vote
freezing
and i don't feel shame and humiliation could lation
they would have a range of emotions and even myself outfield i call my god i
disadvantage
young children what what was screened out and tell them mom and dad all my guy
that man over there is making
and um...
you know that to me is a is is a another example of how culture
imposes certain ideas and chain and guilt
and what's right and what's wrong on the surface of moral
more codes that are kind of given to us
by by culture
not by biology
now i'm not saying that we should deliver polygamous life commuters chris
ryan the author
what he's saying is that
that is within our nature do that's the way we lived most of our lives and the
most of the human history however given to the society
we can head of the site where we have private property this is my cop
these are my favorite is the right hand
and that's your computer
but when it comes to sex would share that you know you know you're white his
mind i like desert
lengthen they're people who are into that
right as a as a society as they say in alaska edu don't lose your girlfriend
who's who's your turn