today i am debunking enneagram myths that i hear all the time uh a lot my clients come to me and
they'll say well i know that you know i am a type of one but i really do this behavior do you think
i could be this type and i'm like no if you align with the cores then the behavior is we don't look
at the behavior first right we look at the course first and so today i am debunking all those myths
that come my way if you're new here i'm hillary a certified enneagram life coach and i love to
teach you guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible i believe that we need
to build a really good foundation and a lot of times to understand the enneagram because there's
so many fluid parts to it um there's there's one core right and then everything else could be fluid
and you can be connected to different types i believe teaching the enneagram
in the simplest and easiest way possible helps you guys to figure out your type and
grow from there so let's go ahead and start debunking the myths that i hear
myth number one well i'm super organized
so i must be a type one nope that's not what makes you a type one i love to help people
it's it's everything in me loves to help people so i must be a type two
nope we're not gonna base it on that either okay so this one makes me laugh
i love money so does that make me a type 3 no it doesn't i mean who doesn't love money right i like
it but just because i like it doesn't mean that i am a type 3. i have really really strong emotions
i must be a type 4. really everybody has emotions it's what you do with them it's why you have them
that's what we like to uncover but no just because you have emotions doesn't make you a type 4.
here's a good one i love to research i research research and research and then i researched some
more so i must be a type 5. again no that does not make you a type 5 i actually have a really big
researcher but i'm not even connected to the type 5 other than being in a stance with it so no just
because you love to research doesn't make you a type five here's one that i hear quite often and
it is well i actually deal with a lot of anxiety so i must be a type six no i actually have anxiety
and i'm a type nine all types can have anxiety so just because you might deal or have anxiety it
doesn't make you a certain type here's a fun one i love fun i love adventure i must be a type seven
nope fun and adventure yes we do use those words when we're describing a type seven but
just because you love that doesn't necessarily mean you are a type seven a lot of other types
do love fun and adventure just because you're a natural born leader does not make you a type 8
i think a lot of times when somebody comes in with a lot of energy and they want to lead we
automatically can't assume that they might be a type 8 and it's like no other types like to lead
too are eight's a great leaders yes they are but again that doesn't make you a type eight last one
well i'm really shy and i'm really quiet and i never get angry does that make me a type nine
no i mean guys look at me i'm a type nine i don't come across just shy i can be very shy though but
i don't come across that way i can be really quiet but also can be really loud i can merge with other
people it really depends on the situation so the behaviors definitely don't make me a type nine
so that's just an example for each of the nine types that i just picked the most uh popular one
that comes my way especially during meeting with clients and so i thought i'm gonna help you guys
debunk those myths right for example just because you like to have your ducks in a row and be
super organized and um you know go about life that way just doesn't make you a type one yes we use
the word organize in a type one's description you know most type ones but not all of them actually
are pretty organized other types are organized too so that's why we can't base it off of that
right but if you look at like the type seven it goes towards the one in stress and i've
talked to a lot of sevens that say when i'm in an organized mode i'm usually stressed out
so just because they're being organized just doesn't make them a type one it makes them
going towards a type one but that behavior just doesn't define the type one the why behind it
will so i'd ask you if you are a super organized person and you're really leaning towards the one
i'd ask you well what's your why why are you organized why do you feel like you
have to have your ducks in a row and if it's because well that's the right thing to do
it makes me a good person it makes me feel like i have everything in order
it gives me a little bit more control i don't know different things like that if you're type one
you know you probably could explain that even better but if the why behind your organization
is those some of those reasons that could make you a type one but your type needs to align with the
core motivations the core fear the core desire the core longing and the core weakness in order
for you to actually be that type and from there we can look at the behaviors right
i love the behaviors um yeah i'm a peacemaker and i can be quiet and i can be shy but i also can be
loud i also can be angry i'm in an anger triad and actually i just i met with somebody who was
trying to decide between types and one of them was a type nine but she said you know i have anger i i
you know i can show up angry sometimes and i'm like the nine is in the anger triad we forget that
yes you can be a nine and have anger and actually i would say that's a healthy side of a nine if we
can recognize when we're angry and and you know walk through it and deal with it and so
um just because you might have angry outbursts doesn't like disqualify you from being a nine
nope in fact it might qualify you even more um because i know too if you're a nine out
there do you ever this is when i get angry um and i've really worked on this and identified it and
hopefully done enough work so this doesn't happen as much any anymore but um when i was younger
if i told somebody i gave somebody like oh i'm going to show up and i'm going to do this for you
or i don't know like all of a sudden somebody was relying on me and if something got in the way of
me being able to carry that out and because i i was afraid like if i didn't show up or do what
they needed or whatever i said i would it could cause conflict well if it's gonna cause conflict
now i'm gonna be angry and if somebody else is coming against that i don't know like you can
have an outburst if it's like we need to be to church right now right have you ever like been in
that situation where you're like let's go let's go let's go you know we gotta go we gotta be on time
i'd ask your why why do you need to be on time and for the nine for me personally it might be um
because it might you know it might cause conflict to for not or it just up it's very upsetting and
so i can have an uh unnatural anger outburst at times just ask my children so anyways um
let's see do i have any other examples you know the three the love of money that's not even a
real thing really right we kind of stereotype the threes that way but no they chase after
success and achievement and and sometimes money is the result of what they're chasing after
right and there are a lot of types where you know we're working at things and we're earning money
and we like money and we want to spend money and so just because you know you love money doesn't
make you really any type at all but especially not a type three i think that that is a common
myth and so another example would be that type seven you know loving fun and adventure and we're
like oh if you love fun and you love adventure you're a type 7 and it's like no that's that's
no i love fun and i love adventure now i like my comforts more as i've gotten older i've
realized that i am definitely a homebody but do i love fun and adventure yes do i love to travel
overseas and do different adventures yes and actually stay tuned because side note i haven't
let anybody in on this really yet i'm gonna be i don't know letting everybody know soon but you
know since we're talking about fun and adventure my husband and i he's a type 8 wing nine and i'm a
type nine wing eight we just bought a van like an rv van it's it's a it's called a thor rise i don't
know if you've ever heard of those but you it's like a van but it has a little mini house inside
and so we just bought one of those and we are about to launch another youtube channel
um that he'll mostly be running called the vancaskeys which if you know my last name is
mccaskey and so it's just a fun play on words but we're about to launch that youtube channel and it
is fun and adventure but he's not a seven nor am i he's an eight and i'm a nines so actually that
explains it really well right all types can love fun at adventure it's the why my husband and i
did it because our kids are in college now we're in our 40s our kids are in college we really want
to travel um some things aligned up to where it was like you know what that sounds like a fun
adventure let's do it and so we are but yeah that doesn't make either of us a type seven so anyways
um i just wanted to quickly get on here just make a short little video of like some of these
common myths that come my way and if these are things that you've struggled with and you're like
well i think i'm this type but because of this you know just so you know i do have a discovering you
typing session it's a one-hour zoom call with me that you know if this helped you but didn't fully
help you go ahead and um send an email my way all that information is linked down below but
we can uncover your why if you're dealing with any of these and you kind of thought yeah that's
what made me this we can go through it together and we can uncover well why are you doing that
because levels of health play into this um if you're under stress or if you're doing well
you know as a nine for example i go towards a three when i'm doing pretty good
i use those healthy behaviors of the three when i'm under stress i use more of the behaviors of
the average to unhealthy side of the six i i start to overthink things and think worst case
scenarios and different things like that and then also i had i have access to a one
wing and an eight wing i am a nine wing eight but i have access to both of them that's why i
teach this guys because it there's so much to it and i love to help you guys just uncover you know
wade through all of that to find your core type who you are so that you can get on that path of
growth and begin to understand yourself better and have more grace for yourself and love yourself
and the next best part understand the people in your life better have more grace for them and
understanding for them i really really believe that enneagram is such a great tool for us to
be able to learn to communicate better and love each other better so anyways okay i'm
getting off my soapbox and that is all i have for today guys until next time bye guys
you