Is this gonna be the year you stopped making excuses?
I can't.
I'm too old.
I'm too young.
I'm too fat.
I'm too thin.
I can't, right?
I can't.
I hear this all the time.
All the reasons that you can't do something.
Don't tell me, you can't,
don't give me excuses.
What's the reason you've given yourself
why you can't be successful and you can't be better?
There are people out here that could be more successful,
but you have fought your way into a depression.
You have fought your way
into gravitating and moving into the direction of
anything and anybody that's negative.
Everything about your life that you've decided
that you've wanted for yourself
is so negative,
but yet you're expecting
to produce positive results.
And it doesn't stop
if you don't make it stop.
So recognize
the excuses are not valid.
They aren't,
they're trumped up.
They're conjured up.
They're fabricated,
they're lies.
And how do you stop the lies?
You stop the lies with the truth.
And the truth is you have time,
you have the skill,
you have the knowledge and the support
and the willpower and the discipline to get it done.
A lot of you are trying to find inspiration and motivation
with a depressed mindset,
you're depressed because you not do s*** with yourself.
You don't find inspiration
by not living in a grip of life.
Then you're living in a grip of life to find inspiration,
put challenges in front of yourself.
When you put a challenge in front of yourself and you attack it,
that's when you find inspiration.
If you want all these things in life,
and you are just thinking that by some miracle of life
it's gonna magically happen,
you gotta wake up.
The only way to get what you want in life
is to get to work and go and get it.
To look at all your adversity
and all the excuses square in the face
and push yourself out of your comfort zone
to achieve what you want.
I'm not going to allow things
that I have no control to control me.
The only way to go about doing the work is get f****** raw
and get f***** intense,
get angry and aggressive
and f***** happen
for yourself.
These test days, guys,
these are the days that test your qualities.
They test your characters.
They test who you think you are.
They test your fortitude, they test your endurance,
your discipline, your grit, your dedication,
your determination, your mental toughness, your character.
Everyone wants to feel like a winner
and feeling like a winner requires that you win.
You get the feeling of the winner by completing a task 100.
When you do this repeatedly,
eventually
you develop the habit of completing the tasks that you begin.
When this habit of task completion locks in
your life will begin to improve in ways that you cannot today imagine.
In psychology, the reverse is always true.
The incomplete action is a major source of stress and anxiety.
In fact, much of the unhappiness that people experience is because
they have not been able to discipline themselves to follow through
and complete an important task or responsibility.
If you have ever had a major assignment that you have been putting off,
you know what I'm referring to.
The longer you wait to get started on an assignment
and the closer the deadline approaches,
the greater stress you experience,
it can start to keep you up at night and affect your personality.
But when you finally launch into the task
and push it through to completion,
you feel a great sense of relief and wellbeing.
It is almost as if nature rewards you for
everything that you do that is positive and life enhancing.
At the same time, nature penalizes you with stress and dissatisfaction,
when you fail to do the things that move
you toward the goals and results that are important to you,
Pick something right?
Pick something,
a nameable goal,
and then try to implement it.
And what'll happen is
you'll learn a lot by trying to implement it.
And one of the things you might learn is,
what the, a slightly better goal might be.
You know, cuz if you try something diligently
and you succeed or you fail,
you're gonna learn from the, the effort expanded
in the detailed implementation of the goal.
It's going to inform you.
It'll also transform you physiologically.
It does that at a very basic level, neurophysiological level.
You will be slightly different
as a consequence of the attempt.
And what that'll mean is that the next goal
you pick will be a little more suited to you.
And so it's this kind of pathway, right?
It's like maybe the goal you should be attaining is here,
but you don't know that cuz you're clueless.
And so you aim there.
Well, it's better than there.
And it's not nothing.
It's not cessation of movement.
And you know, if you, if you're supposed to go there and you go here,
but you walk diligently towards it, you're a little closer
once you get to here than you were here.
And it's this oscillating, self corrective
process that leads you to the final star.
And you have to be willing to engage in erroneous experimentation to,
to manage that.
But it is a self-correcting process.
And so one of the things I always
talk to my clients about is, well,
let's try something,
you know and we'll reserve to ourselves the right to alter our trajectory.
And then I would use as a corrective there,
because you might say, well, how do
you know when you're not just giving up?
Right?
Instead of thinking maybe you need a different goal.
And I would say, well, you can,
if you're really concerned about your proclivity for self-deception,
you can enter into a contract
with yourself that you won't replace any goal you've set
with a goal that's easier.
And so you can switch your goal, but it has to be a little harder
so that you check yourself against that
tendency to withdraw and avoid and be self deceptive.
And that works like a charm.
And if you do that with some degree of diligence,
your goals will get better and more attainable,
and you'll get happier too, because
you don't experience happiness except in relationship to a goal.
And that's really worth knowing.
You know?
And that's another thing to think
about too, if your life is meaningless.
Well, you're not pursuing a valued goal.
I mean, you might be depressed too,
and sometimes that can be like an illness, you know,
or something that is really wrong with you.
But a good rule of thumb is that
if you find no joy in life,
there's a very low probability that you're pursuing a goal that you
regard intrinsically, like in the depths of your temperament as worthwhile.
And that's technically true because we do, in fact, experience
most of the positive emotion, let's say, that's associated with,
with, uh, with emotions like joy.
We experience that in relationship to a goal,
so well then you want to find a goal that regulates
your negative emotion and that brings you a
certain amount of positive emotion and that.
Expands your competence as you pursue it,
and you will experience that as meaningful.
That's really what, meaning signals.
Meaning signals, you're doing all those things.
You say, well, that's not real.
It's like,
don't listen to the semantic chatter box so much, right?
There's levels of you that are far wiser than that, and
you can watch what happens to you instead of noticing what you think.
The way that you develop courage and confidence
is with knowledge and skill.
Most fear and doubt arises out of ignorance
and feelings of inadequacy of some kind.
The more you learn the things you
need to know to achieve your goals.
The less fear you will feel on the one hand,
and the more courage and confidence you will feel on the other.
Think about learning to drive for the first time,
you were probably extremely
tense and nervous and made a lot of mistakes.
You may have driven erratically and been a danger to yourself and others,
but over time
as you mastered the knowledge and skills of driving, you became better
and better and better, and your confidence increased.
Today you can quite comfortably get into your car
and drive across the country with no fear or worry at all.
You are so competent at driving that you can
do it well without even thinking about it.
The same principles apply to any skills you need
to learn to achieve any goal you can set for yourself.
There's some times where the mind gets overwhelmed
and you cannot slow it down.
But by these, these certain tools I developed
by now allowing your mind to get away from the moment
you cannot, you have to think about the exact moment that you're in,
but I saw when I was younger,
the moment became too big.
When it became too big, I spazzed out and I would quit.
But now I don't think about even like
an hour from now I'll be eating.
I don't even go there.
Ah, because then your mind, oh,
No, we must embrace this because now there's,
you have to be a leader in this moment.
It's not about you just getting through it.
I had six guy, I had five guys and six, including me in my boat crew
now is the boat crew leader.
So now another trick is this,
if you don't think about yourself, there's no pain.
Which can also lead to pain later on in your life.
But in these moments when you're struggling,
if you are a true leader
and you're worried about your men or women beside you,
your mind doesn't care how code you are anymore.
Your mind's only worried about taking
care of the men and women beside you.
So I started realizing, man, if I take care
of these cats to my left in my right,
In the worst moments,
my mind is no longer thinking about your miserable David Goggins.
Get the hell outta here.
You're thinking about how is John, how is Annie?
How is Sam?
How is Pete?
How, Hey, how are you guys doing?
You're not thinking about me.
So there's so many things you can do
to get outside your own head
to then allow your body just be like,
Hey, we get some machine.
But you have to let your mind be able
to process all these different tactics,
to do that.
Take a different vantage point in life.
When you are in the hell,
you can't see the beauty of being in it, when you're in it,
get on top of that mountaintop in your mind.
Get top of that mountaintop and look down in what you're doing.
You can see a whole different world,
and that world is beautiful,
but you gotta get a different vantage point.
In this, in the suck.
Don't be in it,
spiritually get out of it.
Get that soul
look down on what you're doing.
Be amazed by the process of where you're at now
and where you came from.