You start out things are crazy, they're wild, you have an amazing sex life and then all of a sudden,
the the lady in the relationship stops being freaky stops being horny and the opposite kicks
in. so today we're going to talk about how you can make sure that this doesn't happen to you
and that if this did happen to you what you can do to reverse the trajectory. So this is for
the partner in the relationship and it's for the woman experiencing this right. So the first one,
I want you to go on a journey with me imagine going to your favorite restaurant
every single day right you love it and then to top it off you have the gooey cake at the
end of it it's a fantastic thing right. But imagine that you have that every single day
you would stop looking forward to it right. So the number one reason this happens is overkill!
Sex may be great between the two of you in the beginning, but because it's so great you wear out
your welcome and you overdo it right. So here's one thing that I want to say about overkill.
Overkill depletes number two which is dopamine. Dopamine is the passion hormone! You have to have
a lot of passion in order to keep the sex drive going right. So dopamine is about anticipation.
If you know where you're going to the movies for a movie now you know what restaurant you're going to
afterwards, you know what positions you're going to try later, you know all of that,
there's nothing to anticipate and nothing to look forward to. so even though in the beginning
things seem like wow we should just be having sex every day you want to ration sex like you ration
all of the other magical things in your life. And two reasons for this not just for her, but if you
happen to be in a relationship with a guy if he preserves it and reserves his magical moments for
special occasions, then he'll last longer and you will crave it more right! So that's two things.
The third thing is irritation. Eventually over time if you're doing it and doing it doing it
and doing it, well eventually she starts to get irritated down there. So if you're a lady and you
happen to suffer from irritation after multiple rounds of of orgasmic play, one thing that you can
do is keep raw apple cider vinegar close by, put it into a warm bath soak in it and the irritation
starts to dissipate. So that's another reason why the sex drive starts to wane over time it starts
to be irritative and anything that irritates you eventually you start avoiding it. So less
is more you should be begging for it begging for it and wanting it in as opposed to oh gosh
are we supposed to have sex again today right. So the next part of that is that generally speaking
somewhere between 45 and 75 percent of women say that they can't even orgasm during penetrative
sex. So in order to take that off the table so that she enjoys it each and every time instead of
pretending like she does or even just laying there you really want to wait to penetrate until she's
begging you for it that will decrease irritation that will improve the chances that she wants to
go at it again and you don't have to do as much work the work is done before penetration right!
Then the other thing I want you to keep in mind is that over time anything that you do over and over
again depletes dopamine, and I want you to vary up everything that has to do with your relationship.
I want date night to be somewhere new. Movie night to be somewhere new, and I want you to bring
novelty newness and new positions to the mix of things so that she never really knows what's about
to happen which breeds anticipation which then brings the dopamine and the passion all together.
So then the other thing that I want you to know is that if you accept the excuses early on in
the relationship "oh I have a headache", "oh I'm tired", "oh I worked all day", "oh I don't
feel like it". If you really set that up, and you set the tone for that in your relationship,
those excuses will become your relationship and you'll start to feel bad even asking for
sex from your partner right. So early on in the relationship once the excuses start
you've got to lay it on heavy and thick. Some people are going to be mad at me for this but you
love her so you don't push right but but imagine thinking back in time to when you were a kid
right. Your parents never gave you a nudge to learn how to read, never gave you a nudge
to get better at math, well you wouldn't be an entrepreneur you never would have learned how to
read and everything would have fallen apart. So in relationships the partner with the lower sex drive
oftentimes needs a nudge. So don't be afraid to nudge don't accept all of the excuses early
on into the relationship because I see it happen over and over again because those excuses become
the norm right. So lay it on a little thick find out what they want. Find out what you
can do in terms of a commodity exchange. What can I give you so that you want to give me pleasure
and lay that stuff on thick. Excuses early on in the relationship become the relationship later on
right. So now that you know all of the reasons why this starts to happen, I want to equip you
and your partner and you just you in general with the skills necessary to make some changes in this.
So one thing with decreased sensitivity, increased irritation, low sex drive, one thing you always
want to do is check your medication and check with your doctor. Because antidepressants,
even Advil and Aleve and allergy medicines can all dry things up down there. Yes, they can.
They suppress the parasympathetic nervous system turn the sympathetic nervous system on,
and everything becomes dry. Your dry you get dry eyes if you have contact lenses your nose
dries out and guess what else dries out. So that's one thing. Next, adjust your diet so that is rich
of polyphenols and antioxidants so that you can better use the hormones that are available, fight
inflammation, and boost testosterone levels. So the best way to boost testosterone levels to get
your sex drive up, is eating from the earth and not from the bag or the box right. Because there's
too many preservatives in there. Then you also want to start with a vaginal rejuvenation regimen
right. Check your hormones make sure you're getting enough of what you need make sure you had
some apple cider vinegar on deck to change the ph towards a positive way so that the good bacteria
can can live down there. Then you want to get on a very decent probiotic that's designed for women
down there. Then you want to increase the amount of water the amount of fiber the the amount of
nutrient-rich foods. But then let's talk about some supplements that you could potentially start
on right. One thing to keep in mind is that Tribulus will help boost testosterone in not
just men, but in women too. So consider talking to your doctor about adding Tribulus supplement
and maca root. Maca root helps with sex drive for men and women in the ancient andean culture. This
was a fertility starter for both men and women and we still use it in those valuable ways. The
other thing is making sure you're getting enough zinc, make sure you're getting enough magnesium,
and omega-3 fatty acids and protein. If you can't get animal-based protein, try to amp things up
with the plant-based protein. So the four reasons, you've got them. We want to fight them we want to
increase the dopamine levels. We want to bring novelty into the relationship. We want to stop
wearing it out so that there's less irritation there. And then to rejuvenate the sex drive. One
bringing the novelty will help with that but the other thing to improve the quality down there so
it's juicier like it used to be back in the day. You want to go through a vaginal rejuvenation that
you're basically doing in your own bathtub at home you want to change the ph and get yourself back
balance down there by adding a little acidity to your bath water. Then you want to take things up
a notch by improving the quality of the bacteria there, and then you've got to play with yourself.
Playing with yourself at least three or four times a week. Studies indicate that it
boosts your sex drive and if you think about it it makes sense right. Because now all of a sudden it
is stimulated down there and you actually start to walk and feel a little more turned on and a little
more moisture down there and that's exactly what we want. And for my favorite device for improving
sensitivity down there and bringing the blood flow back would be a device that has a suction
vibration to it right. You put the suction and vibration motion on the clitourous and blood flow
increases, moisture increases, and that is a big part of the rejuvenation.
Another part of the rejuvenation is adding in a moisturizer to the area so that you're actually
improving the moisture naturally and rejuvenating the tissue. But you also need a little bit of that
moisture when you're using the device right. So all of these things to help bring back
the juiciness that used to exist there and to make it so that instead of saying no
no no, you're actually saying yes yes yes. So for more information you want to follow me and
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