I want to talk to you about how to keep the tension on when dating hi ladies
Jaki Sabourin here your executive love coach and CEO at engaged at any age a
company that helps women deliberately date and consciously create the man of
their dreams I met married my own soulmate match
husband Michael after being single for eight years and I'm still on the
honeymoon and passionate about helping you get engaged at any age this is such
a big topic so many women don't know how to get the tension on one dating and
it's really critical that you learn this skill so I'm gonna give you three tips
are gonna help you fast-track your ability to keep the tension on when
dating okay so the first tip is you've got to detach from outcome seriously
this is so important because men can feel it when you're attached to an
outcome especially when you just get it you may be you on one date or maybe you
met him online you haven't even met him yet or maybe you spoke to him on the
phone and you go into this magical thinking fantasy mode and that's a
vibration that's kind of like a desperate vibration that goes out and
men can feel it it's energy so you really need to embrace this tension sit
in it marinate in it you know play with it just have fun with it it's so fun to
detach from outcomes of life because that's where all the magic is because
the truth is we don't really know what's gonna happen nobody knows what's going
to happen so really start to embrace living your life detach from outcomes
that keeps you in a much more playful fun you don't really know because you
don't really know and what in that space of not knowing that's where the tension
is because he doesn't know either he isn't know how you feel about him so
don't play your hand keep your cards close until you know for sure that he's
showing up in the way that you want him to that could lead to something you know
more serious so play with it sit with it you know let him get a little nervous
about whether or not you're into him okay so tip number two and make sure you
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the second tip I want to share with you is practice indifference yes
practice indifference it's so sexy so it's really just developing the ability
to just have a lot of concern I mean you're completely open you're free
you're not concerned that you're not going to meet your man of course you're
gonna need him the only way that you're not gonna end up in a relationship is if
you give up and you're not gonna do that so just stop being so concerned about
everything go out and flirt with reckless abandon and stop taking things
personal when you take things personal you start to again going back to the
first thing I said is you start attaching to outcome so you need to
practice being indifferent not caring whether or not he likes you okay yes
you're involved and you you're showing interest and you care about what he's
sharing or if you haven't dated yet but you're not again you're not taking it
personal thought about you unless things move forward and he pursues you alright
here's my third and final tip for you stop putting your emotional security on
a man it's like you want him to be this big warm fuzzy soft blanket and he just
can't be that for you because you don't even know him he's a stranger and until
he makes those moves and makes his intentions really clear to you you
definitely don't want to do this because they can feel the difference when you
put your security and your emotional like happiness and needs on a man it and
it just always backfires like I said they can feel it it's an energy those
needs are yours you need to take care of those and if you're doing tip 1 and tip
2 it's gonna be easy for you to do tip 3 which is to stop putting your emotional
security on a man your emotional security is all about you it's about you
meeting your emotional needs not going into that if he likes me I like me hey
you love yourself you're a catch you're amazing and you need to know that
because if you know it it's more likely he's gonna know it good don't sit sit
around looking at your phone tini if he's going to text you call your friends
talk about it that is definitely attached
to an outcome when you're putting so much energy on what you want to happen
you're actually pushing it away by the law of attraction let me explain what I
mean by that so when you're so focused on if he's gonna call if he's gonna call
is he gonna call me or Deana text me is gonna text me is gonna text me what are
you doing you're actually focusing on what you don't have you're focusing on
the fact that there's a lack there when you focus on what you don't have you get
more of it he actually can sense it energetically and it's a turn-off he's
not going to call you but as soon as you put your phone down go out with a friend
go to a movie go to a yoga class get your life going and don't worry about
whether he called you back or not there's a lot of information in that if
he doesn't call you back or text you back you know he's not that interested
so you can move on so it's so important to really recognize that these three
tips are the are the exact way that you can keep the tension on make him coming
towards you and you don't have to back up you just need to just release your
attachment to the outcome and have fun with it
this dating can be so fun I'm telling you it can be so fun when you have this
kind of power men will come flocking to you they'll fall into your lap I promise
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