I'm gonna address that in this video.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung and I'm a narcissist negotiation expert.
I'm also an attorney and I have been asked a lot
this question over the last few days.
So I thought okay,
I'm gonna go ahead and address this now.
I did a video on my thoughts on Will Smith and
that whole slap that was heard around the world
a couple of days ago on what I thought the real reason was that
Will slapped Chris couple of days ago
and I wanted to just do a follow-up on this
because I've been getting like text messages
and voice mails from people on whether or not
I think Jada Smith is a narcissist.
So I thought I would just do a follow-up video on this
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So I want to reiterate that
I do think that Will Smith's behavior was
totally reprehensible the other night
but I do like Will Smith
I've always liked Will Smith a lot.
I love his stance, on the law of attraction and
you know, I do believe that he's brilliant in a lot of ways.
I think he's super likable.
I read his book.
I followed him for a lot of years.
I feel like I grew up with him in a lot of ways,
but obviously I don't excuse his behavior.
I don't think it was good in any way.
I do believe that he was very sorry for his behavior.
I do believe that his apology was very,
very sincere and I want to reiterate
what I said in my video the other day
about what I think the real reason
why’s for why he did what he did,
you know, if you read his book, I do believe that he was triggered
because he grew up with a father who
was a good father in a lot of ways.
I mean, African-American Community a lot of times there
weren't fathers around, but his father was around and very,
very present for him
but his father used to beat up his mother sometimes
and he felt fearful very fearful of like
the end that he didn't protect his
mother and that was a big trigger for him
and he talked about how there were
three of them that were close in
age and that his brother was fight and his sister was fight,
and he was freeze and he felt like
he never protected his mother and
he talked about how he felt like
he let down all the women in his life except his daughter
and that only now recently has he started come to terms with that
and that it was only since his father died a couple of years ago that he's
finally starting to come to terms with that
he talked about in the book how he's done all sorts of therapies
and all sorts of even sort of different types of therapies
and so this is a really,
really big deal for him which Jada obviously knows about clearly
and so when this happened at the Oscars,
which obviously Jada very much knows
that this was supposed to be his big night.
This was his night mean,
obviously, he's sitting right up front right there
for a reason and the reason was
because he's nominated in the best actor
category and he's heavily favored to win.
I mean, he's nominated for King Richard and
he's heavily favored to win in that category.
You know, his whole entire life, his whole
entire career is leading up to this night.
This night this is supposed to be his night
and so clearly there's a lot of pressure on him.
This is there's a lot of eyes on him.
She knows that and so,
when this joke happens,
I don't even know honestly if Chris Rock
even knew that she had this condition.
I don't know if the joke was just about
the fact that she had a bald head
or if he knew that she had that
condition but he actually was laughing.
You knew you saw that he was laughing
and until she gave him the look
and it was that look that triggered him
it was that look of are you going to do something about that look?
and it was that the triggered him to you
better do something about that and
that was what triggered him to.
Oh, I have to do something about that.
That was what caused him to
I have to get up, I have to do something,
I have to protect and you know
in fairness did she really need to do that to him at that moment,
knowing that this was his big night
knowing that that would trigger him.
Knowing that he's got these issues.
I mean, seriously.
Yeah, I get that
this is an issue for her.
Yeah, I get that that is something that maybe is hurtful to her
and something that she's sensitive about.
I'm not saying that that's, you know
something that she shouldn't be sensitive about
but honestly, it is the Oscars.
She is a public Persona.
She is a celebrity.
It is Being that you're supposed to sit there and take that is Chris
Rock's job is to sit there and make jokes about people in the audience.
That's supposed to be what he's supposed to be doing
and so honestly,
for her to kind of look at well
like hey, aren't you supposed to do something about
this was maybe not something that she should have done.
I don't know, but maybe she don't expect him to do what he did.
I'm not really sure but I do know that he was
definitely triggered by that and in fairness,
Why don't she go hey, don't get up.
Hey, Will sit back down.
You know, why didn't she stop him?
Why didn't she say no don't do anything.
No, get back here or anything like that.
I don't know.
I'm kind of wondering about that myself,
you know, like why didn't she do anything
to take the focus away from that.
Knowing that it could be an issue
and then since that
since I did my last video by the way,
I saw an article in US Weekly
and I saw video footage that appears to be
footage of her laughing after he slapped Chris
and it definitely appears to be her laughing and it's very,
very disturbing that definitely seems fishy to and
you know, we do know that narcissist,
especially when it's your big night
or it's your big occasion wanted to take the focus away from you
and this was clearly his big night and we do know
looking at the history of their relationship,
you know she didn't want to be married in the first place
and he wanted to be married and he puts these women
on pedestals and he you know he's always done that.
We do know that she has a history of infidelity in the relationship and
you know, he's look the other way with that.
I did find it disturbing in the book the way that
for three years or something like that was planning
her 40th birthday party and she didn't like it.
She was very upset by it.
Made it seem like he made it was all about him
and his ego really didn't appreciate it at all
and that bothered me a lot.
I don't know if she's a narcissist or not
it certainly seems to me at least from my perspective and
you know, without being within the relationship
that there seems to be fishy things going on here
and you know, I'm going to say that if she is a
narcissist and this is a toxic relationship.
I hope that they're both getting counseling
I did read that he is seeking intense counseling
now for his emotional trauma that he endured as a child,
that obviously is still unresolved since the
Oscar slap that was heard around the world,
which is great, which is great.
You know, I saw that you know, she posted
something on her Instagram that this is a season
for healing and I'm here for it.
I do find it fishy that that's all.
She has said since the Oscars that she
hasn't come out and said anything more other than that.
I find that fishy to frankly,
you know, I mean here he went to all these
great lengths to quote-unquote protect her
for all of this.
I mean, he's basically kind of torpedoed his entire career.
You know, that whole slap thing was so out of character
for him all because she gave him that look like
aren't you gonna do something for me which
you know again, it's kind of something
that it was sort of like this fear
like what are you going to do for me
sort of a thing kind of an indication of not a good situation there.
So I don't know but if it is a toxic relationship,
if it is a narcissistic kind of a hold that she has on him.
I do hope that they're both seeking counseling.
I do hope that she's seeking counseling.
He's seeking counseling.
I do hope that both of them are getting the season for healing.
I hope it's it is what they're both representing
It is to be because obviously I send them both love and prayers.
I don't want anybody to be in a toxic relationship.
That's why I do what I do.
That's why I'm here.
That's my mission.
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I would love to know what your thoughts are on the whole Will and Jada thing.
Do you think she's an Narcissist and I will see all of you in my next video.
Thanks so much for listening.