Oh wow, OK.
So question number one.
OK. I feel like I'm on a game show.
Like Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.
Are you ready. Yes.
OK.
Hi I'm Laura
and I'm 32.
I'm Mel and I'm 24.
I'm Xakota I'm 25.
I'm Melissa and I'm 35.
Nice to meet you.
Ah. Do you believe in marriage?
The quick answer I wanted to give was
no. OK.
And then I thought OK
but Marian you got married.
Same sex marriage was only legalized
nationwide a couple of years ago.
Of course I understand.
Like I don't think marriage is the only
institution in which two committed
people can enter.
I do think that commitment
is important though.
I just don't think it has to be
sanctified by the state
or by a church.
Exactly.
We got married a few years ago.
We can never even remember we don't
celebrate our anniversary.
We celebrate when we met.
Do I believe in it?
Does that mean?
Yes I believe in it for some people.
I don't think it's for everybody.
And I, I definitely
believe in divorce.
I feel like everyone
is into polyamory these days.
Yeah. Having different people to
satisfy different needs which
whether it's romantically
or platonically, like that is just something that really
resonates with me right now.
For me, I don't think monogamy is essential although I certainly
see it as being essential for some other people.
What do you worry about when it comes to sex?
I've had more male partners than female partners
and most of my long term relationships
have been with men. And so I get very
like in any situation like involving dating
or having sex with women I get so nervous
because you get better at sex by doing it.
But then if there's this litmus test
then how do you ever pass?
Actually was going to say like similarly
like was I good enough?
What are misconceptions about sex that you've
managed to let go of?
That it's the most important thing.
I didn't know that women could
ask for what they wanted.
I thought it was just something that happened kind
of organically and that nobody discussed.
I was raised Catholic.
So.
Those Catholic burdens I would definitely
let go of. Sex before marriage
like.
That was.
I know that these are like weird like
almost grandma topics.
Yeah. I mean when I was growing up
I just seem like it was
all about sex sex
and you had to have sex
and are you having sex
and who are you having sex with,
and none of it
had anything to do with being in love.
What's the best part of being single?
It took a while to even find anything
special about it.
But now you know I'm
far enough away from it.
My my consulting business is
has just soared
and I don't think that would have happened
had I. Because so much of my energy
was going into a relationship.
I really like that all of my time is my own
if I do or don't want to do something
I do or don't do that thing.
Yeah I mean I travel all the
time for work like all of
the time and I never have to answer
to anyone else.
And that I only,
I don't have to share my bed.
Like just sleeping alone,
what a dream.
What's your experience with dating apps?
I feel like you don't really experience
life in New York until you've experienced
a dating app.
And I have friends around me going do
tinder do do
Match.com come whatever which
I've tried.
And I hate it.
I feel like really hypocritical because
I kind of feel like I judge people for being on
Tinder. I'll be like OK this
guy is cute but he's on Tinder.
So what's his problem?
But I'm like I'm on Tinder.
So.
So my experience with Tinder is probably atypical
because I was only on it two weeks.
I met him
and got off of it
and we've been together ever since.
That first meeting.
Did you kind of know?
There was something there there
from the first meeting.
We closed down the restaurant.
We talked for four hours.
You got me thinking about going
back on those dating sites.
I hate it so bad.
I think I answered the question.