Elon Musk was interviewed by the BBC's James Clayton about hate speech and misinformation
on Twitter.
But Musk used 3 mind control tactics to reverse the roles and eviscerate this journalist,
as you're about to find out.
This video is going to be useful for anyone who has trouble saying "no".
Because some people are always trying to take advantage of others, and if you're a specially
sensitive person, you could fall for it.
But not if you apply what you're about to learn:
- The one verbal tactic you apply with someone who comes in bad faith to make you look bad,
- How can you use questions to confuse, disarm and scare a manipulator, and
- One interruption pattern that will make toxic personalities discard you as a victim.
The tips you're going to get are 100% practical, so by the end of this video you will be able
to apply all of them.
Welcome back, my body language buddies!
my name is Jesús Enrique Rosas, I'm the Body Language Guy,
The first tactic that Elon uses is asking questions.
Let's see if you can spot the two rapid fire shots in the following clip:
- But what hate speech are you talking about?
I mean, you use Twitter - Right
- Do you see a rise in hate speech?
- I (stutters) - Just a personal anecdote.
Like, what did you...
I don't - Personally, my "for you".
I would see, I get...
I get more of that kind of content personally
The first one is just a rhetorical question: "What hate speech are you talking about?"
but then, Elon is specific.
"Do you see a rise in hate speech" That is an easy, yes or no question, and Clayton just
stutters.
Then Elon tries to make it seem like he's being friendly.
"Give me a personal anecdote", which should be easy to recall.
But this is a trap, to see if Clayton has any specific tweet to mention.
He just answers "I would see, I get more of that kind of content personally".
That is a vague statement.
In just two questions, Elon confirms this person has nothing.
Now, I'm going to give you a tip BEFORE you watch the following clip.
Just four seconds in, Elon will say the words "you see more hate speech, personally"
Make sure you pay attention to the tone:
- But I'm not going to talk for the rest of...
Twitter - You see more hate speech personally
- I would say I would see more hateful content in that
- Content that you don't like, or hateful, or... describe a hateful thing
- Yeah...
I told you to pay attention to Elon's tone because he was paraphrasing Clayton.
This is something you use to let the other person confirm you have understood them.
But way too many times we make the mistake of paraphrasing like a question.
"You see more hate speech personally?".
No.
Your tone should be neutral, like Elon did.
That is a subconscious message that says that you're in command.
Even if you're just paraphrasing, which is a critical tip in any conversation.
Now, Elon eves says, "describe a hateful thing".
Clayton doesn't have to be specific, just describe it, but he doesn't.
He just says "yeah..." and looks away.
Now, here comes the tip to harness the power of questions so you can disarm this kind of
attacks.
And it's playing dumb.
We got questions like "Can you give me a personal anecdote about this", or "describe a hateful
thing".
It's not only that they are OPEN questions, but they are forcing Clayton to THINK about
his answer.
It LOOKS like Elon wants more context about "What kind of hate speech are you talking
about"?
But you bet that Elon already knows what hate speech looks like.
He's just pretending he doesn't know.
Questions that force people to think, have an interesting effect.
If they're about an opinion, such as Clayton's opinion or experience on hate speech, forcing
him to think and elaborate about his own thoughts will make him feel insecure about them.
In fact, that's a weapon that can be used against you.
The only way to defend yourself is to get used to challenge your own opinions.
Ask yourself the questions that others could shoot at you, and make sure to think about
the answers.
Be ruthless with your own mind.
Let's talk about body language, and in the next clip, all you have to do is pay attention
to Elon's head.
- I mean, you know, just content that will solicit a reaction, is something that may
include something that is slightly racist, or slightly sexist, those kinds...
those kinds of things.
- So you think if something is slightly sexist, it should be banned?
Yeah, that pause at the end.
I told you to pay attention to Elon's head because he is just nodding.
What's so special in that?
well, that's an almost universal gesture that means: "Go on".
I want to listen to you, please keep talking.
So, we know that asking open questions will slowly erode the person's self-confidence.
And as you can see, he's trying to explain himself, still in vague terms.
If you nod, you invite the person to keep talking.
If the person keeps talking, there will be a higher and higher probability that they
will contradict themselves later on.
That's why you don't interrupt them.
You make sure they set themselves up.
By this point, believe or not, you have a solid foundation on how to reverse the roles
in this kind of situations.
Now, in the next clip, only Elon is going to talk.
And what he's gonna do with his words is something that you can use to keep your emotions under
control in situations like this:
- Well, I'm just curious what you are trying to say, what you mean by hateful content.
I'm asking for specific examples.
And if...
And you just said that if something is slightly sexist, that's hateful content.
Does that mean that it should be banned?
All that he is doing is repeating Clayton's words.
This is not paraphrasing, because paraphrasing can be approximate, or slightly different.
He's summarizing, but using word for word.
This requires not that much cognitive energy and it's something you can do even if you're
upset.
Just repeat their words.
And it's at this moment that THEY have to compromise and accept that that's what they
said.
And that's how they will set themselves up for contradictions.
Don't believe me?
just watch!
- Well, you've asked me... you've asked me wether my feed, wether it's got less or I'd
say it's got slightly more.
- That's why I'm asking for examples.
- I honestly don't want to... (stutters) - You can't name a single example.
- I'll tell you why, because I don't actually use that 'for you' feed anymore
What? wait a minute...
- Personally, my "for you".
I would see, I get...
I get more of that kind of content personally - I'll tell you why, because I don't actually
use that 'for you' feed anymore
That's what I mean.
You let them speak, they will always end up contradicting themselves.
And this is especially critical when they talk in vague terms.
When they don't want to give you details, even if you just ask them for a 'general example'
of what they claim.
And it was so fun to watch Elon's reaction, like, "Are you seriously telling me this nonsense?"
Each tactic, isolated, is deceptively simple.
Play dumb, ask for more details, let them talk.
But as a system, they let you remain in control of your emotions.
While they crumble on their seats.
Now, most of the time, when you have cornered someone like this, Maybe it's not the best
idea to call them out directly.
"hey, what you are saying is making zero sense".
But Elon did not pull any punches here, and he tells Clayton, "You lied"
- Then I say so that you don't know what you're talking about
- Really?
- Yes.
Because you can't give me a single example of hateful content, not even one tweet.
And yet you've claimed that the hateful content was high.
- Well...
- That's false - No, when...
- You just lied - What?
no, no
Wether if you want to tell someone that they're lying, or you want to give them some more
rope, it's completely up to you.
But there comes a time when you just have to let the person know that you will not be
tolerating further B.S.
It's interesting that Elon reinforces the "you just lied" sentence by pointing with
his finger, to really drive it home.
And Clayton's body language reveals that he's defensive, hunched and tense, and he's got
nowhere to go.
Believe or not, this goes on for a while until Clayton decides to move on, due to some...
"time constraints".
And the following clip includes a pattern interruption.
Let's see if you can spot it:
- I can't give you an example.
- Let's move on.
We have... we only have a certain amount of time.
Well...
COVID misinformation.
You...
- Amazing!
- You've changed the COVID misinformation...
- Has BBC changed its COVID misinformation?
Yeah, it's lame how Clayton tried to justify his unprofessionalism.
But what I wanted you to spot is Elon saying "Amazing".
Watch just that fragment again and notice the timing.
- COVID misinformation.
You...
- Amazing!
Elon interrupts Clayton, but usually interruptions are to counter an argument, or deny, or argue
in some way.
But Elon says "Amazing", like he's happy about this topic.
That sparks a huge dissonance in the brain of the interviewer.
Because it detects an interruption, expects a roadblock, but instead finds a reinforcement.
By the way, that kind of pattern interruptions can be useful in psychotherapy, but at the
same time, you can use them to mess with people's heads.
And speaking of messing with people's heads, you also noticed that Elon did this:
- You've changed the COVID misinformation...
- Has BBC changed its COVID misinformation?
You remember when we were talking about not using "question inflection" when you want
to sound neutral.
But this is the opposite.
Clayton makes a statement, "You've changed the COVID misinformation", and Elon turns
it into a question to the BBC.
"Has BBC changed its COVID misinformation?"
This has the same effect when a kid repeats everything you say.
It's annoying, but this annoyance is much more elegant and difficult to spot.
And that brings us to one thing in the following clip:
- The BBC does not set the rules on Twitter.
So I'm asking you...
- No, I'm talking about the BBC's misinformation about COVID.
- I'm just asking you about you changed the labels, the COVID misinformation labels that
used to be a policy and then...
Yeah, THE pause.
Pauses like this can be extremely powerful.
You say something and just shut up.
You're expecting a reaction from the other person.
You're setting them up in a reaction state of stress.
Now, if you want an advanced body language tip, we should take a look at Elon's breathing.
This is usually a harder signal to spot, it depends on what the person is wearing, the
lighting, the seating and our angle in respect to them.
But these circumstances are perfect.
And the exact moment in which Clayton decides to move on to the next topic, because, you
know... "time constraints", you can spot that Elon's breathing has become more intense.
His shoulders and chest give him away.
We can tell that this is an emotional reaction because this was not happening three minutes
earlier.
So, he's keeping it cool, but his body language is revealing that he's upset with this guy.
He might be even nervous.
That's why I tell you we need a system to keep our emotions in check in this kind of
situations.
It was also a good idea to just let Clayton move on to the next topic.
Maybe you'll feel tempted to kick a dead horse, but you might end up looking like a bully.
So, to recap, here's how you confuse and disarm an ill-intentioned toxic personality.
- If they speak in vague terms, you make sure to ask them questions about their questions.
What do they mean?
please, give me an example.
I want to understand what you require.
Nod and play dumb.
- Make sure to remember their words so you can summarize and repeat so they have to compromise
with what they just said.
NOT paraphrasing, but word for word, so there's no chance they claim that you misinterpreted
their words.
- And finally, the pattern interruptions.
As I said, this is a technique that can be used in psychotherapy and at the same time,
to mess with people's heads.
I think it's worthy of its own video, so if this analysis gets to 10.000 likes, I'll be
glad to make it for you.
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