There is a self-destructive side of yourself
There is a self-destructive side
to every single one of us.
You can't be here without a shadow.
There is no light without shadow,
there is no being without shadow,
there is no day without night.
The self-destructive side of yourself
is just as important and intricate to your wholeness
as your seemingly more positive or resourceful side.
Successful people don't make the right decisions
they make all kinds of bad decisions
because successful people have shadows too.
The difference between successful people and others
is that successful people make their decisions right
and making your decision right
begins with taking full responsibility, ownership and loving
your destructive side, your shadow side
Knowing thyself is first,
foremost, primary, foundational
and means way more than anything else.
When you're ready to be great greatness shows up in front of your eyes.
Indulge in the pain,
feel the pain.
You've got a broken ankle, just feel the pain.
You're working out, you just like, you want to die.
Feel the death happening in you.
Feel the pain happening in your legs as you rep out one more squat.
Because it'll be all the more pleasurable
when you reach the inevitable other end of the spectrum
where you're laying in your hammock,
sipping on a protein shake.
Boy, I really went hard.
I really went hard on that set.
I really went hard in that relationship.
I really went hard in school.
I really went hard in my career.
I really went hard in life.
Go hard.
Die hard.
Making the right decision isn't about fixing yourself
or remedying the problem
it is about self-acceptance first.
When you can fully accept your shadow and all the things in them,
they no longer manipulate you from the dark side,
from your ignorant, from your unconscious.
When I make this decision and I get this result,
what is...
God trying to show me?
What is my inner being trying to reveal to me?
What part of myself have I denied
and now is manipulating me from the underworld?
Your shadows, your destructive side
those things that you have shoved down in
your deep dark unconscious
oftentimes contain the greatest gifts you've been given.
Love your destructive side,
accept your destructive side,
remember that it is...
equal in part to your light side
and it will always be there.
Now we live in a world that causes us, forces us, conditions us
to look outside ourselves for answers.
This is normal and natural based on the conditioning we've received.
Meaning that where I stand is never good enough
because I need reference for that to be validated.
I need like you say, relationships, friends, family, school and work.
I need other people, other circumstances,
other reflections
to show me my work.
This is the fall of man.
This is where we lose ourselves
and this is where we get knocked off of our ground mind, man.
It is never our job
to get anyone else to believe in, trust or...
accept our stance.
It's never our job to be right
It is always our job to be true.
If those bad memories come and you notice that
an anxiety rises in your belly and chest
then the time is now to do something physically
to expel it, to exorcise it
When you see greatness in anyone
what you're seeing
is your own self power personified
right before your eyes.
I am you, you are me
together we rise.
It doesn't matter if the world is crumbling down around you.
It doesn't matter what's happening.
You gotta look outside the box
where are the warriors
that say, "I'm going to make a decision
and I'm keeping it"
Devotion, discipline
Devote yourself to something bigger.
Be decisive about what you're going to do.
Say, "I'm going to do it and that's it."
and then be disciplined about getting it done every single day
whether you be like it or not.
You will always be left with what you came here with
which is the passionate blueprint
of your authentic self expression
found in your heart, my man
that is the journey.
The journey isn't to stack
your bank account
or stack toys.
That's the lie, that's what we've been fed, that's what we've been told,
that is a byproduct
of one of two things
either lying to yourself and lying to the world
and sacrificing your soul, so that you can have those things
hoping that they will bring you joy and pleasure
or...
Living authentically.
And when you live authentically those things will either be added to you
because that's a part of your path or they won't.
And you gotta be okay with that
because if you're focused on the outcome rather than the journey,
rather than the art,
rather than the self-expression,
the poetry,
the authoring of your own life,
being the authority of your own life.
You're going to be living as a shell of yourself,
it might be a shiny flashy expensive shell
but just a shell my friend.
If you're being yourself and being your truth
you have no desire to push anybody else off of their truth
or try to bring them on to your truth with your righteousness.
Every single limitation that you have is designed to make you a bit stronger
either by teaching you how to move over, around
or through a brick wall or shedding light
becoming enlightened about your shadows.
You want to be living a big game, you gotta figure yourself out,
you gotta start dealing with yourself objectively.
You know, you're fearful.
Get very clear about what you're fearful about
While you're making choices in your life based on that fear
and then face that fear.
You think yourself as a loser
you really do, that's why you can't win.
"Oh, I don't feel so good today"
Get your lazy sick ass up out of bed.
Take those very things that you've been resisting,
look at them, question them,
look at them from multiple, different angles
and then integrate it into your wisdom, into your being.
So you made your bed, now you gotta sleep in it, just be okay with that
take responsibility for that,
don't feel sorry for yourself,
feel empowered by the fact
that you are a creator in your life.
You're a manifester of circumstances,
you did something and you made something happen.
Every moment comes with its yin and yang,
every moment comes with its light and dark,
every moment comes with its good and evil.
The idea is to be fully present in the moment
so that you could experience it all in its rawness,
in its intensity, in its purpose.
Each moment, its purpose is itself.
We're not needing to do anything more
we needing to get out of the way
and let our truth shine through.
Always go to virtues, always go to character,
Always go to who you're not being or who you're being.
Open up to your intuition,
open up to your higher consciousness,
open up to your truth
and stop letting fear-based consciousness based on past stuff
keep you stuck bro,
you gotta breathe.
I want to feel life,
that's why I'm not afraid of pain,
that's why I'm not afraid to take risks,
not because I'm courageous, because I'm crazy about life.
I love the rain, I love the element,
I love the way it feels on my body, man.
When I see people afraid of the rain,
I say, "Boy, you're afraid of life."