- So what are the signs that a guy really likes you,
and not like the obvious signs,
like he's gonna pursue you, of course,
or he's gonna ask you to be committed,
or he says he's falling in love with you.
But what are the lesser known signs?
The reason why it's so important
for us to recognize those
is because when we're dating somebody,
we wanna know should I invest in this relationship?
Should I put more focus on this?
Should I open my heart to this person?
So today we're gonna be talking
about what are those signs that let you know
yeah, he is giving you a high level of interest
and things are progressing in the right way.
The first sign is that he mirrors your energy.
And the reason this is a bit more obscure
or lesser known is because we will do this unconsciously
with someone that we like.
We'll match their energy.
When they're really excited about something, it fires us up.
We'll get really excited about it.
If they're really calm and kinda relaxed or more laid back,
if we're a little bit more excited,
we'll calm ourselves down, and he's in tune with you.
So when a man is in tune with you,
when a man is matching your energy,
it's gonna feel really good and feel really natural.
That's a good sign
that he has a high degree of interest in you.
If he's completely out of sync with you,
like you're kinda more mellow and calm,
and he comes in, he's super excited,
and he doesn't adjust his energy or you don't adjust yours,
it's a good sign that you're out of sync with one another.
And the second sign that he's really into you
is he is a personal history excavator.
In other words, he's asking you a bunch
of personal questions.
When he really likes you,
he's a sponge for knowledge about you.
He wants to know about your past.
He wants to know about what made you you,
your personal experiences.
He wants to know about your dreams, where you're headed.
And sometimes this can come across
like a bit of a barrage of questions.
I remember when I was dating,
I was really into this girl,
and I was asking her all these questions.
She was like, "So are you writing an article
about me or what?"
'cause I was just like firing these questions.
And I had to actually tone it down a bit
because I was like, oh wow, I really wanted to know her.
The other side of the spectrum is the guy
who isn't asking you any questions, right?
He's like not really that interested.
He's really just listening to you
to flip it around on himself to see what he can talk about.
So just remember, the guy who's really interested
in your backstory and your history and your dreams
is the guy who's really interested in you.
The third sign, and this is really a funny one,
is you will notice that he changes his grooming habits
based on something that you've mentioned,
something that you've said.
So for example, if you say
that you really don't like scruff on a guy
or a beard on a guy because it's scratchy or hurts,
you'll notice next time you get together,
ch ch ch, he might be clean shaven. (laughing)
Or the other side, if you say
you think scruff on a man is sexy
or that turns you on and he is clean shaven,
the next time he goes out with you,
he'll have a bit of scruff.
You'll notice that he will put on that style
or wear that cologne,
and that is a great sign that he's interested in you.
I heard this great quote, this really funny quote
of these little kids where they were asking them
what love is, and this one made me laugh really hard.
It was Cindy.
Cindy said, "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt
and then he wears it every day."
So here's the fourth thing that people will do
when they're really into you.
When he plans elaborate dates,
this man is highly interested in you.
You will notice this, you'll see this,
a guy will plan an amazing picnic, right,
where he's had to take a blanket up there
and a cooler up there and wine and all kinds of things
and plant it and set it all up and be ready,
and then you guys are hiking
and you're like, "Oh, check this out,"
and there's a beautiful blanket
overlooking the beautiful ocean or a beautiful scene.
And he's gone through hours of planning,
hours of effort to make that moment happen.
Every one of my friends, myself, we've all done this.
When we're really into somebody that we're dating,
we see what can I do to be different?
You see, he's trying to be special for you.
He's trying to give you a special experience
so that you know that you're special to him.
So when you see your man going out of the way
to come up with something creative
or to come up with something unique.
I remember one example that I did for my wife
where I wanted to make her feel special
and do something elaborate.
So I took her to this nice restaurant.
But beforehand, went to a store,
got a beautiful long-stem rose
and hid it in the trunk of my car.
So I take her to this restaurant, we sit in our seat
I say, "Oh, excuse me, I gotta go use the restroom."
I got up, went to my car, grabbed the long-stem rose,
went to the waitress and said,
"Hey, here's what I'm trying to create.
If you could bring this
and say, 'Oh, this just arrived for you
from your secret admirer,' that would be really great,"
went back to my table.
So we're having dinner and then the waitress
brings over this rose and says,
"Oh, somebody thinks you're beautiful.
Your secret admirer sent you this long-stem rose."
And my girlfriend at the time
was like, "Oh my gosh, okay."'
And of course she knew it was me.
It was just a great something extra
to make that moment special.
When your man does that,
that energy means that he is definitely interested in you.
The fifth sign that he is really into you
is he will show off his silly side.
You know, you think about it.
Guys, we wanna be cool, right?
We wanna have it all together. We wanna be cool.
So often in the beginning, we try to put on this cool energy
and all of that.
And when we feel comfortable enough with you,
we will often show you our silly side,
the side of us that's goofy,
the side of us that's kinda awkward,
and we'll bring you into that world.
What's happening in that moment is you're more
than just someone that we're dating
or someone we wanna hook up with.
You're now someone that we find sexy and we're attracted to,
but we're also wanting to cultivate a friendship with.
So that's what that goofy, funny side is,
is hey, let's be, laugh in this moment.
Let's have fun in this moment.
And that's what you do with friends.
And the ultimate relationship for a man is someone
who he is sexually attracted to, passionate with,
and who's a best friend, like that's a wife,
someone you wanna go have a partnership with,
best friend and your lover at the same time.
And so when he, he's obviously going out with you
'cause he thinks you're sexy,
but when he starts getting silly with you,
you know oh, now our friendship bond is growing even more.
That's a great sign that he's into you.
So my question for you is what signs have you seen
when a guy is really into you?
What is he doing?
What behavior changes?
Go ahead and post that in the comment section below.
I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for watching,
and here is to your amazing love life.
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