if you want to change your life doing new things starting new habits taking on new
behaviors that's going to make a huge difference but what could change your life even more
is changing the way that you think working on how you think is just as important as working on
what you do they kind of go hand in hand and it can be absolutely tiny changes in your thinking
that can make a huge difference in your life so in this video i am going to share with you five
mindset shifts little shifts in the way that you think that you can revisit over and over again
that can change your life these are mindset shifts that i use all of the time in my life they're
little prompts that you can use within like one to two minutes to prompt totally new ways of thinking
the first mindset shift that i want to talk about is all about creating ease in your life
the next time you are struggling with something in your life it feels more difficult than you
think it should be sit back and ask yourself the question how could i make this easy making time
for your friends getting through your task lists setting healthy boundaries these are all things
that you can either make really hard or reasonably easy depending on your perspective making time for
your friends can be wildly difficult particularly when you reach your 20s it turns into this back
and forth text conversation of when to meet where to meet what restaurant to meet up but you can
also make it easy by organizing just a once a month date where you all go to someone's house
and you bring your own food getting a movement can be wildly difficult if you force yourself to wake
up at 4am go to a gym in an environment that you hate and do exercises that you don't enjoy but it
can also be easy parking farther away from places to make sure you're getting in walking and signing
up to dance classes that make you feel happy you don't realize how many things you approach in the
hardest way possible until you reflect so often we go for the hardest option possible and you're
not aware of it you don't know in the moment that you're picking the heart assumption when you sit
back and you ask that question you're like how can i make this easy you find obvious solutions
that are far easier than whatever you're trying to do this is such a little mindset shift that
can hugely impact your life you're going to find yourself overcoming weird false expectations that
you've set on yourself that we're not met impact no one you'll move from doing things that you've
always done one way to a way that feels so much better for you and you'll also move towards simply
not doing the things that just don't need to be done if you're struggling through your task list
ask how can i make things easier for myself or even how am i making things more difficult
for myself so that you can spot where to make things easy if you need to set a boundary but
you keep on putting it off ask yourself how could i make this easy instead of just powering through
the difficult let that question become a go-to question in your mind to create ease in your life
the next mindset shift is all about creating a more intentional life for yourself and it's
the question what's it all for this is one of my favorite focusing questions that i actually
picked up from a wandering aimfully they have a podcast and that's the title what's it all
for and the reason they titled their podcast that is because it's their go-to question for choices
asking this question regularly whenever you are making decisions in your life is going
to radically change your life what's it all for what is my business for what is my relationship
for what are my friendships for what is it all for you can zoom out and apply this question to
your life in general what is it all for is it for connection if that's the case why are you
not connecting is it all for enjoyment if that's the case why aren't you getting intentional about
creating more enjoyable moments in your life if your relationships are supposed to be enhancing
your life why aren't they and you can also take this question and zoom in on more specific things
in your life as well if you plan a holiday and you ask what's it all for and you come up with
the answer to feel refreshed and relaxed you're gonna have a very different holiday to someone
who wants to feel energized and enthused this is a really good mindset to embrace whenever you are
struggling with something whenever you're making a decision if you're like ugh like why am i doing
this ask what is it all for are you doing the wrong things in your life are you hanging out
with the wrong people in your life if they're not contributing to your why the next small mindset
shift to make is all about making life more enjoyable the next time that you know you have
to do something that you wouldn't usually enjoy or you just find yourself doing something that
you're not enjoying ask yourself the question how can i make this more enjoyable how can i make it
more fun how could i possibly make this a better time for myself some things in life simply aren't
enjoyable for me that is driving in traffic for a long time or going to a shopping center both of
those things make me feel either grumpy or just weird but with some tweaks i can make them more
enjoyable for myself if you hate going to the shops you can put in some airpods you can try
to compliment every person that serves you you can actually wander into your bookstore and let
yourself sit down and have a read for a bit you can end your shopping date with a hot chocolate
instead of sitting in traffic and just hating life and getting angry you can sit there and choose to
put on an audio book that you've been wanting to read ian burgos studies fun for a living and he
says that fun is the aftermath of deliberately manipulating a familiar situation in a new way
his advice is to pay close attention even absurd attention to things i like mixing the good and
the bad good music shopping trip hot chocolate shopping trip audiobook traffic at the end of the
day if you have to do mundane things or you have periods of time doing things that you don't enjoy
you truly might as well ask the question how could i make this more enjoyable the next mindset shift
has actually been game changing for me and it's something that i go back to all of the time and
it is framed in the question what are your other options so often we give ourselves this or that
options do i cut off that friend or do i keep that friend do i dump that person or do i stay
with that person do i quit my job or do i stay we rarely consider the other better options instead
of do i quit or do i stay it turns into do i talk to my boss about the problems that i'm having do
i change seats do i ask about going part-time do i ask about other potential jobs in my department
do i start putting 80 in instead of 100 and kick off a side hustle or do i quit this question is
straight from the book decisive by chip and dan heath which is a book that i absolutely love
and regularly go back to the way that they frame it is how can you widen your frame we often have
such a narrow frame we're thinking about these this or that decisions and just widening our frame
a little could allow us to open to so many more better options if you find yourself with this or
that decision remember that it's probably because you haven't explored all of the options available
a good prompting question is imagine that the current options you have on your plate are no
longer available they're not on the menu you can't touch them what else could you possibly do the
next mindset shift is all about creating a happier life and it's the mindset shift of how can i let
my emotions inform me and not overwhelm me if you're someone who is regularly in your feelings
you get overwhelmed by emotions hi we could be friends and this is a good mindset shift for you
when you find that emotions come up particularly negative ones when you're angry or bitter
you're resentful instead of letting yourself be swallowed by those emotions and sitting in them
and wallowing in them ask yourself the question what is this emotion trying to inform me what's
it trying to tell me what is the message that it's sending me for example resentment is often telling
you that you need to set some kind of boundary in your life or you need to make a change emptiness
might be trying to tell you that you haven't looked at or practiced your values in months
frustration might be telling you that you need to have a conversation with someone or that you
need to eat or sleep the more that you get to know your feelings the more that you and your
feelings interact the easier it becomes to figure out what your emotions are telling you you'll
start to realize that yes whenever i feel sad it usually means this whenever i feel bitter it means
i need to do this this is never about pushing your emotions away at all if anything you are embracing
your emotions and you're listening to them you're acknowledging their existence and then you're
taking on whatever messages they might be trying to tell you if you liked this video you're going
to like the playlist that is linked on the screen it's filled with all of my little mindset shifts
little thinking habits that i've been embracing or have embraced in my life that have made such a
huge difference in my life i talk about a lot of small simple mindset shifts similar to the ones
that i have in this video so make sure that you visit that playlist after this video linked in the
description and on the screen i appreciate you so very much and i will see you soon