What is it that you're really afraid of? I'll give you a hint.
It's actually not uncertainty.
Hi, this is Grace Lee and I am a Career Mentor and Educator.
I help career focused individuals to be able to
command top dollars for their skills in the marketplace while doing work that is
meaningful and while they are contributing to their fullest potential.
How to overcome the fear of the unknown because let's face it,
your future, your professional future, your personal future,
none of that is known. You might have desires for it.
You might have a certain outcome that you're expecting and that you hope to get,
but you actually don't know in this current state what that will look like.
You don't know what will happen.
You don't know the things that will come into your path and the fear of the
unknown is one of the most cited fears in humankind.
When you talk about fear of something and you talk about being paralyzed
but not being able to make a decision in your career,
most people aren't able to make it.
Most people are paralyzed by decisions because of the fear of unknown.
So the fear of the unknown is one
of the most common fears that prevents people from having and achieving the
career that they want.
So what I want to do in today's video is to give you five things,
five very powerful things that you
can do right now to overcome the fear of the unknown.
Step number one is to look for certainty.
You fear the unknown because you cannot anticipate the outcome.
So this step will help you to anticipate the outcome.
So the trick is to look for things in which you have certainty over.
Look for things that are predictable.
Look for things that you know are going to lead to a certain income.
And this is as simple as looking for the facts.
What is true right now in your career path and in your life,
there's going to be evidence.
If you look for the things that are naturally occurring,
the things that you are achieving or where it is this
trending towards a certain outcome.
That is where you have certainty because you have worked up to a
certain point because you have certain set of skills that is allowing you to
make certain things come true in your career. So look for those things.
If you look hard enough, you're going to see that there are things
that are coming true, things that maybe you desired,
maybe things that come as a surprise to you.
But regardless of whether or not you knew you intentionally wanted that to
happen or they came as a surprise to you, those things create certainty.
So focus on looking in your life about what are the things that you
know to be happening. Draw an awareness,
bring your awareness to those things and
that will give you a feeling of certainty.
Step number two is identify your real fear.
What is it that you're really afraid of? I'll give you a hint.
It's actually not uncertainty because if you look at what fear is,
fear is really your anticipation of
something that you believe will happen, but it actually hasn't happened yet.
So what it really is,
is the self limiting belief of something that you believe is going to happen in
your future or in your near future that is not based on a reality.
It's an assumption. It's a belief through a lens that you have,
that you are looking through the world, the perception that you have,
that you have of your world over your future.
So instead of looking at that fear, instead of focusing on that fear,
take a step back and look at what is it that I am truly fearing.
Let me give you an example.
Is it that you fear that you may not be, you may not be adequate, right?
Feeling of inadequacy
if you don't achieve something,
feeling of inadequacy that you don't exhibit something or that you
don't manifest something in your career that you hope to manifest and that you
might feel inadequate.
Or is it a feeling of criticism from your parents or from teachers or mentors
that have a certain expectation of how they feel you might turn out,
your future career might turn out.
So those things are really deep seated fears that you may not even be aware of.
So ask yourself and be brutally honest. What is it that I am really afraid of?
Step number three is look for evidence. Going back to my previous point,
your fear of the unknown
is based on your own belief through your perspective on something that you
anticipate is going to happen.
But it hasn't happened yet, right? So it's not based on reality.
So this step is about looking for the evidence.
What is it that you are believing that is going to happen, right?
You're going to fear that outcome, but it hasn't happened yet.
So what is it that you believe is going to happen? And is it really true?
So this is your opportunity to debunk your own myth. You have a myth,
you have a belief.
It is a self limiting belief on what's going to happen and you don't desire the
outcome that you believe is going to happen. So this is your opportunity.
Look for evidence. Is that really happening?
Is there actually evidence right now in your life and in your career that that
is what your future is heading towards? Is there evidence?
Look for that evidence. And if there's no evidence, then what are you fearing?
Go back to your real fear. And if you're looking for evidence,
why not look for evidence in the other direction?
Is there evidence happening in your life right now that is pointing towards a
more desirable future,
a future that maybe you expected or that you didn't expect?
But it is a welcome future because your
beliefs are going to influence your emotions in your current state.
So why not influence your emotions
and your current state in a way that's going to serve you? So look for evidence,
look for evidence that debunks your myth,
and look for evidence that your life is heading down a path or that your career
is heading down a path that is going to serve you,
that's going to give you the outcome that you desire.
Step number four is to calculate the odds.
And this is especially important if you find yourself drawn to numbers, right?
Not everybody is.
But if that is you and you are drawn to numbers and you are drawn to facts and
figures,
then this is a very important step and it might be the one that will help you to
overcome your fear. So calculate your odds.
If you are currently experiencing quite a strong fear of the unknown,
chances are it is because your mind is making up a million things of things that
are going to happen to your future that chances are won't even happen.
So take a step back and calculate the odds. What has to happen?
What are the series of events that have to happen in your career and in your
future in order for the outcome that you fear to come true and at each stage,
at each process, what are the odds of that happening? Right?
And you can always calculate the odds and it
doesn't mean you have to be right on.
It doesn't mean you have to have the exact figures,
even if you're in the ballpark.
Soon when you're doing this calculation,
you will find that the chances are very slim that your greatest
fear is going to be the outcome and the actual reality of your future because
your mind is playing tricks on you. It is going to,
it is going to formulate a lot of these stories and it's going to seem so real
because your imagination will start to turn on, it will seem so real.
But when you put that evidence into fact and you
calculate the odds of that happening,
you're going to see that the chances that all the things that need
to fall into place in order for that fear to come true is very slim.
Chances are very slim. So do that work,
step back and do the calculation and calculate the odds.
Now, before I dive into the fifth step in overcoming your fear,
I want to offer you an opportunity
to increase your odds of achieving the things that you want in your career.
So I've done a training for you to help you to increase the odds,
and now you've calculated the odds of what what you feared most.
The odds of that happening. So how do you increase the
odds of what you want to happen to make that happen in your future career?
So if that's you and you want to increase the odds,
I invite you to visit the training.
Just click on the link somewhere here below it is "four day training" and I'll
see you there. Step number five is to focus on what you actually want to happen.
Because the thing is where your attention goes,
your energy flows and your results will show.
So why does that work? It's because your brain is exactly like a computer.
It has a search function. So what you focus on will expand.
What you focus on is what you will constantly see.
And the reason why this happens is because there's an area inside your brain.
It's a bundle of nerves called the reticular activating system.
Some scientists call it the reticular formation, and it's in your brain stem.
It's really a bundle of nerves in your brain stem.
And it acts as a conscious filter on what you focus on and what you don't focus
on. Let me give you an example.
Have you ever been in a coffee shop just like I am right now and you're talking
to someone,
but there's like 10 or 20 conversations going on around you yet you can still
focus on the one in front of you, right?
Have you ever experienced something like that or have you ever talked
to your kids and they're playing a video game?
They're so focused on the video game and you're trying to get their attention
because dinner is
ready or it's time to leave the house and they don't even hear a word that you
say.
The reason why that that attention focuses on the energy on what they're doing
is because of values. You're in the coffee shop, you're talking to someone.
That conversation has a very high value to you.
All the conversations that are happening around you,
it lost its value because you don't value those conversations. So your mind,
the reticular activating system acts as a filter.
You are consciously aware of only that one conversation.
Your child is consciously aware of only the
video game because that is the one of highest value.
So the same thing is true if you, if you put an intent to it, right?
If you put an intent to focus on that which you want to happen,
your reticular activating system,
the bundle of nerves in your brain stem will also put energy towards that.
And it will shape your actions.
It will shape the perspective you have in your world around you,
and it will influence the way you feel about it.
And that is how you conquer your fear of the unknown. Comment below.
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