Hey Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. In just a minute what
I'm gonna do for you is I'm gonna provide a meditation that you can listen
to where you can close your eyes and just listen to my words and my directions.
It's called a guided meditation where I'm gonna be helping relax you and you can
use this for any time before going on a date, before going out to meet girls,
before anything really that's gonna make you anxious, make you nervous, make you
fearful. So we're gonna get to that in just a minute and before I do that
I just want to kind of give you the reason of why I'm doing this video. The reason
I'm doing this video is I found that a lot of guys get very scared to go up and
talk to girls or get scared to approach the girl that they so-called desire that
they've seen walking around class or work or wherever and I've learned and
also experienced that meditation is one of the best ways to be able to calm your
mind down and also relax your body before anything that is stressful and
the reason why I came up with this is because today I'm in the Maldives and
Fushifaru the resort that I'm staying at went ahead and gave me a free massage
at the spa which I'm at right now. This is an absolutely beautiful place. If you
ever come to the Maldives, Fushifaru is the place for you and so I'm relaxing.
I'm getting this incredible massage and I thought wouldn't it be great if guys
could experience something like this to relax their anxieties in their mind? But
of course you're not probably able to get a massage every single day
or at least at the snap of a finger when you want to relax. But what you can do at
the snap of the finger is calm your mind by doing this guided meditation.
I'll put a time stamp below this video so you can come back to this whenever you want
to just relax. We're gonna move into that right now and I just ask you be
open-minded and to go through the directions
that I give you and try to just embrace it and not fight it even if it sounds
cheesy or isn't your thing. Give it a whirl and then when you're done, write
down in the comments below how you feel after the guided meditation and I want
this to be a big video. I want a lot of guys to come back here. Every time you
come back here to listen to this, write a comment down below and say that
you listened again or you did it again so we can see a bunch of those to
encourage other guys to be able to come back and use this to help you because
meditation has been proven to help reduce stress levels especially before
doing anything that happens to be scary. That's enough for my rant and enjoy
and good luck and don't forget to write a comment down below.
Fushifaru hooked us up with this massage so we're at the spa right now
time to take a little relaxing break from
a relaxing break.
To begin make sure the body is in as comfortable position as possible.
Either sitting in a chair or lying down on the bed or the floor.
Allow the weight of the body to settle down towards the earth
taking a few deeper breaths and letting
go a little bit more on each out breath.
Now allow the breath to settle and to find its own natural rhythm letting the
breath breathe itself.
Try not to interfere with this process and notice
how the body moves in response to the breath. The chest expanding and relaxing
the belly rising and falling
If your breath is affected in any way by your
illness or pain then just noting this with a kindly gentle awareness.
Try to let go of any ideas about how you think it ought to be and just rest with an
awareness of how things actually are for you in each moment.
Sometimes it can help to include an image with the sense of the breath.
You can imagine a wave flowing up the beach
turning and flowing back out to sea again
noticing how the movement of the breath has a rhythm very like this.
Or you might have another image that you find evocative and calming.
Use your imagination in your own way to help the
mind and the body settle around the breath.
Notice how each breath is unique. How no two breaths are the same.
Notice the texture, the quality and the duration of each breath.
If you notice the body or the mind
tensing up around the experience,
in the noticing you can gently let go again
without judgment.
Do this over and over again if necessary
with a kindly gentle awareness.
Include any pain or discomfort in the body
within your broad field of awareness.
Very often we resist feelings of pain
or discomfort and this just leads to more tension, more pain and more discomfort.
Use the breath to help soften the hard edges around the pain and allow
a tender gentle awareness to permeate the in and the out breaths.
As you use the breath to soft and resistance to the pain or discomfort
you may notice how the experience of pain is in fact a constantly changing mass of different sensations.
Experience how it comes into being and passes away moment by moment.
Now you can broaden out your experience even more to invite in the pleasurable
dimensions of your field of awareness. It might be very subtle such as tingling in
the fingers, some sort of pleasure around the breath or maybe the sun is shining
through the window onto the skin. In your own way scanning through your whole
experience and noticing little moments of pleasure no matter how fleeting.
Or rising and falling with each moment.
You may notice that each moment of life contains elements that are painful and
elements which are pleasurable. This is the way things are in this world for
everyone. Notice a tendency to harden against pain
and to grasp after pleasure and in the noticing relax back into the broad field
of awareness.
Now broaden out your awareness still more to include an
awareness of others. Become aware that all humanity experiences a mixture of
pain and pleasure moment by moment in much the way that you do. The stories of
our lives are unique but the range of basic human experience and emotions will
be very similar. We all have hopes and dreams, fears
and regrets no matter where we live, our age, color or wealth.
In this way we can allow
our own experience of pain and illness to become a moment of empathy for others
who are in pain or who are ill rather than a moment of isolation.
All life suffers in one way or another. All life experiences pleasure in one way or
another. In the same way that you imbued the breath with a kindly awareness
towards your own experience, you can now allow a kindly awareness to permeate the
in and the out breaths as you think of others. Maybe you can get a sense of the
whole world breathing, all life breathing like waves on the ocean rising and
falling. Allow a sense of the hard edges of separation to soften. Letting go
into a sense of all that we share and a feeling of connection with all life as
you sit or lie here resting quietly with the breath moment by moment.
Rest with this quality of awareness for as long as feels appropriate for you at this time.
Now in your own time, bring the meditation to a close. Come back to a
full awareness of the body lying on the bed or sitting on the chair. Feel in firm
contact with the earth. Tune into the movements of the breaths and the body and
gradually externalize your awareness.
When you're ready, gently open the eyes, take in your surroundings and reengage
with the day. See if you can take this quality of awareness with you on into
your life as it unfolds moment by moment.