- I didn't know that.
Thank you for telling me that.
I didn't know that.
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- What do I do that turns you on that I am not aware of?
- It's probably
not when you're feeling the sexiest.
- Really?
- But when, just when you're playing with the baby
and holding her, and kissing her, and--
- Mm-hmm.
I think that's when
I find you so sexy.
I don't know why but... - Yeah.
I like that answer.
I do, it was so not douchebaggy.
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- [Ken] When do you feel closest to me?
- It's really just
in the simple times,
when we're working on something that's everyday.
Like a task in the house
that we want to accomplish.
We're literally doing most everything together,
so when we have this little project
that we want to accomplish,
one of us takes one part of it,
and the other does the other part of it,
and we work on certain parts together,
and we just get things done.
I feel really close to you when we have a goal.
You know?
And we just knock 'em out.
It feels like a real,
a real partnership,
and I know that it shouldn't sound so surprising,
but it kinda still is.
It kinda still is surprising that we're just like,
together doing most everything.
Feels really good.
- I think for me it's when we,
we get those times
where we can go out
and just grab a drink and sit and talk.
Because that's what we did before--
- Before the baby. - Before the baby came.
That was what we did all the time.
- Mmhmm. - All the time.
So I think it's,
it's those times when I feel like
we have that connection,
we're closer.
- It's nice to do things like that and kinda remember
the two of us.
- Mmhmm. - You know?
Yeah.
Describe the moment you realized I was in love with you.
- When we went to the movies.
Right, we went to the movies,
that was our first official--
- Yeah.
- According to you,
I think that was-- - according to me, yes.
- Our first official date.
We had met up a few times
before that.
But I think it was,
I think it was that night
after the movie,
when we sat in the parking lot till five in the morning,
five-thirty in the morning,
On a Monday morning.
- Yeah.
- But I think that's when I really felt
for the first time.
But it was very early on.
- It was.
- What about you?
- That you were in love with me, okay.
It's all of that
combined with when you finally
revealed what that time of the year is like for you,
the time of the year that we met,
and what your occupation was.
And when the two clicked,
about what your days and nights were like,
I think that's when it hit me, I just said,
"Oh my gosh, he loves me.
"He is at work until after midnight,
"he is getting up at five in the morning,
"and we're staying out till five in the morning."
You're going and showering,
getting dressed, and going to work
after being up all night--
- Yeah - In conversation.
And just spending time together.
And I, yeah.
You just
hadn't made it clear just how demanding
your work was.
And when I realized what that was like for you,
I just knew, I said,
"Oh gosh, you don't do that
"with someone that you don't love.
"This guy is really into me."
So, yeah.
What is one experience you wish I never had?
- Hmm.
It's the obvious;
when you were sick.
- Mm, right.
- And in a way, I'm so glad I wasn't there for it.
- Yeah.
It was very eye-opening.
- I bet.
- I learned a whole lot.
- And it was tough, I think,
getting to that five year mark.
- Yes.
Oh, doing that with you was hard.
All the tests, every six months.
- Mmhmm.
- And then sitting there, holding our breath.
- Yep.
- Like, "Okay, we just gotta get to this date in the year,
"we gotta get to this year.
"Okay, we just need to get to this date."
- And even though we're past that point,
it still scares the shit outta me every time
you go to the doctor.
- Yeah.
- Every time.
- I don't think I realized it was causing you so much
concern.
- Yeah, I mean, you know,
that cancer is an asshole.
And even though you're past that point
where it could come back,
or where the chances are extremely low,
that doesn't mean
that it's not gonna rear its ugly head.
I think our older kids,
not that they'd be fine with it,
but they would survive,
but...
- Yeah.
I know.
Yeah.
- That's the tough one.
But I think that's the,
that's the only time that I really
worry about you.
With everything I know that you've been through,
and what you've done with the kids,
and what you do on a daily basis,
I know how strong you are.
And that none of that is gonna,
none of that is gonna affect you.
But it's gone.
- Yeah.
And you're very brave.
- You fought cancer.
- Fought cancer.
It's your turn.
- If this were to be our last conversation,
what's something you never want me to forget?
- Okay.
That the morning,
or midday, I should say,
that I left my house
to get in my car
to come and meet you for coffee,
I go back to those actions,
grabbing the keys,
getting in the car, turning that corner,
that changed my whole life.
For the rest of my life.
For the better in ways that I could never have imagined.
We literally have, and live in a way, that I imagined.
And meeting you that day,
I had no idea
what's gonna be the manifestation of that,
that you would play
a huge role in
me seeing a lot of the things
that I wanted for my life actually happen.
I feel like what I wanted was so simple.
Then I went to have coffee with this guy,
and there you were.
Okay.
My turn.
Why do you love me?
- There's so many reasons.
You're beautiful, you're funny,
you're an amazing mother,
an incredible wife.
But I think the main reason is just because you're you.
And I know,
I know who I'm coming home to every night.
And I'm so happy to do it.
I'm so happy walking in that door.
I love my job, I do, I like what I do.
But I like coming home
so much more.
You've made our house into
a beautiful home, a comfortable, warm,
welcoming home.
I love you for that.
But I just love you for being you,
just for being the person you are,
just for being
Deborah.
- Again, you are very welcome.
- I love you.
- And I love you.
I like you, too.
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