so how exactly this one go about
overcoming addiction the most common
mistake that we tend to make when trying
to quit whenever it is that we're
addicted to is that we try to quit cold
turkey we say alright I swear from this
moment on I will no longer smoke i will
no longer look at pornography
I will never look for another quick fix
whatever it is the large majority of
people often find themselves relapsing
giving in and starting back at square
one
why does it seem so impossible well the
answer actually lies in an experiment
they conducted in the seventies so
during the 70's scientists put rats in
cages with two sources of water
normal water and water spiked with
cocaine they observe that these rats
would eventually get hooked on the
cocaine water to the point where they
keep drinking it until the overdosed and
died a couple of years later another
group of scientists conducted a study
where instead of putting rats into cages
by themselves they put them into a
completely different environment they
call the rap part rap park at tons of
space there were tons of things that
rats love grass toys and most
importantly of all there were other rats
and rap part they have the same water
setup
normal water and water spiked with
cocaine to their surprise
not one rat died from cocaine overdose
and for the most part the rats ignored
the cocaine spiked water they even went
as far as getting rats addicted to
cocaine beforehand in secluded cages for
over a month and then moving them into
rap park in these cases all the rats who
are addicted to cocaine with stop
drinking the cocaine spike water over
time they overcame their addiction with
ease
so what does this mean well this means
that addiction is something that occurs
when there are no other consistent
sources of happiness in your environment
so if you're the type of person who has
little friends stays in his mother's
basement all day with absolutely no
goals with terrible health
well I'm sorry to break it to you but
you're going to have a near-impossible
time getting over your porn addiction or
your eating disorder or your alcohol
problem because you're basically in the
human version of a lonely rat cage so if
you want to overcome your addiction you
have to somehow find a better
environment to live in you have to find
the human version of rat Park otherwise
you just gonna fail over and over again
so where do you start well there are
three areas of your life that you need
to work on these three areas will
provide you with enough happiness to
move you out of your lonely cage and
into the human version of rat Park
number one is deep human bonding a
recent study found that forty-eight
percent of americans have only one
person they can speak to about important
matters i'm sure most of you guys do
have some friends
however if you take a step back and look
at these relationships how many of them
can you say are truly deep and
meaningful you guys talk about deep
important matters ways to help each
other improve or do you talk about what
happened on the game last night or about
the latest episode of whatever TV show
you watch most people nowadays have
acquaintances not friends
so how exactly do you get real friends
and build real bonds
well you have to work on your social
skills and learn how to hold deeper
conversations actually have a video
about this and a link to it in the
description below
number two is to focus less time on
social media and instead focus on
interacting with people in real life by
following these two steps you'll see a
drastic improvement in the amount of
deep bonds you have with others
the second area you need to work on is
meaningful work seventy percent of us
employees now report being extremely
unhappy with the work they do you don't
see these numbers in places like Google
or Tesla why is that well it's because
the majority of work the typical
American has to do is monotonous it's
pushing papers or entering data and
taking orders from someone else
this little to no emotional connection
with the work they do now does this mean
you have to quit your job in order to
quit your addiction not necessarily but
what you do need is something that you
find meaningful this could be community
service this could be posting your art
or your music online
this could be writing that book you
always wanted to write you need to ask
yourself what are some things that you
hold really important and start doing
them for me it's creating these videos
so i can impact
lives in a positive way if your work has
meaning then it becomes a consistent
source of pleasure in your life
the third and final area you can work on
is sculpting are we going to be
sculpting statues well know what I say
sculpting I mean the act of working on
yourself sculpting yourself
the reason i chose the word sculpt
instead of improve yourself is because
well it's going to be uncomfortable it's
gonna hurt
it's only afterwards that the happiness
settles in for example going to the gym
during your workout you put under tons
of uncomfortable stress but afterwards
you feel like the king of the world
improving yourself in any way follows a
similar pattern working on your social
skills by approaching random strangers
or resisting an urge to eat ice cream on
a hot summer day are all forms of
sculpting you're sacrificing your
current desires to sculpt a better
future
even the smallest improvement will help
by working on these three areas you can
slowly introduce yourself into a better
cage
let's say you worked on yourself for a
month you started going to the gym you
started hanging out with some friends
you started a little project that you're
passionate about you may not be in rap
park yet but you're definitely in a much
better cage and what you'll find is that
you'll notice that there is naturally
less of an urge to indulge in whatever
your addiction is and since you indulge
in it less you'll have an easier time
improving on these three areas so you
end up working out more hanging out more
and working on your projects more slowly
and surely this positive feedback loop
brings you out of addiction you finally
get to the point where you've built
yourself a version of your very own rap
park and you don't even bother looking
at the bottom or looking for porn or
looking for the next fix
because why run away from reality when
reality is so awesome
alright so a lot of you guys have been
asking me for help on quitting
pornography and completing the no-fat
challenge due to popular demand I'm
actually coming out with the course
early next year
this is going to be different from any
other course out there because it's
going to be an in-depth course on how to
step-by-step overcome your pornography
addiction and the best part about it is
that
you will be working one-on-one with me I
will personally be spending time with
you making sure that you overcome your
addiction so for those of you who are
interested who really really want to
make a change in their lives
i have a link below that will allow you
to sign up for my email list where I
will send you a notification the moment
the course comes out this email this
will also include a monthly newsletter
focused on different ways to improve
yourself besides that thank you for
watching and stay tuned