This video is inspired by a current client of mine, who allowed me to read
this text message here on this YouTube video so bare with me here. He says, how often would you
be texting a girl or initiating contact with the girl you're consistently hooking up with?
Been about five dates up to this point. Next date is already set for next Sunday and she spent the
night last night. I haven't talked to her all day. Don't talk to her a lot during the week
unless she reaches out. Just wondering your thoughts on this kind of intermediary phase?
He's asking how do I text this girl after we've been doing some dates and hooking up?
What do I do in that dead time before the date? My response is simply... wouldn't text at all.
Then he said you're a savage. Which I laughed at. He goes, so you go the entire week,
just no contact until Sunday? And I said yes, unless she text messages first.
I wanted to bring up to you this video how to act with a girl when she likes you. I'm going
to be talking about when you guys have already been dating a little bit like my client here.
Even in the very beginning, when she's starting to show signs of interest. Real quick, if you want to
be one of my clients and work with me 1 on 1 where we can text and I can respond to you when you need
anything going on with your dating life via text and do weekly calls, we can do that. Just apply
down below at Coached by Tripp dot com and you can be a potential client if you apply and you explain
your situation and if I see that I can help you. We'll get on a free call, you and me strategize,
figure out what's going on with you, and then talk about how I can help you. But I digress.
Let's go into talking about the material today. How are you supposed to act? I just gave you that
example here. I said, you don't want to be texting her at all. Understand that when a girl likes you,
you don't want to be so excited about it. You don't want to be showing all this attention.
You don't want to be acting that way. And that's because you don't want to lose the interest of
a girl. When you learn how to act when a girl likes you, then you're not going to lose interest
and then you can keep this thing going. This is not about playing games. I'm not trying to tell
you to like play it totally cool and be totally standoffish. No, we're not gonna do that. But we
do want to show some forms of non-neediness. We want to act like it's not a big deal.
We want her to know that you're a high value guy that has had experiences with women with
women. If you're showing her that you're too excited, you're texting her all the time, you're
texting her having full length text conversations between your dates, you're over complimenting her,
you're just showing her that you're so excited... basically this is saying that you're so obsessed
with her, it's as if you have not had other experiences with other women. You're actually
sub communicating that because hopefully you're with a high value woman so if she likes you
and you're so overtly giddy about it, it's almost as if like, is this the first time
he's been with a girl before? Does he really not have a past with women? Does he not have options?
Women don't want to know that. They don't want to see any sort of desperation. They don't want to
see any sort of lack of confidence from showing all this interest and being too needy. However,
with that being said, you still do want to move the interaction forward. I know what guys are
thinking now. It's like well Tripp, I don't get it. How am I supposed to balance this act of not
showing too much interest but how am I supposed to hang out with her? Do I still go for the kiss?
Do I still escalate? Of course you do. That's your job. And that's what you're gonna do also when you
find out that a woman might be interested in you. You're always going to be moving the interaction
forward. I call this dominance. You meet a girl, you'll get her number, you'll ask for her number,
you'll be the one texting her to set up the date. You might be the one texting to set up,
the second, third, fourth, fifth date. You'll be the one who's going to go for the kiss.
You're the one who's going to be moving to the sex location for you guys to hook up.
You're going to be the one who's going to be taking control of the whole situation.
You're the one who's guiding and producing the whole situation. But that's all. You're not doing
any of these intermediary things like my client was saying on the phone. You're not going to be
doing all this texting in between. You're not going to be doing things like buying her flowers
and giving her random gifts. Like I said over complimenting, any of that stuff. All that stuff
doesn't work. It just shows the neediness factor. What we want to do is we do want to play cool.
But mainly, you're going to be just backing off a little bit in the intermediary, but still
pushing things forward in the interactions. How are you going to do this? You don't want
to be hanging out with her more than one or two times per week. That's it. Until you guys become
an official couple, monogamous, whatever... you guys become exclusive (that's the word I'm
looking for ) you guys become exclusive then maybe you'll hang out a little bit more. But even then,
you want to be busy. You don't want to be hanging out with her more than one to two times per week
before she becomes your girlfriend. That way, you can be meeting other women because you don't know
if this girl is gonna be your girlfriend or not. You can be busy on your path, your purpose, your
career, your hobbies, your life, your friends, your lifestyle, travel, whatever you're doing.
And you only see her a couple times and this is going to help
maintain the attraction so that you're not putting too much in this one basket and she gets so much
of you that she sees that you have nothing else going on in your life. With any girl that you're
texting now, with any girl that you're dating now, text her to meet up with her and that's it. Some
guys will freak out by that. They'll say there's no way Tripp. There's no way you're telling me
that I'm only going to text her when I'm trying to set up a date and then I'm going to do it again.
Like I tell guys, you can do it on the day of just to confirm so you know that it's happening.
I know you're thinking that is crazy. I can't believe you're telling me that I can do that.
Well listen if she text messages you, you're not gonna ghost her. Respond to her. You don't have
to do it right away, but respond to what she's saying. Use a couple sentences at the very most.
Maybe even a couple words to respond to what she's saying, and that's it. Don't get into a
long conversation where you're responding, asking her questions. But here's the thing.
If this girl wants that attention so bad from you, that she gets turned off that you're not
having text message conversations with her in between dates, this girl's a red flag.
And she was probably never that interested in you to begin with. If you're going to lose a
girl that way... good riddance, goodbye. You got to make sure that you're setting up your life
so that when you're meeting women, you're not going to be texting them all day. Ideally,
you're meeting and talking to several women. And if that's the case, what are you going to do,
be talking to three, four girls at a time all the time like you have nothing else better to do?
Of course you have other things better to do. We can't be sitting here doing that all day.
Got to play a little bit cool. Do what you do and you'll move the interaction forward for the
bigger moments, the next dates, sexually, etc. If you need help with this, if you want me to
teach you what to do when you're meeting women, how to meet women online in person, what detects
them and make sure that you're having a dating life you really want... get coaching from me.
I'll put an application down below. Click that, sign up. Let's get this thing handled to save
you a ton of time. Either way, I hope this video helped you and I'll see you on the next video.