﻿7 IMPRESSIVE Dining Etiquette Skills [0:00:00]
This toast is because I love my Katya, I love my Ariana, and, Lana,
well, I throw her in the light bulbs. [laughs] The next dining etiquette -- the next dining et –
[Music] So, I've been married to a Slavic woman coming
in on 20 years. In that time period, there's a lot of things that have shocked me about Ukrainian,
Russian, and Belarusian culture. They have some crazy superstitions and habits.
One being, if you forget something at the house, you can't go back for it. It's bad
luck. And if you have to, well, make sure to look at a mirror and smile.
Another one, if you've got guests stopping over, at least one bottle of vodka for every guy
present. Seriously, they drink it all and it doesn't even faze them.
That being said, one habit I absolutely love, these people know how to toast. Seriously,
my wife's family, they toast everything and they're good at it. They know when to do it,
they're not tripping over their words. They're saying things that have meaning. I mean, you look
around, there's not a dry eye in the house. If you needed to give a toast right now,
would you know what to say? Would you know how to grab everyone's attention? Do you
know the rules on how to give a good toast? Here's to my daughter Katya, amazing girl.
Here's to my beautiful girl, Ariana, amazing. And then, there is Lana. What can I say? [laughs]
So, the rules to giving a toast are pretty simple. First up, make sure everyone has a drink
and it doesn't have to be an alcoholic drink. Next up, be careful of toasting before the host.
And if you are going to toast before the host, make sure to ask their permission.
Next, you want to announce your intention. If you're all seated at the table, go ahead and
stand holding your drink up. Everyone's going to pretty much pick up on it. If
other people are in conversation, people aren't noticing, it may be something you want to say,
I'd like to give a toast and project the voice. Some people say you should bang on the glass,
I really don't recommend that. The thing is you want to get everyone's attention and,
again, make it clear what you're about to do. And now, at this point, you give your toast. Now,
what to say? Well, this depends. Is it a special occasion? Is it something that we're celebrating
two people and their anniversary? Are we celebrating somebody's birthday? What is
the occasion? That's the easiest way to toast. And, yes, you may be a funny guy and if you've
done toast and if you've practiced, go for it throw some humor in.
This is a toast of the emergency broadcast system. [laughs]
But the best thing to do is just simply to be sincere and keep it short.
The next dining etiquette habit that makes you look good, saying bon appétit, enjoy your meal.
You can say this if you're serving somebody, if you are simply eating with your family eating with
your partner eating with a group. What you want to do is get the meal started and let everyone know,
hey, enjoy your meal, let's get started. And I realize, you know what? It makes the
food taste better when you know that somebody has prepared this is looking out for you and
wants you to enjoy a great meal. So, it's something now we say in our own family and
I found when I’m out with people when I’m out with my family, I've now started to say this
and everyone's like, “Wow! Well, thank you.” It just adds a bit of flavor to the meal when
you know that other people want you to enjoy what you have in front of you.
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make it look good, pull out the chair. And not just for women, pull it out for
anybody anytime somebody's coming up and they're going to join, pull out a chair for him.
Show that guy you -- I mean, yeah, he's a good friend and you're not going to get up
necessarily and pull the chair out from or maybe you will because you know what? You
value him. And this is what this shows, that you simply are wanting this person to join. It's not
that this person is intruding upon you, you want them to become part of your company.
Now, historically, this has been something that men would do for women whenever a woman would
show up to the table, the men would stand. And I'm not saying to do that, that's a little bit
too old-fashioned and it can get a little bit crazy when you got bigger groups together.
What I am saying though is don't be afraid to take and pull that chair out for anyone. You know,
an older person that may just simply need help. And that's what I love about this point is you are
looking out for others and you're putting others before yourself. This right here just goes to show
everybody that you have their interests in mind. This next one's a modern etiquette rule,
but keep the phone off the table. So many times people put their phone right
there on the table. And there's a study that actually talked about how even a glass of water
between two people creates a bit of distance. What you want to do is have nothing between you,
especially a phone, something making buzzing noises because guess what? You're addicted to
it and most people are. And when you understand that we become easily addicted to our phones,
you realize why you're putting it out there because you can't imagine missing a call.
And you're here with somebody enjoying a great meal and, yeah, it just may be your
family meal. Isn't that what you're working for? Isn't that what's important to you? You know,
this partner that you've been with for years? How about you turn that phone off and give her your
undivided attention. [0:10:02]
Spend time with the people you're with, because they'll be gone,
you'll be gone. The time passes so quickly, make sure that when it comes to these this meal time,
that you're enjoying it with them. So, take that phone, turn it off, take it off the table.
Now, gents, we're talking about dining etiquette today, but you know what Youtube etiquette is?
To boom, smash that like button. By feeding the algorithm by letting YouTube know that
you guys enjoy this video, more men will find this video and hopefully, yeah,
they'll start actually acting like guys. And by the way, if I miss something,
if there's a dining etiquette habit out there that you wish more men would do,
let me know in the comments below. I love hearing from you guys. I go down there and
I read and I learned so much from you guys. So, yeah, get down there and let me know
if you would have added something to this video. The next tiny habit that’s going to make you look
good, arrange for a picture to be taken of you and your party. Now, do you want to do this
for every family meal? Perhaps, if you want to create one of those viral videos of time
lapses over time, that'd be actually really cool. But, what I'm really talking about is when you get
together with your friends with people maybe you haven't seen for a few months for a few years,
here's the thing. I've been to so many of those and we forget to take a picture. Yes, life goes
on, but pictures are about capturing the moment. And I know I just said turn the phone off and put
it under the table, but this is a good thing to be able to grab that waiter to be able to ask
that waitress, do you mind be able to take a picture. Always go for the youngest one
because they're so great at taking pictures. Point being is hand it over and ask, hey,
let's get a picture taken. And it's your mother-in-law, your father-in-law, your wife,
it's their family, but you haven't seen them for a year and you don't know what the future holds.
You get this picture, this could be something that your wife cherishes if something were to happen
to her parents in the next few months. Point being, get this picture, be that person that you
thought about this and that you make sure everyone gets it. And you become that thoughtful person
that captured those moments that people cherish. The next dining habit that's going to make you
look good, be a thoughtful guest. You've been invited over to a friend's house. His wife is
cooking you a great dinner and you're going over there with your partner and guess what? Find out
talk to your friend and find out, hey, what does your wife like? What are her favorite flowers?
Hopefully, he knows that information. If not, just simply grab some flowers
and present them to her. Yes, you know, by the way, don't arrive too early, arrive right
on time. And just make it really simple, she'll take the flowers, she'll put them into a vase.
Some people may want to bring wine if you know that they drink, if you know that they're into
wines. Point is to be thoughtful, to actually find out what is something that she would want.
Try to avoid bringing food though, unless you've been asked to bring a dessert or a meal.
And I've been to places like that, where it's kind of a potluck and everyone does bring
something. Just try not to show up empty-handed. It definitely is something especially if you're
going to a house for the first time and, again, I find this is really big in the Slavic community,
you always bring something. But, the more thought that goes
into it and, again, don't go overboard with it. Just find something small that you can add, not
necessarily to the table, but at least to her home showing that, hey, you've thought about this.
And it applies to guys. Guys appreciate it whenever you show up and you bring a six pack
of beer or you know or you know some of that fancy stuff. Point being is don't show up empty handed.
The next dining etiquette habit that’s going to make you look good, saying thank you. Okay,
so you went out to a meal and your buddy paid for it. Him and his wife covered the meal for
all six of you, guess what? You need to not only text him a thank you, text her as well.
I’ve got a friend and his wife goes crazy because he seems to always get the thank yous, she
doesn't get anything. It's like we have a joint checking account, I paid for the meal too. Yes,
you may think, you know, oh, that's petty, she shouldn't worry about.
No, it happens to women a lot. They are slighted, they're forgotten about. And especially, you know,
oh, I just I thought he would pass it on. Guys don't always do that. Point being is send a
message and thank both of them. Be very clear and that is something that just doesn't happen.
And maybe you just want to simply send a letter. You can do that, a little bit old fashioned.
Maybe make a quick phone call. But, again, thank everyone that took care of you at the meal and
just being able to say thank you like that is a big deal and it matters to people.
Now, what about the general dining etiquette rules? The rules that every man needs to
know. These are the foundation rules, the basic ones, the ones that if you mess up,
yeah, you are definitely, yeah, a savage. So, go watch this video right here. I lay out the
basic dining etiquette rules that every man must know. So, boom, check it out right here. I'll hold
it up here for a second. Come on, it's getting heavy. Click the link, go check out the video.
That's it, guys. Take care. [0:14:32] End of audio