hi I'm Adrienne Everheart your feminine energy dating and relationship coach welcome to my
making friends with inner boy relaxing bubble bath or anytime meditation it's so wonderful
that you're here to connect with your inner boy so that you can feel more grounded in
your feminine energy and relationships with men this meditation is about 10 minutes in length
and designed to relax your body so please do not practice this while driving if you are relaxing in
the bathtub be sure you're not too sleepy or may fall asleep be certain to have your head
and fully elevated let's begin close your eyes and allow the weight of your body to make your
body feel heavy or let your arms float by your side through your nose take a big breath and
allow your belly to rise up and expand hold it for a second or two then exhale from your mouth
again inhale through the nose stop to smell the roses and then release the breath from your mouth
as if you are slowly and carefully blowing out birthday candles let's take a few more breaths
stop to smell the lovely roses then blow out your birthday candles and make a wish one more breath
this time make your belly as big and full as you can then let the breath go if you find your mind
is busy and thinking of your to-do list pause for a moment and say to yourself I'm clearing
my mind of busy thoughts now I'm slowing down my thinking now return to normal breathing and notice
how with each breath there is a new beginning where air enters the tip of your nose hits the
back of your throat and lets new life in that one breath then Peaks has a pause then the slow
release begins as you say goodbye to that breath welcome the new breath the new beginning and let
the air scrub you free of toxins both in your cells and in your thoughts exhale and release
the impurities say goodbye to that which no longer serves you each new breath is always
there for you a new beginning and an opportunity to release the unwanted now that you're feeling
more relaxed I want you to imagine your inner boy he lives somewhere inside your body and has been
with you for a very long time your inner boy is your protector he is about action jobs and
getting things done he is an authority figure when he needs to be he criticises gives orders
directions and creates strategies for success he enjoys having a job yet at other times he may feel
lazy about more boy work try to picture where you feel his energy the most in your body male
energy is often located up near the shoulders or even the head but there is no right or wrong
now allow your mind to create a mental image of your inner boy see him sitting across the
room from you what does he look like what is his hair color or legs about what age is he
how are his clothes and his body frame is he thin and lanky or sturdy and strong how is
his body posture is he slumped over exhausted is he relaxing sitting confident and tall or
does he look worried is he anxious or on the edge of his seat ready to take
action he may be quietly and carefully observing take a moment to notice him
how does your inner boy feel about the current man in your life how did he feel about your last
date how does your inner boy feel about men in general what are the expressions you see
on his face is he looking at you with love or disappointment or how does his mood feel
to you take a few breaths to relax around one another it can take a little time to make friends
as you observe your inner boy know that he has been with you for a long time he may have
pushed you to work hard or help to distract you emotionally so you can make it through a difficult
day at work perhaps he helped you toughen up and endure being separated from your children work
long hours endure pain or to help you make it through a difficult childhood or achy feeling
situations where you had no control notice how you feel about your inner boys presence when he is
helping you on the other hand has your inner boy ever disappointed you how has he treated men in
your life boyfriends husbands and your father his inner boy angry with men does he like to manage
the guys in your life or punish them take a few breaths and feel your way through how inner boys
supervises and handles your relationships with men notice how you feel in your body
now when is your inner boy his most happy and fulfilled when
does he really enjoy doing for you take a moment and let him answer you when is in
her boy content it's usually when he's in action but just see what comes up for you
tell your inner boy thank you say to him thank you for working so hard for protecting me the
best you could and for being so smart and helping me in all the ways you do I love all parts of you
and thank you notice how he receives your thanks how do you feel honoring this part
of you now I want you to think of qualities you desire in a loving partner as your body
collects it's yearnings for love comfort and support I will count a number so you can list
and speak it out loud or silently to yourself with each number say your specific desire as
you say the words I encourage you soften and surrender to the feelings or images that arise
so what wonderful attributes will a long-term partner have to offer you number one number two
now list number three
good you may have more attributes come to mind or perhaps fears may begin to surface your boy may
begin to perk up and list examples and reasons why relationships never work out for you if you
notice in her boy speaking now or in the days following this exercise instead of giving into
his way of doing things and letting him lead your relationships with men or believing everything he
says allow the adult in you to say in her boy I hear you and I love you I appreciate everything
you're trying to do for me I get to choose who I love and who I do not love after all a
man in his masculine and doing energy cannot be in a relationship with another masculine energy
man at least not for long when two or more men are together one always rises as the alpha and
the other support or follow a man will either walk away or default into his feminine energy
when challenged with masculine energy even from a woman you may have experienced both of these
scenarios or one more than the other again repeat to inner boy I hear you and I love you
I appreciate everything you're trying to do for me I get to choose who I love and who I do not
love take a big deep breath and free inner boy from managing your relationships with men inner
boy can do so much good for you when he's free from managing your relationships and her girl
also gets much needed space to feel and speak for herself can you begin to sense inner girl peaking
out and having her own space with men for now just let her get comfortable with the new space in her
life in her boy will adjust as well and you will too now think back to all the wonderful attributes
you desire in a man think of those qualities you yearn for in a partner can you see the
similarities and how your own inner boy possesses those same wonderful attributes you desire notice
how many of your yearnings are actually things inner boy can offer you now feeling this power
and support within yourself go ahead and release any urgency or feelings of laser-focused to find
one person for your happiness now take a nice deep breath and fill your belly full of air and
release the breath wiggle your fingers and toes and gently flutter your eyes open and return to
your current space you did excellent now let's end your meditation with an affirmation to you
and your inner boy thank you for supporting and loving me I appreciate everything you are doing
I am the adult and I am in charge and I am wonderful