hey everyone and welcome to top tank today we're going to learn about ten signs of an immature
person now let's begin number one irresponsible spending do you know someone who buys expensive
things without thinking someone who throws away thousands of dollars they don't have irresponsible
spending is a very common sign of immaturity more often than not immature people don't understand
how to take responsibility for their actions they rarely process the consequences of their
decisions acting solely on their emotions and they're careless desires all right let's say
you see an expensive gold watch in the window of a store now as a mature person you check the
price think through your purchase and then decide whether the watch is actually worth the money but
an immature person on the other hand would find themselves blinded by their excitement they'd
whip out their credit card without even thinking spending loads of money that they just don't have
immature people take and take and take without realizing how much damage they're doing part of
growing up is learning when to splurge and when to hold back it's controlling your wants wishes and
desires until you have the stability to act on them now this may take a few weeks a few months
or even a few years but mature people know how to be patient so if you know someone who makes
irresponsible financial decisions and chances are they're emotionally immature number two petty
insults yeah there's nothing more frustrating than arguing with an immature person instead of
exploring their points challenging your ideas or changing their perspective immature people argue
with personal attacks their grasp on the argument itself slips away as they resort to petty insults
and unnecessary criticism just imagine you're arguing with an immature friend about something
simple like the weather you like cold weather they like hot weather so you prove your point
with examples like the snow and the trees or warm mugs of hot chocolate but your friend
says something like oh you'd have to be stupid to think cold weathers better than hot weather
this is a really mild example but notice how your friend stopped arguing his own points and started
attacking your character when immature people get frustrated this is what they do they try to
force their opinions on you by critiquing your intelligence your strength or your integrity in
the moment they may not even realize what they're doing they're so blinded by their stubborn desire
to win they'll say anything to make it happen so what are you doing these situations what
should you say when an immature person starts attacking you personally well you don't have to
say anything the worst thing you can do is fight back or try to prove an immature person wrong
when an immature person insults you just ignore them number three zero impulse control immature
people struggle to control their impulses on top of their irresponsible decision-making
immature people act without thinking of anyone but themselves they just blurt out things that
are completely inappropriate they get swept away in the excitement of the moment paying little
attention to where they are or who they're with immature people are careless and rude
in the same way a child offends people without even realizing it but unlike a child immature
adults should know better maturity means stepping outside of yourself and gaining some perspective
it means controlling your impulses filtering your speech and paying attention to the people
in your environment every adult has the tools to control their impulsive 'ti but if they're
immature they're just not using them number four bullying others bullies are immature people who
lord over others using the illusion of strength success or intelligence to attack someone they
label inferior it's no surprise that bullies are some of the most emotionally underdeveloped
people in the world they thrive in positions of power because that power inflates the ego and
it covers up deep-rooted insecurities that may plague their inner lives in other words bullies
attack others to feel better about themselves and by lashing out a bully smothers their
problems with temporary feelings of power and confidence but those feelings never laugh and
their insecurities come back stronger than ever that's why adults mature adults confront their
issues instead of simply feeding their egos if you know someone who's constantly putting other
people down to their face or behind their back you know a bully and that bully has a lot of growing
up to do number five poor listening skills do you know someone who talks but never listens do
they tell long-winded stories but tune out the moment they stop talking immature people expect
to get more respect than they give they demand that other people listen closely to every word
they say but they couldn't care less what others are saying to them well why is that because they
don't have the emotional maturity to feel empathy they aren't conscientious enough to look outside
of themselves to walk in another person's shoes in fact many immature people don't even bother
to try for some poor listening skills fade with age but others never realize anything's wrong
if their lack of empathy persists immature people can become narcissistic they become so preoccupied
with her own personal bubble they forget or simply don't care about anyone else mature adults on the
other hand have empathy while introspection is a valuable trait you have to find a balance between
your internal and external worlds otherwise you fall into narcissistic patterns you stop listening
to the people around you and you stop growing as a person number six refusing to apologize immature
people don't like admitting they're wrong instead of admitting their mistakes immature people use
every excuse in the book they blame everyone but themselves because their fragile egos just can't
handle the weight of even the tiniest failure in other words getting a simple apology from
an immature person is an excruciating chore all right let's say your roommate forgets to wash
the dishes you've asked them a dozen times to wash their plates but once again you're
staring at a sink full of dirty dishes so if your roommate were mature they would apologize
and take responsibility for their failure if they were immature they would look for a way out they
would blame you for not reminding them to do the dishes or they'd act like you're the crazy one
for wanting the dishes washed the truth is your roommate is trying to protect their injured pride
immature people feel better about themselves when someone else takes the blame so don't be
surprised if they refuse to apologize number seven attention hogging do you know someone who hogs the
spotlight everywhere they go do they never feel like they're getting the attention they deserve
people who are immature need constant attention to nourish their self-esteem they only feel secure
and confident when they think the entire room is in their corner but their attention-seeking
behavior is not only frustrating for the people in their life it's also detrimental to their own
self-esteem immature people that depend on the attention of others rarely develop any genuine
confidence or its self belief in the long run as soon as the spotlight shines away from them an
immature person will get desperate they may even resort to bullying and aggression just to reclaim
the spotlight for themselves number eight lack of support immature people struggle to support or
encourage others even family friends and partners compliments are few and far between while insults
and criticisms fly freely it may feel like this person is always pointing out your flaws and never
recognizing your successes because well that's exactly what they're doing immature people don't
appreciate the success of others because it makes them feel worse about themselves because they're
immature they compare themselves to everyone for everything whenever you accomplish something an
immature person feels like they're falling behind so instead of supporting you they bring you back
down to their level otherwise you're better than them and that's the last thing an immature person
wants so if you know someone who's emotionally immature you may never hear a nice thing out of
their mouth number nine rampant lying do you know someone who lies all the time immature
people avoid the truth because the truth is often boring uneventful and plain immature people seek
attention so the stories they tell exaggerate the truth making them seem cooler smarter or
more accomplished than they actually are immature people lie to build their image even though the
truth is far less fantastic mature adults know there's nothing wrong with the boring uneventful
truth you're defined by the facts of your life not the crazy stories that you make up about
yourself you can pretend you're a high-flying accomplished individual but if you have nothing
real to show for it then it doesn't matter what stories you tell number 10 redundant mistakes
immature people have the same issues over and over again even if they recognize the error in their
ways they fall into the exact same traps they get derailed again and again no matter how many times
you tell them not to why is that because immature people don't learn from their mistakes they defend
their failures in order to save their pride and preserve their ego and for the same reason they
don't apologize immature people don't admit that their mistakes were actually mistakes so when they
run into a similar situation they fail all over again mature people on the other hand learn from
their failures no one's immune to making mistakes no matter how wise or mature you are there will
be times when you slip up what matters is that you reflect identify your mistakes and learn from them
mature people figure out when something's wrong and they make an effort to fix it hey thank you
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