- What's up beautiful people,
it's your homegirl, Miss Shameless, all up in your building
and this video is all about adulting 101.
I wish I learned this in school,
I wish they taught this but they don't.
I feel, ever since I've lived in the real life,
where people don't tell you what to do,
you have to tell yourself what to do,
it's been a constant balancing act of being mature
and responsible, while having fun and living life.
So these are my tips on how to get your life,
grow up, mature, adult.
You included.
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This video is in partnership with Change the Stat Campaign,
which brings me to my first tip:
take care of your health and your body.
I consider myself healthy, I work out, I eat well,
I'm also really busy and these are all the excuses
that I use as to why I haven't gone for an annual exam.
- YouTuber, makes video, talks, doesn't take her own advice.
- I know. I know I'm not perfect.
This video is also for me.
Would you, okay. Thank you
I learned that one in five women between the ages of 25
and 45 are not getting regular Pap checks,
regular HPV screenings and cervical cancer is preventable
but if you're not getting tested regularly,
you are putting yourself at risk.
So yes, that's part of adulting: going to the doctor,
even though you feel completely fine.
I have all these excuses as to why I don't feel I should go.
- "I'm busy, I'm an adult, I have so many things to do."
- Okay.
Piggybacking off of that, manage your stress levels,
go to the gym, eat healthy foods, it all comes together.
Tip number 2: getting your financials in order.
This is key, this is clutch.
This includes taxes, this includes budgeting,
credit scores, all of that.
They don't teach us this in school but I got you, Boo.
I have a video that I did with Budgetnista,
who is a brilliant financial advisor,
you can watch that over here.
She shares so many great tips on how to manage your money.
Simple things like paying yourself,
paying down your credit card balances.
For me, using apps like Mint or Credit Karma.
Credit Karma is an app that I use
to keep track of my credit score.
It's almost like going to the gym and looking at your weight
in that sense, if you're very aware of numbers
and that helps you stay on track.
For me, what helps me stay on track is Credit Karma.
I like to open it, see where my credit score is at.
If it's low, it's generally
because I have too high of a credit card balance,
so paying those down, paying them on time.
- You know what?
I actually don't have any debt.
- Tip number 3.
This is crucial adulting 101.
You need it. Organization.
- I'll have you know I'm very organized.
I don't know what you're talking about.
- There are so many methods on how to organize your life,
that includes Google Calendars.
I have to save everything in my calendar right away,
otherwise poof, she not gonna remember.
As soon as I meet someone, when I save their contact info,
I also save their birthday
because it populates into my calendar.
Using any kind of list or notepad to keep track of
your groceries, your toilet paper,
your shampoo, your body soaps.
Again, they don't teach this in school.
I'm helping you, okay?
Marie Kondo, amazing.
Her show on Netflix, if that didn't inspire you,
I don't know what will but organizing your life,
everything needs to have a home.
Your socks need to have a home.
Once you establish a home for these items,
it's way easier to keep on top of things.
Tip number 4, this is a really good one.
Take ownership.
That essentially means stop blaming other people,
apologize when you make a mistake.
- I'm sorry.
I'm sorry that I have to put you through this with her.
- And really meaning that apology,
not just saying an apology because it's the thing to do.
I find that when I apologize in the moment,
it hasn't really sunk in, where I really take inventory.
- I accept your apology.
- Don't lie.
I, when I turned 18, that is something I stopped doing.
I was so done of lying to my mum.
I would lie, I'd make up stories of where I was or wasn't
and I would forget my lies
and then she would catch me lying and I hated it.
I hated that I was lying
because I was afraid of being honest.
Finding ways to express how you feel while being honest,
tactful and not passing the bucket.
I don't know about you guys but I hate when people say,
"I'll call you in five" and they don't call me in five.
Don't say that.
- I'll call you back in five.
It's a figure of speech, don't take it so literal.
- It's just very loosey goosey with your words.
Take ownership of what I say and do.
Which brings me to the next part of this,
which is integrity.
If you say you're gonna do something, do it.
Be more mindful with your words
because if you can create a reputation
of being the person who delivers,
that looks good.
That looks good in more ways than one,
whether it's for the job or relationships.
Tip number 5: ask for help.
This is more for my independent people.
I find independent leaders,
individuals that do everything for themselves,
they don't know how to ask for help.
Go seek a therapist.
Go see a doctor.
Go to a physical therapist for your busted knee.
And for my co-dependent people, ask yourself for help
until you can't help yourself anymore,
then start reaching out.
But the worst thing is not having done the work
and expecting someone else to do it for you.
Do it for yourself.
Trip, fall, validate yourself
but once you figure out as much as you can on your own,
then ask for help because now your help that you're seeking
is coming from a place of experience
versus a place of ideas and thoughts
and nothing rooted in anything.
- Hi, I'm Maya and I'm gonna give you advice
and I haven't even taken it.
- Tip number 6: learn how to be a good friend.
- You my girl, you my girl.
- Being a good friend means listening,
not being envious or jealous
and I know that's a human quality
but the way that I like to navigate those waters
is it's not about you.
It is not about me in this moment when my friend
is telling me about some victory that they won.
This is about them.
Stop reflecting, stop projecting,
just put yourself in their position and be like,
"Oh my God, she worked really hard",
"Oh my God, she did that."
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- You didn't compliment me on my necklace, my lipstick
or my pigtails, just saying.
Envious, jealous, hater.
- So if you find yourself getting envious or jealous,
it's because you're in your own world,
you're being selfish, your ego is flaring up.
Just put yourself in your friend's position
and cheer for them.
Be their cheerleader, be their friend.
Tip number 7: clean up after yourself.
Try it, it's amazing.
Do your dishes, do your laundry,
pick up your socks, your underwear.
- Last I checked, you left your makeup wipes
and your SD cards on the counter, so.
- Socks.
- Socks? Makeup wipes.
- Messy Molly, get it together, okay?
- It's called an organized chaos is the term I prefer.
- Oh, this is another bonus adulting tip.
If you don't have any plant or animal, get one.
Get a plant, get a fish.
Learn how to take care of something other than yourself.
Tip number 8: make time for fun.
- I got moves, girl.
- The trap of being an adult.
- You could come out sometime.
You could learn from me, you really could.
- You know, "Adults are so mature
"and they can't have fun and they have"
- I'm Maya, I'm so positive.
How to adult.
- It's okay to have fun.
Maybe like an 80/20 type of thing,
like, weekends are for fun or whatever that 20 is for you,
that's where your fun is
but spending time with friends and family,
doing things that you're passionate and excited about,
that's important.
Life isn't about being an adult,
it's about being a well-rounded human being,
who's responsible and knows how to have fun.
- You know what, I'll take it from here.
So let us know in the comments below,
when's the last time you went to the doctor
to get a physical checkup,
to get all your lady bits checked out, okay?
'Cause she needs some inspo.
- If you're like me and you haven't gone to a doctor,
get yourself tested for cervical cancer
with a Pap and HPV testing.
I want to change the stat by taking ownership
and preventative steps before any of that happens.
- She needs to get on her game.
- Thank you, Boos, for watching.
Make sure you're subscribed to my channel,
turn the notifications on,
let me know when the last time
you got a doctor's appointment in the comments below.
I would love to know if I am the only one
who hasn't seen a doctor
and until next time, remember to:
- [Both] Do you, be you and stay true, Boo.
Be shameless.
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