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In this journey called life
You will not only meet good friends who are always there to support you encourage you and want the best for you in your life
But also toxic ones along the way who only perceive you as an opportunity for their own personal gain
These friendships will affect you physically mentally and emotionally
So how do we differentiate between a real friend and a toxic friend?
Here are four differences between good friends and toxic friends
1) good friends protect you when you're vulnerable a
Good friend will take care of you when you need to be cared for and supported
Do you have a friend who protects you when you're at your lowest point in life?
Or listens to you with empathy and provides emotional safety and reassurance when you went through a bad day?
Good friends are typically good listeners
They wouldn't mind listening to you vent for hours and genuinely care about your well-being
Because they genuinely miss you and love your presence around them
Toxic friends only take, demand a lot and give little back on the other hand toxic friends
Look out for only themselves and measure their friendships by what they can gain from you
Do you know anyone who's always calculating when it comes to helping you out even when you've helped them many times?
Whenever they help you out, they always expect something in return. They might even guilt trip you when you're unable to help them
Truth is the decisions and actions of a toxic friend are mostly made based on fear and ego
2) good friends are trustworthy and accept you for who you are
Good friends are true from the bottom of their hearts. They'll share their secrets while protecting yours
Do you have a friend who confides in you because they trust you and you would do the same for them?
When you're in pain physically, mentally or emotionally
They won't back away
During times when you isolate yourself to a harmful degree they make sure you're okay and they're there for you
They're the kind friends that are easygoing as they're not judgmental of who you are
You don't have to hide your truth because they accept you for who you are
Toxic friends give praises to your face and stab you in the back
These people are known as two-faced friends
They can say nice things right in front of you. But behind you it's a whole different story that could blow your mind
They have a habit of gossiping behind your back without your knowledge
Everything they say to you is sugar-coated
They're dishonest and only say things that you want to hear
And this becomes a problem because they won't stop you from making regretful decisions, even when they're aware of the consequences
Toxic friends often have a weak morale. For example, even when things go wrong. They show you NOT to take ownership of your wrongdoings
3) good friends are mature and responsible
Good friends guide you on the right path
They listen earnestly to you and try to understand where you're coming from the conversations you have with them can be real deep
To find out whether someone is a good friend ask yourself ,do they often respond?
When you talk to them about your problems? Are they patient and empathetic or are they bored and indifferent?
Toxic friends are reckless and immature these friends recklessly involve you in situations that make you uncomfortable and regret later on
Such as getting drunk in an unsafe environment or putting you in situations where you need to always lie to others sound familiar
If so, how do you plan to get out of this situation?
It's good to be aware and recognize the signs as early as possible
if not, you'll have an even harder time trying to get out of this loophole because you're Jiminy Cricket is lost somewhere and
lastly
Good friends are compassionate with you and others
They're understanding and caring for example when you are stressed or struggling to cope with your mental health
They become supportive and follow your pace of getting better
this type of friend is rare to find because usually
Everyone else rushes you to recover as soon as possible. When sharing your success and happiness
They congratulate and celebrate with you when you're grieving about a loss. They'll be there for you
Good friends do only defend your name when you're not around but also encourage others of your good qualities
Toxic friends give you false. Hope and impressions
They talk the talk, but don't walk the walk. In other words. They often make promises. They can't keep
Have you ever met someone who always boasts about their past good deeds or achievements if yes
Don't take her for granted even if they add in between apologies for seeming braggy
to spot a toxic friend like this try asking for a similar favor or a
Promise they made in the past and see how they respond do they back out on you by giving excuses
Or do they follow through with what they initially preached?
Do any of these points mentioned above remind you of anyone?
Do you have more good friends or toxic friends in your life, or do you identify with being a good friend or a toxic friend?
Remember, no one is perfect
What matters is we learn and we become a better version of ourselves.
If you have a friend who is affecting your life in a negative way. What do you plan to do next?
Let us know in the comments below
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