What's going on? Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. Next to me,
my buddy Adam Lyons. You might know him, you might not. Something interesting
about this man; he has two girlfriends. Well two wives actually. Yeah.
Not girlfriends anymore. Not really wives but we live in the same house.
We have four kids. Officially you can't be wives because that would be illegal.
Yeah two girlfriends. We live together and we have a wonderful family.
Nice. As we can see here the guy knows what he's talking about.
Knows what's going on and I have him here today to talk about the best text
messages to send to a girl. Here's what's really cool. I never heard
this before. This is a really cool new system and it's a lot different from
anything you've ever heard and you're gonna know exactly what to do step by
step once this video is over. And stick around to the end because we have
something for you that you're really gonna like. Cool yeah so when I do
text messaging, I do it different than most people. I've been teaching
dating since 2006. I've been doing this for a while and I've got it down to a
point where I just send people a video of a goat. A video of a goat. Yeah.
I think they should be able to show it right here. This is the goat video.
Oh that's so wimpy come on give it all you got. Go!
Alright but you're not just gonna send the girl a video of a goat.
How does this all go down? What's the beginning here?
The cool thing is it doesn't have to be that goat video. It can be a gif.
It can be anything. But the key is, I arrange all my dates in person
when I meet the girl. I don't do it via text. Which means for me,
a text message is not that important. I'm not trying to arrange a date
or be like hey let's go for coffee. I don't do anything like that because
you have a better chance of convincing someone to do something in person.
If I verbally invite somebody to come to coffee and they confirm.
This is from Cialdini's book Influence. Somebody's more likely to do something
if they say they'll do it in person because you get consistency. So I'll set
up a date in person. It'll be like hey we're gonna go to a sushi dinner.
We're gonna go on Friday. We're gonna go at this time. All spoken about in person where
I'm being confident enough to have this discussion and getting the
phone number is something I ask for just in case I'm running late or I
have to change something. So getting the text message
enables me to create a second communication thread. So what happens is
in person we've arranged the date but now we have ideally just sending silly
memes backwards and forwards. And if I can get to a point where she'll trade me
dumb videos and silly stuff, she's communicating with me, the same way she
communicates with her ex-boyfriend, all of the other guys that she's ever
dated, with her best friends, because that's what most people do.
Think about it. When you send text messages it's either we're arranging logistics or
we're sending funny messages. What I like about this most and you already
mentioned this is that setting up the date in person, very confident.
Very confident. No one's doing that. It's very rare.
Guys just want to kind of go in grab the number and then just leave and breath.
I got the number. We're all good. But you're saying take that extra step,
set up the date right there and then. I think a lot of guys are not gonna do that
because they're afraid of getting rejected. Just go for it. If she likes you, she'll set up
the date. If she doesn't like you and you got her number
the date would have never happened anyway. So just go for it. And
yes you don't have to use the goat meme. I think anything that's cute,
funny, something that's gonna get someone to respond. And that's the key.
I want to send something non-threatening so I know I get a response.
A lot of the mistakes that guys do is they'll get the phone number and girls
will give you a number just to get rid of you. So if they agree to a date in
person, they're much less likely to flake on that text message but you also don't
want to get people in a habit of ignoring. This is a common thing that
girls do where she's at work, you send her a text message and she's
like oh I shouldn't be my phone at work so she doesn't respond and then four
hours later, she's still at work, you send another message hey is everything okay?
She's still at work and doesn't respond. She goes home she's now got a thread of
two or three text messages from you that she didn't respond to and now
she's like oh I shouldn't respond. I obviously didn't want to so
maybe fate says I shouldn't. Right. And you're done.
Whereas if you send a goat video or another funny meme or a gif or something
that's cute and funny and then you just ignore her. That's it. You're like it's done.
I've already got my date set up on Friday. It doesn't matter that on
Wednesday she hasn't responded. I know where we're going. I know what we're
doing and I can text her on the day just to confirm. I have a whole system
to make sure someone doesn't flake. But I do it on the day, not during.
Not during the week. But then when she comes home after that day of work
where she wasn't checking her message, the only message from you is a very funny
goat video and she's like oh my gosh that was so funny, how are you and done.
So then what do you do after that? Let's say you've already set up
the date and well actually let's say this, you meet her, you set up the date
verbally and then you have her number and you set the date let's say five days
from now. When do you send that goat meme or that funny
text message and then what do you do after that? I love it. Okay so I send
the goat message actually the minute I get her phone number in person. But I say
to her don't look at it. That's not for you to look at right now.
Now there's curiosity in her phone and an open loop for us to deal with later.
She's like okay I won't. I know that at some point, she'll pick up her phone and
go through all the messages, she'll see the go and she'll laugh and I'll get that
spike as she remembers everything that we did. Also when it comes to text messages,
I don't care about time. A lot of guys are like wait a day, you
don't seem keen. She's already got the message in her phone and I now forget
that she even exists. I know the date and I'm done. What happens is I work on
frequency one for one. I don't care when. I don't care how but I text them back at
the same rate they text me. If she spends three days before she responds to
the goat video, I don't care. I don't worry about it. But the minute I get a
response, I can send her a message. I can send it straight away. I can send it two
days later. It's up to me. I don't like playing games so I always send a message
when I receive it and I look at my phone. I have a system. I only look
at my phone when I'm in the restroom. That's my secret tip. So if I'm
texting you, I'm in the restroom. What that does is it keeps me on a set
schedule with hours of gap so sometimes it will take two or three hours before I
respond to somebody. By keeping the ratio of one to one, if a girl wants to
text you a lot, you're responding at her pace. If she doesn't want to text you a
lot, you're responding at her pace. Either way there's never a problem.
I remember this one girl. When I came to America there was a girl I
hooked up with and then I sent her a text message and she didn't respond.
I was like whatever. I went to America, came here, lived here. Six months into
leaving to America, I get a text message from her hey what you doing this weekend?
So she didn't know that I'd left and responded to my message six months later.
So I just respond "just break up with the boyfriend?" She went "yep".
Trust the girls ratio. They know what they're doing. One to one is best.
Very practical, very easy to use. Try this out. I want you to try this out as
soon as possible and then leave a comment down below and let us know how
it works and also if you want great practical tips just like this, I want you
to check out this blueprint that we co-created. It is a blueprint to get
girls to chase you instead of you having to chase them. You're gonna learn all
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and you'll get it for free. Thanks Adam. Thank you.