Sadhguru: This you must create.
If you don’t create this, you will always live in fear.
In India nobody says just “No”.
They will say No No No No No No. (laughter).
The fear that devil may come in if you close the door.
Can I say “Yes” to anybody for anything?
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Questioner 1: I had a question how do we learn to say “No”
when you know that something is,
like say saying Yes would affect you in the adverse way, but still
Sadhguru: You must send your whatsup message “No” (laughter)
Questioner 1: Because, it happens with me a lot of times, that I want to say “No”
but thinking of what the other person would feel I tend to say “Yes”.
So how do we stop that?
Sadhguru: I know in what context you are asking (laughs).
No No No That’s not what I meant (laughs) (laughter)
Sadhguru: That’s not what I meant (laughs).
I have been to say a small things in life this and that
but I have been always encouraging people to say “Yes” and “Yes” for everything.
“Yes” or “No” if I ask - people around me always say Sadhguru its always “Yes”.
Tell us what?
So for you to say an absolute “Yes” to everything one important thing is
you must create an atmosphere of integrity and trust...hmm.
If you create an atmosphere of absolute integrity and trust all of us can say absolute “Yes”
when we know no body will misuse our “Yes”
we can all say hundred percent “Yes” for everything. Isn’t it?
That’s what we should strive for?
If it’s not possible in the whole world, at least we must create small circles,
where we can say “Yes” and there is no problem.
Nobody misuses a “Yes”.
Very important very important for healthy unfolding of every life
that you need at least a small cocoon of life around you where you can be a total “Yes”
without fear or favor you can be an absolute “Yes”.
This you must create.
If you don’t create this, you will always live in fear.
Being exploited is one thing.
Being live living in a fear of exploitation
is actually more damaging than exploitation itself.
So today we are creating a world where, Well there is some reason for it also,
there is reason for it also I am not trying to live in some utopian world
I know how the world is
But I am saying you must create your own little world where you can say “Yes”
without any consequence to the “Yes”. Its important.
If we do not do this, then we will always live in walls.
“No” is the Wall isn’t it? In India nobody says just “No”.
They will say No No No No No No. (laughter) Have you seen this?
Nowhere else it happens. Only in India. No No No No No No.
They think one “No” won’t stop them.(few laughs).
“No” is the Wall “Yes” is the door way isn’t it?
if you open your door a devil could come in or the divine could come in.
The fear that devil may come in if you close the door
you have also closed the door for divine.
What an unfortunate life “Yes” or “No”.
You not only closed your door to negativity you closed your door to everything,
because some negativity once came through your door.
Don’t do that yourself.
Once you live here, there are dangers of life ofcourse.
But because there are dangers to life if you close all possibilities to life
that will become a very absurd and sad life.
The walls that you build for self-preservation are also the walls of self-imprisonment.
Hmm... if you build a wall to protect yourself today after some time this is your prison
isn’t it?.
So No No No No No you built a wall around yourself.
Can I Say “Yes” to anybody for anything “No” that’s not possible you have still
not created that kind of a world that’s too high up there.
That’s why you must create at least little world
where you can say “Yes” without concequence. Very important .___(applause)