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I'm super excited about this week's topic because we haven't really covered it yet
And I definitely wanted to go over it because a lot of people have questions about it when they have relationships, especially men
I've been getting a lot of messages from men asking me you know in your videos you talk about
Narcissism you talk about all these things and it tends to be from the female's point of view and actually majority of my clients
Right now are actually men. So men definitely go through emotional abuse. They definitely go through narcissistic abuse
And so for this video I wanted to tackle the female narcissus and I didn't want to tackle it
Just in a romantic setting. I also want to tackle the female
Narcissistic mother the narcissistic sister the narcissistic friend or co-worker
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So I'm gonna stop rambling and let's get right into this week's video. So just like the male narcissist. The female is pretty similar
They're gonna lack empathy
They're going to be seeking narcissistic supply from people and they're gonna use manipulation and other tactics in order to get that
the bottom line with all narcissist is they have an extremely
low sense of cell they have no sense of essentially, but they have very fragile egos and they're very
jealous and insecure people and so they mask all of that with this grandiose of personality or
Their a covert they very much will play the victim
so all of these abusive things that they put out to the world is just a cover for really the fact that they're just
wounded damaged hurting insecure jealous envious
Etc etc, and they don't know how to deal with all of that
They don't know how to deal with what's going on inside of them because they don't even know what's going on inside of them
They are now playing a character which is this narcissist. So all of these things that they do
Are just basically defense mechanisms. And if you're not aware that people are that a narcissist is doing these things
You're gonna take it personally
You're gonna see it as a reflection of your own self-worth or self value when it has nothing to do with you
So learning about this stuff is really crucial towards protecting yourself
definitely number one, but one of the biggest things with a female narcissist and this is more so with a romantic relationship is
Just like with the male will use
manipulation to and
gaslighting to control their victim and they'll be very charming and they'll swoop in and be you know the knight on the white horse and
Save the day and I'm your soul mate, etc, etc
Be very romantic with you in the in the early stages of dating
The female is going to use her sexuality to really get to you to really you know
Get you and just like pull you into the relationship
so she's gonna rush intimacy and she's gonna be very
Sexual right off the bat and she wants to make you feel like a man because by making you feel like a man
You're going to be become essentially addicted to her
And this is when once the addiction starts in you, this is when the abuse actually happens
So it's really the same thing
With the female as the male the male will use romance and charming and sweeping you off your feet
And I love you and love letters and soulmates and like all of that things all of those things that women
Want to hear when they're coming from that?
You know wound place where they haven't felt themselves up and it's the same thing with men
If you have all of those wounds, then you're going to need a woman to make you feel better about yourself
You're gonna need a woman to make you feel more like a man and by her being sexual and really honing in to
What men how men tick which is their sexuality whereas in women? It's more of our emotions
That's how they're going to basically hook you in order to get that supply from you in order for the abuse to actually start
Now just like with the male narcissists, you know obsessed with money and status
And what can I achieve and you know achievements are very important. That's why a lot of
really successful
Narcissistic men are in very high positions and it's not about the money sometimes with them
It's about the achievement like what else?
Can I achieve how higher can I go and it's great to have goals and set goals
But there are some people and I'm sure we've all met one at least where it's never enough
They're never happy with the success that they have. They never can take a step back and say wow
I did a good job. That was great and just enjoy their life and appreciate their life
It's like they want more money. They want more success. They want more status. They want to know more people. It's just it's a never-ending
bottomless pit to try to fill a void within
Themselves and that they're trying to fill and with the female narcissus
She's kind of similar but instead of really gaining things she and gaining money
Which she very well could she really wants to spend the money and she definitely doesn't want to spend her own money
That's for sure. So
She's going to you know, hook up with a very successful man that has a ton of money. She wants to spend money
She wants to flaunt her new bags and she wants to flaunt her diamond ring
and she wants to flaunt all of these trips that they're going on and things like that that make that
makes her feel better about herself that
basically gives
Boost her self-esteem a little bit makes her feel better about herself by spending money and flaunting it and that for her
proves to herself really that she's worthy that she's enough because she has all of these other things and especially if she's surrounding herself with
People that do not have those things you have to understand that the female narcissus is a net attention seeker
and I'm sure we all know some celebrities that are like this as well where they're just so
Narcissistic and they need to be the center of attention. They have such a level of self entitlement that it's crazy
I mean you look at them and you're just like oh my god
Like you're so wrapped up in your own self like and it's great to have
Self-love and to love ourselves and to take those selfies and be proud of yourself and things like that, but we all know
Celebrity a friend a co-worker
Where it just doesn't feel right
it feels not really authentic and it's coming from that narcissistic place and again that
Narcissistic supply place is basically low self esteem. It's someone that needs to feel validated
It's someone that needs to show off her entire body in order to get you know
Some people look at her or give her attention or give her what she needs. So it's all attention seeking
It's all narcissistic supply the really kind of crazy thing about all of this
Is that as she's spending money as she's you know, flaunting everything that she has and in all of this
She really truly believes that everyone around her is envious of her
She really thinks that she has the life that that you know
She's better than everyone else that she's the better woman like she really believes that in her mind
It's the same thing with a narcissistic man. He really believes. He's a good guy at his core
He really believes that he's a good dad. He really believes that, you know, people are really envious of me
and as long as I
You know portray myself in this certain way that people will really look up to me and know that I'm a great person
When they're not at all at their core
They're just flaunting or they're just portraying again this character this superficial character and all of these superficial things
To again fill that void within that low sense of self
Oh, actually no sense of self low self-esteem. No, you know self-worth or self-respect
Absolutely. No empathy
It's just again
It's it's like a child that's begging for attention and it's real what the female narcissus is
The next thing that is really different between the male narcissus and the female is she is caddy
She is caddy. She isn't secure
She is a bully a thousand percent
Now we've all had moments when we gossip, and we're probably not proud of it
And when we're doing it
we know we feel gross and that we shouldn't be doing it or we just feel that pit in your stomach and I know for
Me if I've ever been gossiping. There's always a moment where I'm like, I don't want to be doing this anymore
Like I don't feel good about it. I shouldn't be judging someone else like and to be honest. It's completely irrelevant
but this woman
Loves it. She loves to throw jabs. She loves to cut you at your knees. She is really a bully a hundred percent and
Again, it makes her feel better about herself. She loves to gossip
she loves to throw people under the bus because
By hurting someone else it makes her feel better about herself is sick and twisted as that sounds
she's the one that it's gonna one-up you so whenever you just got
you know a nice new bag that you worked really hard for and this is something that you really
Wanted or you got a promotion at work here she comes with well, my husband just got a promotion, too
And now we're going to wherever Paris or wherever
Wherever we're going. It's just always a competition with these people. She enjoys bringing people down
she enjoys causing drama that is definitely the sign of a narcissist and
To be honest, even if someone is not narcissistic
the woman that causes drama
the woman that sticks her nose in where it doesn't belong the woman that's gossiping all the time the woman that's constantly throwing jabs that
People are cutting people out their knees and saying the most hurtful things that you could ever say
That is a woman that screams
Insecurity and there's that quote, you know insecurities are loud and confidence is silent
So it's like when you meet that woman that is constantly trying to one-up you
Constantly just you know is jealous of you
then you know that you're dealing with a narcissist and the reality is the reason why she does these things the reason why
she wants to flaunt herself and
You know flaunt everything she has and cut people at their knees and say the most hurtful things and be so passive aggressive with her
comments or
Just you know, if she says something positive it's there's like 10 other negative things that come with it
The reason why she does this because she's jealous of you and the fact that she's jealous of you
Means that she knows
Consciously unconsciously, who knows that she could she's never going to be that woman
So a lot of the times when you come across a woman that you know is very jealous or insecure
And does these hurtful things and you take them personally?
if you just actually understood that the reason why she's doing it is because she's jealous of you and the reason why she's jealous is
Because you carry
Certain traits certain qualities that she'll never be able to have because she doesn't have the self-awareness to know
What's wrong with her that's causing her to not be that person and that's you know, narcissism right there
I mean a narcissist has absolutely no self-awareness of where their wounds are
they have no self-awareness of being able to take responsibility for their actions and
Seeing the damage and the sub and the selfishness that they're doing towards others and being able to self reflect and saying, okay
What do I need to do within myself in order to change this? They don't have the ability to do that?
They're always gonna blame. Someone else put it on someone else. It's someone else's responsibility
It's not mine because I'm perfect now for the narcissistic mother and this is something that I honestly get a lot of questions on is
people that have had childhoods where they've had to deal with a narcissistic mother and
You know with the narcissistic mother they need to raise
Narcissistic children, so it doesn't mean every single child is gonna turn out to be narcissistic
But they're definitely gonna find that one child that is their golden child that they're going to enable
They're going to baby
They're going to maybe shower them too much. You know, here's the thing with raising children
And if you're a good parent, you know this it's all children need attention, but too much attention and too much
praise
and too much putting on a pedestal and
Enabling and helping out and not letting your child at times learn those lessons
Struggle a little bit so they know how to pick themselves up
they're never going to be able to be that healthy adult just like
You know abuse of neglect and not feeding and not taking care of and just leaving and abandoning
I mean that's abuse - they're both abusive
the narcissistic mother is definitely a topic that I will go more into in videos to come because it's definitely
Conversation all on its own, but I just wanted to give you a quick
Outline or overview of the narcissistic mother they definitely pick that one golden child
And really want to groom and breed
narcissistic children
so
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