Gentlemen, this is Mantelligence.
today we’re showing you seven powerful ways to overcome approach anxiety.
How many times have you been too nervous to talk to a beautiful woman that you see?
Every guy has been there, but you’re NOT that type of man... you want to approach her
boldly and confidently, right?
So here’s exactly how to overcome your fear of talking to beautiful women.
Step #1: Counter Your Negative Thought Patterns
I get it: As soon as you see a beautiful woman,
your brain is flooded with doubts and fears.
But when you realize that your fears aren’t real, you’ll feel instantly empowered to
talk to her.
Here are the two most common fears men have that AREN’T REAL:
#1: PEOPLE WILL NOTICE IF I GET REJECTED.
The truth is, everyone is more interested in themselves than your actions, and won’t
even notice if you do get rejected.
#2: I’VE ALREADY FAILED SO MANY TIMES
Were you immediately successful at the first
sport you played?
Like everything in life, approaching beautiful women takes practice.
Step #2: Choose the Right Places to Meet Women
By going to places that you actually enjoy,
you’ll have an immediate connection with any women you meet there,
because, if they’re also there, then they likely enjoy being there, too!
So unless you really like going out to bars, stop trying to meet women in bars.
Instead, socialize by doing what you really like, and connect with women on that,
Like going to a bookstore or coffee shop, or joining a coed volleyball team.
Step #3: Keep it Simple
The #1 thing that creates anxiety for approaching
women is overthinking.
This is why most common advice for overcoming approach anxiety just doesn’t work.
So, only think about these two simple things when approaching a beautiful woman:
#1: Stand up straight.
Because better posture is proven to boost your confidence.
#2: Say something sincere.
Be honest about your reasons for choosing to talk to a woman,
because it’s the best and least-stressful way to make a genuine connection.
Let’s take a quick break to discuss two important tips for overcoming approach anxiety:
#1: The most powerful thing you can do to crush approach anxiety is to change the goal
of your approach.
A huge problem of common ‘approach’ tactics is that they pressure you into
trying to force conversation with girls that you don’t have a connection with.
Think about it like this: If you find women that share your interests,
hobbies, and personality, the connection will be natural and easy,
and you won’t have to “convince” her to stay in the conversation, right? Of course
not, she’ll want to keep talking to you.
And, this way, there’s way less pressure.
Now, you’re not focused on forcing a conversation, you’re simply trying to see if you two are
compatible.
Which is way better, right?
#2: Most Common Approach Anxiety Tactics Won’t Help You
Most advice on overcoming approach anxiety recommends isolated actions,
like saying hello to ten strangers a day, or starting a conversation with five girls
at a bar.
But these types of goals make you over think more, which causes even more anxiety.
Instead, after changing the goal of your approach in tip #1,
you can now focus on goals that are not only fun and rewarding,
but also help you make real genuine connections with beautiful women.
So set yourself a better goal: Rather than focusing on numbers or assignments,
approach women for fun and connection.
You’ll feel dramatically less pressure to perform, and you’ll enjoy each conversation
more.
And that makes this the most powerful part of overcoming approach anxiety,
because you don’t get anxious doing something you enjoy, right?
Okay, let’s get back to the four most important steps to overcoming approach anxiety:
Step #4: Realize That She’s Not Perfect
A lot of guys think of a beautiful women as
being perfect, just because they are physically attractive.
But at the end of the day, here’s the thing: That beautiful girl is a person with flaws,
problems, and insecurities... just like you.
If you keep this in mind, a lot of nervousness over the approach immediately vanishes.
Step #5: Investigate Her Personality
The moment after you approach her can be just
as nerve-wracking as before, since you of course now have to continue the
conversation.
So, to make things less stressful, don’t focus on trying to impress her,
focus on exploring her and and her personality.
That way, not only are you in control of the conversation,
but the focus also isn’t on you, which which should quickly make you less nervous.
Step #6: Be Ready to Leave
Approaching a beautiful woman is an amazing
first step, But if you’ve been talking to her for 5-10
minutes but still don’t like anything about her other than her looks...
Then it’s better to say “well, it was nice to meet you” and move on.
And, knowing that you can walk away should also make you significantly less nervous.
Think about it: This changes your goal from getting her number,
to trying to determine if there’s a connection.
Which is way less pressure, right?
Step #7: Stop Thinking, Start Doing
Most approach anxiety is caused by over-thinking
and over-preparing.
So, instead of reading more about how to do this,
it’s time to get out there and start talking to beautiful women.
Keep things simple, and remember: This will become dramatically easier for you,
the more you do it.
Because approaching beautiful women is a skill you can learn,
So get out there, get the girl, and get over your approach anxiety.
That’s Seven Powerful Ways to Overcome Approach Anxiety
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