What’s up ladies and gentlemen, I am Breakup Brad Browning and in this video, I’m going
to tell you 5 things that your ex is thinking… but will never admit to you.
Now, this is mostly relevant if you’re hoping for a second chance with your ex, but maybe
you’ll also find it interesting even if you’re done with your ex and moved on.
But for those of you wanting your ex back, this will help you understand what’s going
on in your ex’s head right now… and help you get back together.
#1 - Your ex wasn’t honest when they told you their reasons for why they wanted to break
up.
It’s very common for an ex to lie about why they wanted to break up… or, at the
very least, only tell you part of the truth.
In fact, I’d say that this is the case for MOST breakups.
Most of the time, your ex will give you some generic reasons why they wanted to break up…
things like “I am just too busy with school for a serious relationship” or “I just
need some time to decide what I want” or “we don’t share any common interests”....
Typically, these things will actually just be a small part of their decision, or even
a flat-out lie to cover up the truth.
See, your ex is going to feel like they need to give you some kind of explanation as to
why the relationship has end... but they also don’t want to hurt your feelings by telling
you the full truth.
For example, maybe they’re not as attracted to you anymore because you recently gained
some weight… or maybe they found someone new that they’re falling for.
Do you really think your ex is going to tell you that kind of thing, knowing how much it
would hurt your feelings?
Instead, they’ll come up with some other reason that’s less hurtful, like the old
classic “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse.
What does this mean for you, knowing that your ex probably lied or withheld part of
the truth?
Well, it just means you should be skeptical about your ex’s explanation for the breakup,
and avoid becoming overly fixated on whatever your ex said was the reason they wanted to
end things.
In fact, much of the time, the “reasons” they provide for breaking up aren’t actually
valid at all.
#2 - Your ex feels guilty for hurting you.
Unless your relationship with this person was so toxic and broken that they truly hate
your guts, your ex is almost certainly going to feel bad that they had to hurt your feelings.
They know how painful being dumped can be, and they still care about you to some extent,
so breaking your heart is going to make them feel very guilty.
In fact, breaking up with you was probably one of the most difficult things they’ve
ever done.
#3 - Your ex is scared that you’ll move on quickly.
Your ex is never going to admit this openly, but it’s very likely that they don’t want
you to move on and get over the breakup quickly.
Sometimes this is a subconscious feeling in the back of their mind, but it’s natural
for most people to want their ex to stick around and be available as a “backup plan”
in case they decide that breaking up was too painful or the wrong decision.
If it looks like you’re moving on quickly from the breakup, your ex will fear that their
backup plan is slipping away, and that the breakup could end up being permanent before
they’re ready to accept that outcome.
This is why -- as I talk about in many of my other videos -- it’s so important to
give the impression that you’re moving on from the breakup and thriving without your
ex around.
By making your ex think that you’re getting over them and quickly moving on with life,
they’ll be under real pressure to decide if they are willing to let you go forever…
or whether they should take you back while that option is still available to them.
If you do want your ex back and you haven’t already taken my free quiz, I recommend you
go and do that right now at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz… the quiz will tell you your current odds of
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#4 - They’re not confident about the decision to break up.
Just because your ex decided they wanted to break up with you doesn’t mean they’re
certain that they’ve made the right decision.
If you’ve ever dumped someone, you probably know what I’m talking about: it’s not
an easy decision, and there’s almost no chance that your ex is completely confident
that breaking up was the right choice.
They may have weighed the pros and cons many times before actually breaking the news to
you, and decided that going your separate ways is the “right” thing to do… but
that definitely doesn’t mean they’re sure about that decision.
In 90% of situations, your ex is going to be secretly hiding their own anxieties about
breaking up.
Was it the right decision?
Will they live to regret it down the road?
Will they ever be able to find someone like you again?
In other words, your ex is going to be worried to some degree that they’ve made the wrong
choice by breaking up.
They won’t likely admit it to you, and may sound truly certain that the breakup is final
when they talk to you about it, but in most cases they’re still internally conflicted
about it.
#5 - At times, your ex misses you and wishes they never broke up with you.
Like we just talked about…
Breaking up is hard for both people involved.
Your ex isn’t likely going to be any less heartbroken than you are.
As a matter of fact, sometimes the heartache can be even worse for the “dumper” than
for the person being dumped.
That means your ex isn’t going to have an easy time after the breakup, either.
They’ll probably cry, feel lonely, and they’ll miss you like crazy… especially in the first
few weeks after breaking up.
There will definitely be times where your ex wishes more than anything that they could
make the pain go away by calling you up and taking you back.
There will be times they question their decision to end things.
And there will be times they want nothing more than to be in your arms again.
Now, often your ex will be able to overpower those emotions with logic.
They’ll think back to the underlying problems that led to them wanting to break up, and
they’ll resist the urge to call you and take you back by reminding themselves that
it was “the right thing to do in the long run”.
Your ex’s friends and family will likely try to talk them out of taking you back, reminding
them of the reasons they wanted to break up in the first place.
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