Signs of a user in a relationship! I'll explain what the typical signs are to look out for in
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Meeting a user can be a difficult experience... it can cause a person to feel betrayed and often used.
The most common emotions a person dating a user would experience are = Confusion disappointment and
anger. First off confusion is a common emotion when dating a user, as one may not be able to
determine why the user is treating them in such a way. The user may appear to be very affectionate
and caring, yet never putting in the effort to truly commit or maintain the relationship.
On the surface it may give the dating partner a feeling like something is off
about the relationship, but the reality may be much different. Second emotion that comes with
dating is disappointment. A user typically operates in a way that causes the other person to feel like
their expectations and needs are not being met.The user may not seem to value their time and
effort... it may even withdraw all emotional effort when reciprocation is asked for. Overall it's a
very draining and miserable experience and due to the extremely entitled and selfish nature of
most people nowadays it can be quite upsetting to see how far some will go when they are a user.
Now what actually is a user in a relationship? It means one person is taking excessively, while the
other is making the sacrifices... it is one-sided... it is imbalanced.. it's not healthy... it is difficult
it's not a partnership... you are not a team... you are not equal and you are certainly not respected!
Users come in all shapes and sizes, young and old, from all backgrounds... it all depends on honestly
how far they are willing to go, how much they are willing to take, and when they cannot take any more
they dump you on the side like a piece of trash! Here are the signs of a user in a relationship!
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The user typically is overly reliant on their partner for emotion or even financial support,
without demonstrating an equal level of commitment in return. The good-natured empathetic partner in
the relationship feels almost like it's a natural obligation to stand by their side. The user demands
"I'm going through a tough time love me!" therefore demanding gifts, huge amounts of attention, love
and support and disrespecting your boundaries in the process. "I'm unwell look after me!" you're
now at their beck and call and turn almost into a slave, as they lounge around with a blocked nose,
and milk the sympathy. "I'm broke give me money!" you feel sorry for them, so you give and you give and
you give, forcing you to put aside your important expenses and needs for a frivolous person. "Cook
clean and look after me always!" again this is just the demands, you may work full time, have so much on
your plate, and suddenly the user becomes like a child you have to look after, no matter what...
Abby was dating an enormous user for five long difficult years. "I lost attraction to him. I
mentally checked out the relationship. I used to dread coming home to him" she said after walking
away. This guy took pure advantage of Abby, he'd go out and do whatever he wanted, when he wanted,
he was a slob around the house, he never cleaned or tidied up, he asked for money to spend only on
himself, he never considered or appreciated her, and on top of all that and more he regularly
cheated on her. There was no respect, no love, no consideration, just taking from his side...
and taking from a good natured kind empathetic woman in Abby. They are takers these people and if
you're not careful they'll take many years of your life away, because they are overly reliant on you...
You become their doctor, their therapist, their cleaner you name it, and it's just SO draining...
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Selfish decisions! The user will make decisions often without consulting their partner and I'm
not talking about what to eat for dinner or what movie to watch, we are talking about huge
life decisions, massive ones! James was dating a selfish user who took pure advantage of his
indecisiveness... he came home from work one day to see everything he owned in boxes and suitcases....
whilst living with his girlfriend, and they were in the UK at the time. "What's going on?"
he asked. "Well" said his girlfriend" I'm miserable living here but I had the time of my life when
I was a student living abroad, so I've made the decision we're going to move to France together!"
Stunned and shocked James asked what he was going to do about work, but his partner completely
dismissed his feelings, "we'll figure it out! Relax!" she rudely insisted. So they moved to France... then
shortly after they moved to Spain... then for a brief period of time they lived in Dubai...then to
Bali... with no career progression, no great memories, nothing... just hopping place to place, with no plan...
Then one day she packed bags for herself and said "I'm leaving you" and left James in a foreign
country completely on his own, with at the time no job, certainly no friends, and no family, absolutely
nothing. She just wanted to travel and do what she wanted, and when she got exactly what she needed
she was gone and never needed or spoke to James ever again. This can happen even financially
taking advantage of savings and splurging it on something impulsive like a new car, a holiday or
some jewelry... it's incredibly disrespectful and sadly this is what a user will do to you...
and those around you as well even! They will make selfish decisions on such impulsive stupid things!
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The user is so nasty when it comes to their deluded, immature, naive, expectations of people
which are unrealistic! Gary dated a user.. she was a narcissist, so rude and toxic... she believed because
she was pretty she could act and behave however she wanted... which was often rudely. She expected
Gary to always give up his free time to spend it with her no matter what he was doing,
he'd have to drop everything to look after her... she expected him to always answer her calls or
texts immediately, and the worst was when Gary was in an important meeting at work and had to rush
out to reply to trivial texts! She expected him to meet all her emotional needs, with her having
to never explain or be vulnerable... he turned into a therapist for the world's worst patient, something
he was certainly not qualified to handle. She expected him to comply with her every wish no
matter how unreasonable... he had to do whatever she wanted, no matter how ridiculous or embarrassing it
was! And she expected Gary to read her mind and understand how she was feeling without telling
him directly the truth, and reading minds is not a feasible thing for anyone to do... especially Gary!
When he finally had the last bit of his life and soul sucked out of him... Gary was drained,
financially spent, emotionally burnt out and miserable. "This isn't working out" said the
narcissist, as she moved on rapidly to another poor guy to repeat the process all over again!
"I just can't win" said a depressed Gary. You can't win, you cannot reason with such people, you cannot
ever please such people... you will never win... you will never be good enough for the wrong person...
and in this context the wrong person for you or for most people is a USER!
They will literally suck the life out of you with crazy expectations!
A user will refuse to take responsibility for their own behavior or actions, as if
their partner should be grateful for what they do. They are classic deflectors, deflecting it
all on you... it's all on you... it's never them... you are the problem... you are always the issue... you
are the difficult one... they will lie and say things like" I've got a plan" but they have no
plan at all. "Truthfully I have a system" when they operate in a mess and chaos... they have no system
"You never told me to do it" when you come home to a pigsty, that they should have cleaned up!
you shouldn't have to say this! "I did nothing wrong" yes they did. "You're always nagging at me" because
they never take responsibility. "You're so annoying" no they're annoying. "Oh my God, chill out will you!"
they do not like what you're telling them. Why would a selfish, entitled, toxic and difficult user
ever take responsibility for their own actions, when it's easier to blame you, the government,
society, the system etc? There you go... that should hopefully really open your eyes to the reality
of the situation, unfortunately when you are in the deep mires of a relationship with a user!