Hey, Tripp Kramer here from
www.trippadvice.com. I know that a lot of
guys have situations where they're
dating girls or they're in relationships
and things don't go as planned.
Maybe they mess something up. Of course,
there's a million variations of how you
might have messed up with a girl, but
you did, and now you want her back. I get this question all the time on
my Facebook Live that I do every single
week Right now, I'm doing them every
single Tuesday. If you want to join
and ask me a question, you can check that
out. I'm gonna put a link below in the
description so you can join me where I
am live and answer questions. Now with
this question that I get all the time, I
finally wanted to make a video and
explain to you what you could do to get
a girl back. But more importantly figure
out why you want to get her back. Because
that's the real question. It's not about
how to get her back per se because
before you even get into that, it's about
why. Why is this someone that you are so
desperate to get back after you messed
up? Because the whole idea here is you
have no guarantee and there's nothing
that I can say to you that will
guarantee that you can get her back. Yes,
there are best practices, we'll go over a
few of those on this video. But there is
no guarantee, so what you really need to
have is the mindset that you might not
get her back and be able to deal with
that and those emotions that come along
with it. Think about that, now let's go
into the why.
Why do you want her back? You
probably want her back because you love
her and you're attracted to her and you
like her and and there's no other girl
in the world like her. But that's where
I'm going to stop you. That's where you
lack what I call "abundance mentality".
Sure it's difficult to find someone you
connect with and who you might be in
love with. Yes, that is a very rare thing.
I'm not saying that that happens easily,
but what I am telling you is that there
is an abundance of women out there and
it's possible for you to have an amazing
relationship or dating relationship or
sexual relationship with
another girl who is not the girl that
you're with. Plus, it's going to be probably
a long upwards battle of being able to
gain her trust back and get her to
forgive you so even though you screwed
up, do you really want to go after that?
Do you really want to work that hard and
have this stigma on the relationship as
you're trying to fix it? Or is it best
that you guys go your separate ways
because maybe it wasn't meant to be in
the first place and maybe you can start
fresh and learn from your mistakes with
a new woman? One thing here is the idea
of actions speak louder than words.
When the guy messes up or even a girl
messes up and you guys are dating or in
a relationship there is only so
much you can say to get their trust back
or to get them to forgive you for what
you've done. You can say everything in
the book and it will help maybe to a
degree, but it won't guarantee anything
because actions speak louder than words.
Maybe you can think about the fact
that when you messed up and whatever it
is you did, is there something you can do
that can show her or prove to her that
this is not something you will do again?
Or something that you can fix by doing something? I know this
sounds extremely vague, but I don't know
how you messed up. It's up to you to figure out what is it that you
can do look? What's tangible something
you can take action on and show her that
you can be better depending on whatever
you did instead of just saying words to
her like "I'm sorry". We're going over
the why. That's something you want to think
about. It's something you really want to
do to get her back. We talked about the
idea of actions speaking louder than
words. What is it that you can do instead
of say to her to show her that you won't
mess up again? And then there's another
idea, there's another idea here that you
can play with. It's the idea of completely leaving it alone,
letting dust settle for a while, going
away from her and building more
of your life and figuring out other
things in your life that would be good
for you in terms of maybe not making
some of those past mistakes that you
made with her.
Or figuring out how to achieve abundance
mentality by understanding and learning
that she's not the only girl and
sometimes that takes separation. What
I'm saying here is maybe separating
yourself from her for a while.
Get her to miss you a little bit. Have you guys go into your
own space and think about what happened and
then maybe it's two weeks, maybe it's a
month, maybe it's even three months later
that you guys can come back
together and you can be under this new
light. A magical thing happens
when you spend time away from someone.
You start to miss them and what
happens is you start to forget
about some of those bad things and it's
almost like when you guys come back
together,
you're almost starting from scratch. It
almost feels fresh so things are a
little bit less dramatic than they were
when you guys were having some of those
issues. Is there a way that you can separate, you go build your life,
work on yourself, watch more of these
videos to learn more about how to
achieve abundance mentality and then
come back together and see if you guys
can start anew and fresh? If you're
watching this video and there is
something that you made a mistake, I want
to hear it. Let's hear all the mistakes
you guys were making. What did you mess
up? What happened in the relationship?
Let's get vulnerable. Write down in the
comments below what you screwed up and
let's see if we can help you fix it.
And like I said, every single week I do
a Facebook Live, I call it Office
Hours, Tripp Advice Office Hours Live and
that's on my Facebook page. To get
updates on that go to www.facebook.com/
trippadvice. I'll put that in the
description below and then you can like
the page and get the updates, like I said,
on when we're going live. Go do that,
write a comment down below, see you on
the next video.