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basis recently had a conversation with
Steve Andreas if you're not aware of who
Steve Andreas is you guys have some homework
to do. He and his wife Connirae Andreas
have written some of the best books on
NLP I recently asked Steve about a video
that I've seen about scientists there
was a scientist who was trying to debunk
NLP i basically saying that the eye accessing
cues have never been proven therefore
NLP is a pseudoscience. Steve has a
science background and he's very
procedural and he likes proof
so I thought this would be a good
question to ask him to see what his
experience was with NLP eye accessing cues
because my experience is that they're
not as consistent as what they're taught
in NLP I sometimes will ask somebody to
visualize something and it looked down
or ask them to get in touch with the
feeling and they look up
so what is this about why it is not
working like the patterns that are
taught you would see basically told me
is that there could be a lot of issues
going on there for one if a person is
fully associated into a memory they
might be seeing they might be seeing it
as instead are driving a car and they're
actually in the memory as if they're
driving car while they might look down
on the steering wheel or they might look
down at the road so they're visualizing
but they're looking down but they're
looking down because they're in the
scene rather than remembering a movie of
them driving we're seeing himself in the
driver's seat
also if somebody's asked to construct a
fire-breathing purple elephant and they
look up to the right to construct that
and then later you ask them to do again
the fire-breathing purple elephant they
look to the left because now this is a
remembered image it's no longer created
them because they've already seen it
another thing can happen where if you
ask somebody to think about remember a
traffic light or if they didn't know the
traffic light looks like so you're
thinking they're going to look up into
the left but they look into the right
instead
that could be because they know traffic
light looks like but instead of
referring to one they've already seen
before they might actually constructed
which means it will look up into the
right you're also going to be situations
like you ask somebody to access a
feeling and they look up this could be
because they need to see a picture of
first to reference it in order them to
feel it so why even learn I accessing
shoes if they're not always consistent
you may have been frustrated by
practicing this with someone and their
movements are not following the patterns
and you're wondering why it is if you're
practicing with someone who knows what
you're doing you can then ask them if
you ask them to construct something
visually they look in a different
direction just have some what they were
doing and for any of the directions that
they look at and you'll get a much
better understanding it'll be a fun
experience and you'll get a much better
understanding of what's happening inside
them so that when you're doing it with
people who don't know what you're doing
you have a better understanding of what
the possibilities are one of the most
important things about watching I access
accuse his report but before I get into
that think about accessing cues as the
individual language of that person that
the I accessing choose our formal
communication anthropologist and
linguists have linked languages two ways
of thinking
so when you learn a different language
you actually learn to think in a
different
like people who speak different
languages all different sensibilities
that are affected by language it's easy
to think of language or culture as
affecting the language rather than
language affecting culture but it's not
really causing an effect thing it's more
a relationship between the two they
influence each other so when you're
looking at is an excuse and you're
watching this person's eyes move in
different directions as thinking you're
actually watching a form of
communication their own individual
language and if you watch this long
enough just like a language you start to
pick it up you start to understand you
might not even know why you understand
when you start to understand what that
person to communicate i was in an
insurance sells a pleasant one time and
I noticed the client not a lot of
attempting to sell insurance policy to
kept looking down to his left and down
to his right and you can get going back
and forth and what I noticed about that
is he was talking to himself he would
say something to himself and then check
in how he felt about that so i started
doing that I started looking down my
left down to my right and actually
imitating what he was doing was modeling
so I speak to myself and check in with
how I felt about that the reports
started to build right away and that's
another great thing about noticing
accessing cues because if you come out
from a place of being curious about this
person's experience the reality their
world they will feel that that's a deep
attention that you're giving them that
they will feel and you will go into
report with that person after i did this
for a while in the game report then I
started to lead him by saying you might
be saying to yourself this and you might
be feeling this and never go back and
forth so I was following his pattern
needless to say i didn't get the cell of
course we don't know if it was because I
was modeling and I was doing
noticing his eye accessing cues and feeding
it back to him but it certainly helped
for sure and building rapport and Trust
with them when you practice eye accessing
cures don't try to figure it out don't
try to figure
person out and just notice what you
notice notice how their words are our
matching are not matching up with we're
looking at each cue just watch just absorb
information with genuine curiosity funny
thing will start to happen you will
start to sort of understand that person
better and it is really interesting
because a lot of times you don't really
know why you just like you're you're
picking up their language you're picking
up this communication and you will start
to understand a person better that way
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