we want solutions right now and part of what that means is that we want to feel happy
all the time and that's problematic wellness workers because we have real life happening
life's too short for problems that that's an attitude that I get from a lot of people
and even though there's issues happening at work whether it's not getting along with people at work
feeling overwhelmed by work feeling stuck at work there might be issues happening in relationships
where they have an argument with someone like so their spouse for example and just try to pretend
like this problem isn't happening like it's not really there ignoring things with friends ignoring
and the other interesting thing I see is that people will shy away from doing fun activities
even things like going shopping with friends because if I go shopping with friends then
I have to try on things and show it to my friends and I don't like the way I look and
so we feel like if there's no room in our life for problems so we avoid
all situations whether it's avoid them by talk like not talking about them or avoid the situation
altogether I just don't go shopping with friends anymore we don't engage we focus on entertainment
so this one you know we we can have video games Netflix YouTube audiobooks like we
have so many ways to be television is still a thing we have so many ways to be entertained
we have so many ways to not pay attention to the real issues that are happening in our life
that just pull us away from dealing with our reality we we scroll on our phones constantly
and we don't pay attention to the world around us because this is much more interesting right
and of course we can't forget the elf the very famous I don't feel good I eat
something I don't feel good I drink something these things are not actually helping us
to solve the situations happening in our life as a matter of fact what they're doing
is creating the story where we end up unhappy we end up confused about why we're unhappy because
distractions are not solutions and we're really good at this we're really good at
just letting things be there and look but we're not actually ever fixing the thing in our life
that we need to fix so let's look at this a bit more closely when you really stop and think about
like 20 30 or 40 years from now is what you're going to be so super proud of going to be that
i ate a hamburger or
I watched the television series for most of us the answer to that question is no for most of us
what we really want is to have had impact on our world so that might be having raised
some really nice polite young people that are out there in the world it might be that we want to
have good quality relationship with our spouse so not not just yeah I'm still married but really
that I had this amazing relationship and we were together and we were happy and it felt
I feel like a lot of we want to feel like if the hobbies that we took part in brought joy to our
life and like like being able to talk about the fact that we played instruments or created um
art or built things like that's exciting for us to talk about most of us are not looking
back on our life saying yeah that time that I was scrolling on my phone that was so amazing
so we end up confused about why we're not happy because we do all these things that
we think are going to make us happy but they're not happy they're distractions
and the reason that we're distracting ourselves is because there's real world problems happening
in front of us real world situations that actually need to be addressed and we're not addressing them
and if we don't actually address themselves take the time to look and say okay
why am I not going with my girlfriend shopping
we realized that okay maybe I'm uncomfortable okay why am I uncomfortable
and do I want to stay uncomfortable in in order to actually solve whatever problem
it is whether it's I'm uncomfortable in my body or it's my spouse and I had an argument
I still have to look at the argument I still need to address the issue I have to talk about it
if I'm actually going to solve this situation so in order to really have a happy
fun fulfilling engaging life we need to engage and with the problems as well as the good stuff
we need to be willing to engage the problems and solve the problems so that the problems
are no longer there because when the problems are no longer there then the other things we're doing
actually feel good it's important for us to understand that every time that one of these
issues comes up whether it's in our social world whether it's in our work world whether it's in our
inter family world or whether it's purely loneliness and boredom that's making me feel
unhappy every time a real world situation comes up that's causing me to feel unhappy
if I don't take the time to solve that real world situation if violet doesn't have any friends
every time the weekend comes around I'm going to struggle with managing the weekend because I don't
work on the weekend right so now all of a sudden I'm by myself and if I don't actually answer
to that then I'm going to end up in trouble the answer is actually solving the real world problems
I want to jump into the questions right now I hope we have some questions I do
see that we have a few people here pam good good morning and tammy hello I'm glad to see you here
um wellness warriors I'm always so happy that you guys come back everybody who's new ring the bell
so that you can get on the road to health I love making these videos for you guys i can't
wait to talk to you guys again next Monday for another Mind Blowing Monday have a great day guys