hey what's going on YouTube this is just certified life and relationship
coach coach Court in this today's video I want to talk to you about whether your ex
is a dismissive avoidant or just not that into you thank you for sticking around if this is
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www.jfn.co.jp/toho man and 500 words as it gets really difficult to respond to long emails I've
been seeing over the past couple weeks people getting frustrated about whether or not the
person is a dismiss of a boiler that just not that into them there is where the real coaching
comes into play is to get on the call and help my class understand whether or not their person
that they want to get back is the dismissive avoidant there are fundamental differences
between a person who has a dismissive avoidant attachment style or if she's just not that into
you or he it's just not that into you a person has a dismissive avoidant they attached to you
at some point in your relationship at some point you guys worry an item you were a couple you got
into an actual relationship a person that's just not that into you somebody that you you
know hooked up with maybe had a night one-night stand or I had a couple weeks of bliss with their
somebody that they're just after a while you know they had their fun they're just not that
into you anymore they're they don't consider you somebody who to be a long-term spouse or
be in a committed relationship with but this miss avoidant wants the relationship they want
to be with you they just have a hard time getting that close to you so they will at some point you
know tell you that they loved you they were able to take things deeper than somebody who was just
a hookup or just a fling the problem with the human brain though is it wants to make sense of
things it wants to put a label or a title on to something to make ourselves feel good sometimes
we tend to ignore reality for what it is and if a person just isn't that into you it's hard for
our ego and our pride to take so we want to put some kind of label on it well maybe this person
is a dismissive maybe they just aren't able to love me the way that I love them and it could
be you know maybe the person just doesn't want to be with you if a person tells you something
like don't text me anymore give me my space I don't really like you like that that's a good
sign that they just they don't want to be with you they don't like you like that I mean they
they may have been going through something and was temporarily vulnerable enough to
entertain you like but if they're telling you like I don't want to hurt your feelings
what we did was a mistake meeting you was a mistake I mean they could say some pretty harsh
things to get you out of their lives and if you are gonna stick around and take that then that's
totally up to you you know a dismissive avoidant is a person who has attached to you who was in a
relationship with you who loved you not somebody who was just in your life or just for the season
or for this week one of my favorite quotes from tick non-han says we don't suffer from
past and future because they don't exist what we do suffer from is memories and imagination
that's a powerful quote and if you can actually take that that quote to heat and apply it to your
life you won't suffer from a person exiting your life and you also won't suffer from the
anxiety about where the relationship is going so when you're trying to decipher between whether a
person is a dismissive or if they're just not that into you back off because if you don't
they're going to think that you're a stalker think you're a psycho and they may even file
some type of restraining order against you so if we find this video of any value please like
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