Hey YouTube, I’m Brad Browning… if you’re new to my channel, welcome!
And congratulations, you’ve found the #1 resource for breakup advice videos.
For over a decade, I’ve helped people like you un-do their breakups.
In fact, at this point, I’ve helped over 100,000 clients from 131 countries to get
back together with their ex and start a new, lasting relationship.
Now, this video is going to be about meeting up with your ex… when to suggest an in-person
meet up, how to go about setting one up, and how to act when you do get together with your
ex in person.
This is something you want to get right if you’re trying to win back an ex, because
trying to set up an in-person meet-up too soon can backfire badly and hurt your chances
of success.
So, this video will help you avoid that kind of mistake, and make sure any meetings with
your ex go smoothly and help you to get them back into your arms for good.
Before I begin, though, I realize that a few of you watching may have ended up here by
accident.
Perhaps, when you stumbled upon this video, you were actually looking for videos of cats
standing up and walking around on 2 legs.
I never like to disappoint any of my viewers, so…
OK, great.
Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s talk about when you should meet up
with your ex if you want him or her back.
First, be aware that my Ex Factor program, which is a comprehensive guide covering the
full process of winning back your ex, is designed around what I call the 3R system -- Recovery,
Rekindling, and Reattraction.
The third phase, Re-attraction, is where you set up one or more in-person meet-ups with
your ex to flirt, re-build a sexual and emotional connection, and show him or her how awesome
you are and what a mistake it was to break up.
But before you pick up your phone and start texting your ex to ask if they’ll meet you
for a drink later….
Stop.
Please don’t meet with your ex until you’ve completed the first two phases -- Recovery
and Rekindling.
These first two steps are necessary to set the stage for your in-person meet-up and will
make sure your ex says “yes” when you bring up the idea of hanging out.
You must -- let me stress that again -- you MUST -- complete these first phases before
you think about seeing your ex in person.
At the very least, you need to re-set your ex’s perception of you by helping him or
her to forget about the bad parts of your relationship and focus on the happy, nostalgic
ones.
You also need to make sure your ex is in what I call an “emotional neutral” state.
There’s a lot more in-depth information on these initial steps in the full video on
my website, BreakupBrad.com, so I recommend you check that out as soon as this video is
over.
Again, www.BreakupBrad.com is the URL, and you really need to make sure you’ve set
the stage right by using the tactics in that video before you set up a “date” with
your ex.
Let’s skip ahead in time here, and assume that you’ve completed the necessary initial
steps.
For most people, this will happen about a month or so after you start using my 3R system….
At this point, you and your ex will have been exchanging texts more regularly, you’ll
be back on friendly terms, and your ex won’t be suspicious about your motives.
Now it’s time to arrange an in-person meeting.
Maybe you’ve already seen your ex at school or work, but those are different encounters….
this meeting I’m talking about now is different, because it’s an intentional 1-on-1 encounter
where you’ll be ready to make your ex laugh, share the latest gossip, reminisce about inside
jokes, and hopefully do some serious flirting.
ideally, you want to go for coffee or for a drink at a restaurant…
something along those lines.
YOu need to pick somewhere that will make your ex think that they’re not getting trapped
into a 3-hour ‘serious talk’... you want to pitch this meet-up as a casual, 20-minute
meeting to catch up and share some laughs.
Don’t call it a date or act like you care whether it actually happens or not… be cool,
and have a specific excuse for WHY you want to meet with your ex.
For example, don’t just say, “hey, how are you?
We should catch up,let’s go for coffee at that shop on Elm St next week”....
No.
Fail.
Instead, say something like, “Hey, I am finally planning that trip to New Zealand…
since you’ve been there recently, I’d love to pick your brain about where to go,
what to see, etc….
Can we meet for coffee next Tues or Weds after work?”
Now, you’re giving your ex a real reason to meet with you.
That will reduce his or her suspicions about your true motives… and then you’re in
the door.
Make sure you clearly indicate that this is going to be a fun, brief, and casual coffee
date.
If your ex says yes, great.
Done… and now you can start planning what you’ll say, how you’ll act, and prepare
yourself to make sure the meet-up goes well and gets your ex thinking about you in a romantic
light again.
If he or she says no when you suggest this meet-up, if they make an excuse, or if they
just flat-out ignore you… that sucks, but don’t get emotional about it or lash out.
And, most importantly, don’t show your ex any signs of disappointment….
Remember, you are just proposing this meet-up for fun and to catch up, nothing more… which
means that if it doesn’t pan out, you shouldn’t be too upset or try too hard to find an alternate
date or strategy.
In this case, your best move is usually to wait 1-2 weeks, exchanging only a few fun
texts or calls at most, and then try again with a new strategy once you feel things are
going well.
Don’t force it, be patient, and make sure your 2nd attempt at arranging an in-person
meeting is very different -- maybe you suggest grabbing dinner with some mutual friends this
time around instead of a 1-on-1 coffee date.
Now, a lot of people have trouble figuring out when the time is right to bring up the
idea of meeting in person….
And I get that, because it’s really important to get the timing right.
Try too soon, you may end up really hurting your chances.
Wait too long, and your ex might already be gone for good.
If you’re in this position and you can’t figure out if it’s safe to suggest an in-person
meet up with your ex, I’m happy to learn about your specific situation and offer guidance
to make sure you don’t make any mistakes… to work with me 1-on-1, please visit www.BreakupBrad.com/Coaching.
I may or may not have any coaching spots available right now, but you’ll be able to see my
availability on that page, BreakupBrad.com/coaching, plus more details on hiring me as your personal
breakup coach.
Now, finally, many of you may wonder how to act and what to do when you do meet your ex
in person.
Unfortunately that’s something I can’t cover in-depth in this video, but let me try
to summarize it in one sentence: make your ex laugh, bring up shared happy memories,
flirt flirt flirt, and show off your awesome and exciting new life….
Make sure your ex leaves thinking to themselves, “wow, did I make a mistake letting such
a fun, interesting person walk out of my life?!?”
I’ll go into more depth on this topic in a future video, or you can get all the tips
and strategies you could ever need to win back your ex by grabbing a copy of my best-selling
Ex Factor program….
Visit BreakupBrad.com today to register for your risk-free 60 day trial and get full access
to the program immediately.
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