Heya playa, did you recently move to a new city or a new state and leave behind all the
things that you know?
Your friends, your school and all the fun places you used to hang out at?
Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to share a few tips on how to deal with moving away.
How to let go of those things without losing them from your life and how to move forward
with this new environment you're in.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self now
the first thing you need to know about moving away is that in this new location it is going
to be possible for you to make new friends, find new places to hang out and to just get
used to it overall.
I know it may not feel that way in the beginning because it's weird and it's awkward and you
don't really know anyone but as time goes on you will get acclimated.
You'll get to know the people around you and you'll develop a deeper sense of who you are
in this environment.
Now that's a challenge a lot of us run into, the fact of the matter is this.
Our environment helps dictate a piece of our personality.
So when you take us out of one place and put us in another, we need to kind of reconfigure
and understand who we are and how we fit into that different picture.
For example, in one school environment, you might be super popular, have lots of friends,
be very talkative but in a completely different one, you might be shy and quiet and always
a loner.
Now if you are a new kid in a new school, definitely check out my video over here where
I go way more in-depth on how to be that new kid, how to break out of that discomfort and
how to make friends but making friends is really what I want to focus on here because
what you're doing when you move is letting go of your old ones.
Now this is an incredibly tough thing to deal with because on one end you're telling yourself
these are my friends, they're gonna be my friends forever but you know realistically
that once you move, you're not going to see them as much, you're probably not gonna talk
to them as much and that's going to be the end of it.
Now that doesn't necessarily mean that the friendship is over, it's just gonna be harder
to maintain because you're not gonna be around with them anymore.
You won't be around for the inside jokes or the special events or just sometimes being
around each other, enjoying each others company and hanging out.
Jeez Josh, when did you become Debbie Downer?
Now I'm not trying to say this to bring you down and make you feel bad.
But I think it's important for you to take a realistic look at what's going to happen
now that you've moved away.
And just because you moved away doesn't mean you have to lose connection with those people.
You can still talk to them online, you can still play games with them, you can still
make plans to meet up if you're close enough or if you're old enough to travel on your
own.
Now some people feel if they're moving to a new environment, they just want to rip the
band-aid off.
They would rather let go of everything from the past because trying to revisit it and
not having everything be the same is gonna hurt too much so is that a better strategy
and approach to this whole situation?
That is a tough one to decide.
I mean does that mean you should just never talk to your friends from camp or never talk
to your friends from middle school or high school or wherever you last saw them?
I personally think it's better to stay in touch with people, to have an open communication
with them so you can stay in each other lives at least a little bit from time to time.
Now one honest thing you have to realize when you do move away is that you are going to
change.
You're not gonna be on the same developmental path as you were on before and your friends
are going to go on their own as well so, whereas before you might have felt like you guys were
growing together, You might now grow in different directions.
For example, let's say you're going from a small school environment to a big school environment
in a completely different location from all of your friends, that different setting can
really impact your behavior.
Maybe being around more people gives you more options for people to date or it makes it
easier for you to be more social and make friends or you might just feel like you have
more opportunities there that you didn't have before.
Then when you try to come back with your friends, you see that there's a major difference there.
You guys aren't the same people that you used to be and it might be a lot harder for you
to reconnect now.
This happens a lot.
When people go off to college or university every campus carries it's own culture so,
just two people going to different colleges are going to have different perspectives on
life going forward.
So how do you make sense of the fact that you're moving away and you're probably never
going to see your friends again?
I think instead of worrying about what's to come, really focus on the here and the now.
Focus on being with them, hanging out with them, enjoying each others company that's
the most that you can do because you can't do much about the change that's about to happen.
You need to kind of embrace it, accept it and move forward with it.
But now I want to know, what do you think.
Have you ever had to move before or go somewhere different from all of your friends and you
were afraid that you were never going to see them again?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
On that note guys, thank you so much for watching.
If you enjoyed the video hit the thumbs up button and make sure to check out the playlist
over there on the side where I go way more in depth on dealing with loss of all different
kinds.
Losing a family member, losing a pet, just losing your sense of self, anything you're
dealing with relating to loss, that playlist is going to cover it.
On that note guys, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.